Cancer and Cancer

Hey fellow crabbys! Ever dated a cancer. I just met one this weekend and we had the most ammmmmmmaaaaaqzing time 2gether!

And the chemistry was inexplicable.....but what do you guys think?

As a Pisces guy who has dated two Pisces girls, I can assure you that it's fun stuff in the beginning, but later becomes unstable since we are trying to become the same person yet going in opposite directions at the same time!

I don't believe in dating the same sign, so take that as an opinion based on experience.

Thanks scuba fish....but that wasn't helpful.

I've been happily married to my co-Cancer for almost 5 years. We just "get" each other, have a lot of the same preferences, are usually on the same wavelength. We both have Cancer sun and rising, he has Taurus moon and I have Aries. Needless to say, I'm the most outgoing one of the two and I'm much more likely to be out and about, but we really help to balance each other out. It works perfectly because I think we just understand and accept each others flaws, and as fellow cancers I think that's easy to understand. So, in my opinion, thumbs up! But other factors do play a role as well.

good times to say the least. It could be a fleeting love affair or a lifetime of marital bliss. Either way ride the wave and take it as it comes.

Yeah its been pretty nice so far. I haven't been this excited about anyone EVER or rather in a long long long time! Even people I been with before. The butterflies and the kisses are amazing.

Like Luna said, there is this "I just get you" feeling. And the communication has been on point. No games or BS.

I just don't want to get ahead of myself.

The reason why I asked is because my ex sister in law was with my brother (who I abhor), they were both Cancers. And she got into a relationship after my brother and that guy was a Cancer too. But it didnt work out between them, so I was skeptical.

But WOW this chemistry with this current Cancer is AMMMMMMMAAAAzzzziiinnnnnggggg. So glad to have this feeling back again....

Posted by Scubafish
As a Pisces guy who has dated two Pisces girls, I can assure you that it's fun stuff in the beginning, but later becomes unstable since we are trying to become the same person yet going in opposite directions at the same time!

I don't believe in dating the same sign, so take that as an opinion based on experience.

i did date another virgo and we were so alike it was aweoms e... but because we were so alike its the reason we didnt last.
he was my best friend and tried to be friends after dating but too much chemestry and always turned into a disaster so we decided to loose contact with each other..

though both my in laws are both cancers .. he cheated .. they still loved each other but would never work. there was too much hurt. she passed away a few years ago and he's married now to a leo who i love to pieces as my cancer mom in law was like a second mother to me. so loving. now that im not with my scorp ex, she's very supportive and all for me going out and having fun being snigle (safely) =] i do wish my in laws could have lasted as i could see the way they were towards ech other and how much love they had for each other. but also all her hurt.

PS... though im sure it would have worked fine if he wasnt in the bad things he had been involved in at the time.
he's better now. but i think if both stay honest and with an open mind to understand each other it could work =]

Hey VirgoLadyyyyyyyyyy,

Ya, I totally understand about things being too odd when dating the same sign. My woman Treefrogger can also attest to this, in that it can become awkward and uninteresting to date the same sign.

I would honestly prefer to never date another Pisces again, as it is too much of a strange thing for me to put myself through.

I don't understand what you all mean by "uninteresting". I'd prefer to say that it's "comfortable". Why wouldn't you want to be with someone who totally understands all your neurotic behavior? lol. I definitely don't understand the awkward statement, or unexciting. Just because you are the same sun sign doesn't mean anything else in your chart is the same, everyone is different and can bring something new to the table. My husband and I teach each other a lot and we are very adventurous people, there's nothing boring about it. The biggest thing is that when it comes down to it we are completely in sync with the most important things in life.

