Completely Hypothetical Scenario...

...Humor me.

Let's say I have this Scorpio friend...and she has been dating this male Scorpio for a bit over a year now. And they live together. And my Scorp friend is practically best friends with this Cancer male who does not live in this country anymore...and this Cancer friend of hers, like 9 years ago she briefly dated him. But it ended, he moved away, blah blah blah.

So, the Cancer friend is coming to visit in the States, and my Scorpio friend isn't sure what to do because clearly her Scorpio S.O. is not a fan of the Cancer because technically the Cancer is an ex...and the male Scorp doesn't know that the Cancer suggested that he and my Scorpio friend...um....connect on a deeper level since there has always been an attraction there...

My Scorpio friend feels like the most important thing is honesty, but at the same time, she's still pretty young and doesn't want to miss out on the person who, after all, just might be the one for her...but she's not some cheating slut, either....aaaaagh!!!!!!!!! Clearly, she is very torn, and feels like she'll almost be damned either way.

Anyone have any advice? She uh, really really needs the help. 🙂

All scorpios are cheating sluts! 😄

Oooohhh, fighting words! 😛

I ain't complainin'.

Yeah, that's what I suspected. 🙂

lol, anyway...

Any thoughts on this situation which absolutely has nothing to do with me but is completely hypothetic and involves only mythological characters?

*hypothetical.

I stay out of things now.

..."ever since the beheadings..."? 🙂 Were you in things, and it didn't go well?

I just don't get involved in other peoples' stories. Plus i have to work a little bit, i'm still employed, eh eh.

Yeah me too, working...I only do it for the money. 🙂

Alright well, I usually don't get involved in other people's stuff either, so I certainly understand.

Oh ok. Honesty about what exactly?

Honesty just in general. Honesty about everything one could possibly be honest about without hurting someone.

I hate it...I pride myself on being as open/honest as possible in relationships, but somehow there's always some Cancer around to tempt me. (kidding, sort of 😛)

Seriously though...

If i lived with someone i love, i would like to know about things that would affect me.

Cancers are usually just that anyway, tempting.

STOP FEARING THE CRAB!!!! Give IIIIIN GIIIIVE IIIIIIN

I know, me too.

Sigh...

I'm just afraid that...if I go through with it with the Cancer, I will always hate myself...clearly I'll become single...he'll live really far away...but if I don't go through with it, how will I ever know what it could have been?

Thank you for not ignoring my thread, by the way 🙂

lol, we posted at the same time

are....you.....trying....to.....find....a.....way to end things.

just.......saying.......

Euh, your friend, i mean.

I am not trying to find a way to end things. No. I just don't want to miss out on something that could theoretically be amazing.

It's like this...if I didn't give in to the Cancer, I would stay, fairly happily, with the Scorp. But if I do give in to the crab, and it's amazing...well, shit, he'll still live a zillion miles away so maybe nothing could really take off anyway.

😢

I have always really liked the crab. Always.

And by "I", naturally I really mean "my friend" 🙂

Mr. Crabby, in the second picture in your profile, what chord is that, that you're playing? I'm just curious. I don't think I could ever play it, whatever it is, I'm pretty sure my hands aren't big enough!

It's not a chord, that was just a reach to go from one note to another, i guess it does look like a chord from this angle. I prefer to play lead/melody. You probably wouldn't like the 7-string if your hands aren't too big, also.

NO, I don't think I would. I have a lot of trouble with certain chords even on my regular um, six string. I guess the twelve string is a no-go too then, for me 🙂

You have the most intense stare I've ever seen. Just wanted to mention. 🙂

A 12-string neck is just like a 6-string neck, but there are tiny string next to the regular ones. A 7-string guitar has a wider neck because it has 7 separate strings. It's a cool and not so hard adjustment so far.

My stare makes people uncomfortable sometimes, but i don't look people in the eye very often, just people i know and like, otherwise i feel dirty. Thanks.

Man i hate people.

lol, yeah, I'm not a huge fan of people in general myself. I come here, of course, to avoid all this "connecting" out in the "real world". Don't like it out there as much. Far less free to opine. Much more pressure to smile and nod.

