can u win back a cancers affecetion

ive been dealin wit a cancer off and on for about a year he thinks of it as two but we been sleepin wit each other for 1. we were/are best friends for about 3-4 years.
we workd wit each other and we just clickd. when we first began dealn wit each other i really wasnt interested in him. I had just gotten over a bad relationship and i viewed my cancer as just a friend. I look back on it now and he was really good to me has pretty much alwayz been good to me but me being a capricorn and spoiled i didnt pay him the attention he needed or wanted i was scared to get close to him.. i was pretty much a bitch. about 6 months after we were dealin he told me he had a girlfriend... so now i really shut him out... he said he told about her a long time ago... me yada yada yada. By that time i had already had feelns so i really couldnt let him go.
I thought i could handle just becathe girlfriend situation but i just became more mean more distant. because us cappys are pretty loyal and only have space for 1 in our hearts.

The ball dropped about a month ago...
we were finally on good terms we were lovey dovey the whole nine yards he calls me to hook up i tell him i cant. made up a BS excuse (the real reason my sons father was at my house n i had to go back home) i didnt want to tell him that. but i finally had to and we argued he told me he wanted me and had needs and i said to him its not my responsibility to satisfy ur needs.... silence came on the fone. i could tell he was hurt.. he never yells he never curses but he did that nite...

Since then hes not so nice, always critizes me , always has some negative or sarcastic comment hes not like how he use to be. I now realized that i do want to be with him but not really committed relatiionship wise but just as a open couple.(we talk to each other on the fone/textn atleast 3-4xS a day like usual he calls me alot and usually alwayz calls me back) but now its kinda corny... he doesnt ask to hang out nemore or come chill at my house. I think hes still nterested because he calls me all day. by the way he calls me all the time and keeps calln me even if i dont pick up i think he likes me.. or is he not interested anymore
I miss his charming romantic sweety sexual side...
How can u get ur cancer's feelings backkkkk

"To me, that just means that you want to fuck some other guy, but don't want to be labled as a cheater and a whore." LOL damn!

See right there you sleep with him which is the worst now because he only see you as a sex buddy never a girlfriend, I hope you learn from this you need to move on i don't see a relationship can forming this and even if its does he may mistake call you a "slut" or "whore" like bigteddybear said

Cancers' best retaliation trait is to mirror you... We usually use this to see where your head is when we meet you...
But when we KNOW you, we do what you would do to us... x10. I hope for your sake you're prepared to take whatever you've been dishing out to this guy. Most likely he's another Cancer man ruined. If he DOES go for the open relationship, you better watch your feeling's ass. Because he'll make you want him (and from the bull $ #!t I'm reading, he's got you wrapped around his finger, and YOU don't want to acknowledge it), and keep the relationship as open as you asked for it to be... to the degree of sarcasm. Then when you tell him you want to be exclusive... he'll drop YOU for being "too attached," and keep it moving.

OH!!! I forgot one other thing... whether he stays or goes... YOU'RE screwed.

BrokenShell has got a strong point. Not only is he right but I've seen this done before. And not to be harbinger of bad luck but I've also done this..Payback is a terrible bitch. Watch and protect yourself. It's Armageddon time..Sorry if it's harsh but it's true. Got to embrace yourself for what's to come.

-SMiLES

wow u guys were pretty hard on me, but real recognize real...
First off Like i said he had/has a girlfriend... I didnt no about her.. he told me that he mentoned her.. but thats BS cause he never mentioned her while we were messing with each other thats the reason i was so shady to him because i was afraid to get attached to him and get hurt.. Im a very loyal person and once i give my heart its a wrap...
Also mentally i was in a bad place just got over a bad relatiionship
second..We were friends for 2-3 years before we started sleepn wit each other. actually best friends.. we speak/spoke everday. and still do
Before I was in a place where i wanted a relationship with him, but now i see that he doesnt really want that anymore he wants to be best friends with benefits... I mean so honestly im torn . I just want him to be that sweet cancer again.. I mean he still calls me everyday and stuff but its so not like it use to be..He has such a bad perception of me relationship wise.. ugggggh i dont know how to show him the real me...

and qare u guys sayn theres no way to rectify this situation

Posted by cappychic

Before I was in a place where i wanted a relationship with him, but now i see that he doesnt really want that anymore he wants to be best friends with benefits... I mean so honestly im torn . I just want him to be that sweet cancer again.. I mean he still calls me everyday and stuff but its so not like it use to be..He has such a bad perception of me relationship wise.. ugggggh i dont know how to show him the real me...

Posted by broken_shell
If he DOES go for the open relationship, you better watch your feeling's ass. Because he'll make you want him (and from the bull $ #!t I'm reading, he's got you wrapped around his finger, and YOU don't want to acknowledge it), and keep the relationship as open as you asked for it to be... to the degree of sarcasm. Then when you tell him you want to be exclusive... he'll drop YOU for being "too attached," and keep it moving.

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...I think this wraps the post up. You can try to make it something its not, but you'd just be wasting your time and hurting yourself further. There will always be details to a situation that won't come out on a message board post... especially when you're hearing it from only one side. I'm sure you both made your own mistakes, but the best advice (from a neutral standpoint...) would be to just leave it (

First off Like i said he had/has a girlfriend... I didnt no about her.. he told me that he mentoned her..

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First off Like i said he had/has a girlfriend... I didnt no about her.. he told me that he mentoned her..



..... okay, being that I'm a cap myself, I can see how he fooled you into beliving there was something solid between you two when it actually was not.

I've experienced this before with an ex-cancer of mine and it hurt really bad because I was really into him. However, once I got over alot of stuff, I knew it was time to end it.

Like Starfish said, after reading all of this, the relationship started off on a bad side of the tracks already and it was only a matter of time before things went all the way down.