I don't think of him as my brother, I think of him as my partner, and isn't that what so many people are seeking out there in the dating world? Would you rather have a ravenous sex life with someone who you have so many important differences with and it may not even last, or be with someone who is a true partner in every way. I'm not saying a sex life isn't important, but that initial infatuation you have at the beginning will soon fade. Life takes over, and when that happens you need someone who you don't have to constantly fight a battle with every day. When I'm 75 sitting on my front porch I don't think having a fabulous sex life is going to be on my mind, what I will be thinking about is all the wonderful times I had with my husband and how happy and compatible we are together. I hear so many people desperately looking for a man, but yet when the perfect compatible man is probably standing right in front of you they start chasing after the wrong guys and for the wrong reasons. And that applies to men too. Excitement and infatuation is great, but there has to be something to back it up or you're wasting your time.

Now I'll step off my pedestal 🙂

I agree, I just wanted to stress that "same sign" shouldn't be a reason to avoid anyone. I know plenty of other cancers that are much weirder or less weird than I am lol. I definitely agree there are some Cancer male friends that I know that I'd never date in a million years. If you find the right one, it can be great though!

I'm a gem female and I was previously in a long term relationship with a gemini man for about a year and a half. We got along great, could talk for hours and understood each other quite well but it was difficult keeping the spark alive. I agree with those who have said it eventually becomes something of a brotherly/sisterly love in the end. It just got boring. Not only was it TOO easy breezy, there was just...no mystery.

To this day we can still talk and be friends. Actually, it's funny, we ask each other for relationship advice for the current relationships we're in. It's great! I love that we can still be friends. Because there were no big communication problems or compatibility issues he still occationally will bring up us dating again but after we ponder it for a little while we both end up agreeing on definitely no. There is so much more in the world to experience!

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I don't think of him as my brother, I think of him as my partner, and isn't that what so many people are seeking out there in the dating world? Would you rather have a ravenous sex life with someone who you have so many important differences with and it may not even last, or be with someone who is a true partner in every way. I'm not saying a sex life isn't important, but that initial infatuation you have at the beginning will soon fade. Life takes over, and when that happens you need someone who you don't have to constantly fight a battle with every day. When I'm 75 sitting on my front porch I don't think having a fabulous sex life is going to be on my mind, what I will be thinking about is all the wonderful times I had with my husband and how happy and compatible we are together. I hear so many people desperately looking for a man, but yet when the perfect compatible man is probably standing right in front of you they start chasing after the wrong guys and for the wrong reasons. And that applies to men too. Excitement and infatuation is great, but there has to be something to back it up or you're wasting your time.

It has nothing to do with a fabulous sex life. It's funny that you say that...

I hear what ya'll are saying, but I guess I just don't understand why you don't want it to be easy lol. I don't want my marriage to be hard, easy breezy is a good thing. Adjusting to married life is hard in itself, sharing every part of yourself is a big life change. And as far as mystery goes, I don't want the person I share my entire life with to be mysterious...to me that's a bad thing. Mystery = uncertainty and I want to know the person I'm with. As far as the "sparks" I think, just like in any marriage, you have to keep the spark alive or it will die out. That goes for any relationship, whether same sign or different signs.

I'm beginning to wonder if I'm the only married girl on this forum, come on married people, where are you?! LOL 🙂

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Posted by PixieDust
The truth is, it doesn't matter what sign you are.

in the context of general life, it doesn't.. but this is an astrology forum and if didn't matter, we wouldn't have questions about cancer men (which is the most common theme on this forum).

like i said prior, there's only so much you can do when you're not astrologically compatible with someone.

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you are so diplomatic, treefrogger. 🙂

The Gems love to use this blanket statement, yet are obsessed with the Cancer man forum. This is the whole talking out two sides of the mouth thing...

All those feelings and dreams you fell in love with from your Cancer man Pixiedust... do you think you would get that from an Aqua? or a Leo? No... it's a water thing, so making stupid ass comments like that shows your head is STILL up your ass. Let him go... and MOVE ON already.

This message has been brought to you by my Aries Moon, and Pisces Rising...