Thanks for clearing up the guitar confusion. I'm such the novice. (With the 12 string thing...I was thinking of a double-neck. Ha)

Your stare would make me uncomfortable except for the fact that it's too sexy for me to feel much of anything other than the desire to ... experience it for as long as possible. (lol, I'm really not trying to hit on you, I just wanted to mention that you have the best stare)

Dirty, ha. Well, it is a cool and dirty stare 😛

And a picture shows only so much!!!!!

Of course. That's, I'm sure, part of the fascination.

The best way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. That was what Oscar Wilde said and I agree with him (even if he did die of a venereal disease in prison!). If your - sorry your friend's - scorpio BF, would not tolerate the idea of you 3 hooking up together then you may well have to do it covertly. And whatever way your heart goes you should follow but try to tell the other parties involved quickly instead of leading them on down the garden path cos that'll piss them off BIG time.

Thanks, MellowDee. I like that quote; I'd never heard it before. I very well may have to do that. I just feel like I'd always wonder what could have been, if I don't do *something*. After all, it is my life and my path to explore. I just wish I didn't have to be sneaky.

PR,
Don't be silly, it's you admit it! Anyways, in reference to your situation, if you feel like you'll be missing out on something wonderful, then you aren't where you're supposed to be anyway. Sounds to me like you've been haboring feelings for said cancer for quite sometime. If you don't act on it, it won't go away. And if you were truly happy in the situation you're in with the scorp, then you wouldn't have a wondering eye. I've been in a similar situation, so I know how you feel. You won't be able to give your scorp 100% and that's not fair to him. Your hearts desire can't be elsewhere than your relationship, otherwise neither of you will be happy.

Take care and good luck!
Storm

You could not be more right Storm! Ugh, why can't relationships be simple. Why can't we take a pill or something that makes you only find your mate attractive, and only have feelings for them. lol.

Anyway...thank you for your comments.

I'm still thinking about everything.

Alright. Here's the update (a very brief one, it's all still too fresh to get into it too much)

...

I saw him, it was amazing, we talked for hours and kissed for a long time after deciding that since we're both otherwise involved, anything too crazy would be wrong and cause even more longing for each other and weirdness to the friendship etc.

It was amazing, though. I think I want him even more, now. 🙂 😢 🙂

Sigh...

Lol, passion, so wonderful.

It is. Wonderful and painful. I'm beginning to think there is no bliss without intense pain.

I wonder what things will be like between us now.

We discussed the silliness of calling each other "friends" when we both know what it's really all about. And of course we really had our first foray into crossing the line, officially...so it's not even a hypothetical anymore, clearly the desire is there, so it will be harder to pretend mere friendship is all there is. Hmmm, this could become really interesting. I just hope nothing's been ruined.

By the way, I've decided Cancer men are the best kissers in the entire Zodiac. I can't even describe how good it was. Wow... 🙂

Oooooooohhhhhhhh Phoenix, you got it baaaaaadddddddddd!!! 😉
There's nothing like making a connection with a crab, been there, done that *reminiscent sigh*......... No matter what happens with your situation, just remember this moment, and enjoy it to the fullest!

Good luck!!!
Storm

Completely agree with Storm,

Enjoy the moment! Cancer-Scorpio is the most intense, divine connection off ALL in the zodiac! So deep and emotionally churning, awwhhhhh (me reminiscing, too).Proven million times over (even when it doesn't last, the memory lingers). Good luck!

Haha, thanks you guys.

Yeah, I've most definitely got it bad. Really bad.

It's just...I can't help knowing that we would be so good together. It's just going to take a firm decision from both of us that we want to try it enough that one/both of us could make a huge decision like moving to another continent. And we're both frightened of such a big change-around. I mean, one of us would have to leave our lives and families. That's hard, especially for water signs. Ugh. But then when I think about it, it's not really *that* far away, in terms of a plane ride.

🙂 😢 🙂

He's being all tight-lipped right now...about everything. So I will give him space and time. And we will just see what happens.

I just do not believe that two people can share such a connection and let it slip away...it can't happen! (Meaning, I don't want that to happen!)

Thanks for chiming in, it's nice to not feel completely alone in the way I feel.