BK & Capricorn Woman

I had this thing with a capricorn woman not too long ago, it went on for many months and did not involve any form of sex. She basically needed support and I'm naturally supportive. I think some feelings developed on both sides, eventually. But she loves being treated like a princess and I just can't/(don't want to) do that any more. She's the type that expects me to bend the universe as a birthday gift to her, but she won't even remember mine. That sort of person.

Anyway, my birthday came up, she didn't remember, that pissed me off, I burnt all bridges and she didn't try to re-establish any contact for a very long time. I actually posted about it her under DeathBySnuSnu.

Anyway, she called me a couple of nights ago out of the blue, basically saying hi. And quickly the conversation started to look and sound like I'm supporting her through new shit that's coming her way. I don't mind being supportive, I do mind being used though. And I do have some feelings and even with her annoying silliness, I think she has some as well. Feels like it could develop to something very silly and annoying.

Not sure.

What say you ?

Her chart:

Sun Capricorn 18.47
Moon Capricorn 2.55
Mercury Capricorn 5.15
Venus Capricorn 16.20
Mars Scorpio 15.40
Jupiter Aquarius 20.05
Saturn Sagittarius 6.01
Uranus Sagittarius 19.59
Neptune Capricorn 3.55
Pluto Scorpio 7.05
Lilith Taurus 24.37
Asc node Taurus 6.13

History tends to repeat itself.. esp if one does not learn the inherent lesson the first time. *shrug*

I remember you!

Straight up tell her "It seems you only contact me when you need support. It comes off as if Im being used or something."


I have a Cap best friend that uses me for a listening ear and emotional support. It is what it is. Hes not aware. She may not be, but if it bothers you bring it to her attention so atleast shes aware, then cut her out if you feel its best for you.

Folks only make things complicated when they dont communicate.

Thanks for your advice, lnana.

I was looking into it more from an astrological perspective, considering I'm so watery and Capricorn dominates her chart. I'm don't understand all of this Cancer and Capricorns are opposites stuff. I personally have great chemistry with her and all of this stuff about opposites is freaking me out a little.

I agree with Inana, she may not be aware and to be very straight forward with her.
I have a co-worker who appreciates when people give it to her straight.
But she's very smart and knows her effect on people.

You do have a lot of Scorpio in your chart as well which is very compatible with Capricorn.
Cancer and Capricorn have a magnetic attraction too, although it can be uncomfortable.

Keep in mind that the inherent Capricorn key phrase: "I Use, therefore I am." It is said that many Capricorns totally, though often secretly, want to be in love but fear intimacy because it innately opposes Capricorn's essence: being totally and unequivocally stable, dependable, and in control. Love and intimacy involve surrendering certain aspects of one's life to another, to be vulnerable, and sometimes not totally in control. Our dearest Capricorns work so diligently and cautiously to attain status, success, and stability that it may be a real fear for them to enter a real relationship - and at the same time longing for something that will sweep them off their feet. It's the natural state of things. I'd say look to the Venus and Moon, and to your Venus and Moon. From what I've read, Venus in Capricorn is both cautious with her feelings so that she may stick with what is familiar, and needing of material existence; you might consider the fact that she might really like you. I would say be careful. You're posting in an astrology thread, so I'll assume you're willing to listen to astro-theory. I'd read up a bit (try: http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/venusincapricornmarsinscorpio.html to start) but most importantly: decide what you think and feel. If you feel used, *really* decide what you feel. If you like her enough, I agree you could politely talk to her about it. Yes, Cancer and Cap are axis opposites, but the saying "opposites attract" is timeless and often accurate. Think about it this way: Cancer is associated with the home and seeks stability and structure. Who's more stable than a Cap? Few to none. What does Cap bring to the table for Cancer? Less emotional response and more responsibility, though sometimes a little harsh. Cancer brings Cap the emotional warmth that she is so afraid to express herself but longs for in her life.

Thank you so much! limited!

That actually made a lot of sense. I think I understand her high maintenance-ness and the whole princess experience thing, come to think of it, all the girls that I know that love to be treated like princess have strong Capricorn placements.

I think I will just diplomatically communicate my concerns and give her something to think about, she certainly gave me something to think about.

Just a question about capricorns,

Is it that they want to use (people and resources) and thus reflect their position of power ?

or

They want to be used and thus reflecting their own usefulness and utility which in itself is a unique form of power ? (If i'm useful to you, then you need me.. and if you need me.. then i'm the one who's really in power.. that mentality)


Hope I made sense.

I think its more of the latter minus the power part. I love to feel needed and to feel valuable as if I add something, and I value those who offer something, who I in-turn may need. The only thing is, I dont look at any of this as a loss or gain of power. The word power is not something that cross my mind.

In control, out of control is along my line of thinking, and its about myself first. I want to control my emotions as much as possible. Losing control of my emotions is literally being lost, which is why love is put on the backburner for some. Power though....never think about it.

BK, my experience with capricornian women is that at their very best they are boring and at worst they are gold diggers. There are a myriad variety of users in between. Give it up and find a fun Libran or something.

Regarding your question about Capricorns, that I can't be certain of. But I can share my thoughts: Capricorns must be in service of something or someone to feel that their life is in order. Perhaps that is to their company, their family, their friends, or all of them at the same time. Capricorns feel empowered (Note my use of the word empowered vs. powerful) by being someone of that their friends, family, and potential business partners can turn towards. It's an understatement to say that Capricorns want to be successful; that is truly a need. I would say it's less about wanting to use someone or something and more about needing responsibility - needing respect and authority and all of the positives and negatives that accompany it (note again: responsibility). If you read a lot of astrology, you'll note that most things are dual in nature: planets, houses, signs, most things. Perhaps the Capricorn wants to be useFUL but they may or may not be conscious of their ability to use others. Some may be aware of that fact and still attempt to be abusive; if that is the case then to judge them for using you is warranted. But it's possible that a Capricorn asking for something from you is simply in their nature. Again, decide how you feel. From your last response to my post, I sensed some excitement about her. Obviously since you're asking about the situation you're interested in some form. Really decide what you want out of a relationship right now and if this is right for you. As for what incandescentcancer wrote: Caps may or may not be boring compared to say... an Aries, Scorpio, Sag, or Aquarius. But some of the finest people I've known in my life are Caps and what intrigues me about them is their scope of knowledge. Intellectually they are far from boring (in my experience). While she may not be the girl to go out clubbing twice a week with you, I'm guess your Cancerian nature isn't really one to do so either. Of course, I haven't seen your chart. Decide what you really feel and really want. Just don't deceive yourself. Hope everything works out for the best.