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Posted by PixieDust
The truth is, it doesn't matter what sign you are.

in the context of general life, it doesn't.. but this is an astrology forum and if didn't matter, we wouldn't have questions about cancer men (which is the most common theme on this forum).

like i said prior, there's only so much you can do when you're not astrologically compatible with someone.

you are so diplomatic, treefrogger. 🙂

The Gems love to use this blanket statement, yet are obsessed with the Cancer man forum. This is the whole talking out two sides of the mouth thing...

All those feelings and dreams you fell in love with from your Cancer man Pixiedust... do you think you would get that from an Aqua? or a Leo? No... it's a water thing, so making stupid ass comments like that shows your head is STILL up your ass. Let him go... and MOVE ON already.

This message has been brought to you by my Aries Moon, and Pisces Rising...

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Hah...that's funny, my virgo friend said that's exactly how her libra man makes her feel. And My cap friend, has talked wonders such as this about her aqua boyfriend, so get off your high horse, shellshocker.

Why do I use this "blanket statement"? Because I've seen it work in real life. People can ask for all the advice they want on here but in the big scheme of things, what is meant to be will be. So stop attacking and getting overly defensive, there's seriously no need. If you hate what I write so much, why do you concern yourself with it so?

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Posted by justSophs
Hey fellow crabbys! Ever dated a cancer. I just met one this weekend and we had the most ammmmmmmaaaaaqzing time 2gether!

And the chemistry was inexplicable.....but what do you guys think?

it could work... like any relationship so yeah - give updates on what happens! 😄

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And treefrogger just used this blanket statement as well. So now what's your point?

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Posted by justSophs
Hey fellow crabbys! Ever dated a cancer. I just met one this weekend and we had the most ammmmmmmaaaaaqzing time 2gether!

And the chemistry was inexplicable.....but what do you guys think?

it could work... like any relationship so yeah - give updates on what happens! 😄

And treefrogger just used this blanket statement as well. So now what's your point?

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My point is.. you're an idiot. And ya, I'm tired of your ramblings so I'll just block you...

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Posted by justSophs
Hey fellow crabbys! Ever dated a cancer. I just met one this weekend and we had the most ammmmmmmaaaaaqzing time 2gether!

And the chemistry was inexplicable.....but what do you guys think?

there was a time i saw some fellow crabs to be appetizing (no pun intended), but after awhile i would start to feel more of a familial/brotherly love and less romantic.

a cancer/cancer match is dependent on compatible moon signs because of how similar both can be.

it could work... like any relationship so yeah - give updates on what happens! 😄

I know exactly what you mean Treefrogger with the familial/ brotherly love thing. Plus, I totally agree on the moon signs playing a more important role when the sun signs are the same too. Your post is like a slice of my mind. 🙂

aww! 😄

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Snap snap——?

Well its been maybe a week now, and we've been together everyday since we met.....there are so many similarities and i am on the same page as Luna.....there is a freedom in knowing that the person is on the same wave length as you. I rather fall for someone that I can understand, than rather all the crap I been through with other signs.

I don't want a Crazy in Love type relationship.....I've been there...I don't want to fall for the funny tall charmer popular boy, you never know what you are getting. In real life, the sparks go away, bills have to be paid, work has to get done.

So I feel you Lunalady......but I am not gonna get ahead of myself, 1 day at a time.

I have been through many relationships with all signs including another Cancer male. The chemistry is there, I been trying to hold off on the sex thing I dont want it so soon.

I read that with Cancer and Cancer relationships, we can get caught up with each other that we forget there is an outside world and thats whats been happening.

So I am finally back at my place and I am taking a break getting back to reality. And the show goes on.............

Posted by shellshocker

My point is.. you're an idiot. And ya, I'm tired of your ramblings so I'll just block you...

Then just do it already... and please, stop whining like a little biiiitch.

Wow, some high intensity shell games going on in here today.

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Posted by PixieDust
I'm a gem female and I was previously in a long term relationship with a gemini man for about a year and a half. We got along great, could talk for hours and understood each other quite well but it was difficult keeping the spark alive. I agree with those who have said it eventually becomes something of a brotherly/sisterly love in the end. It just got boring. Not only was it TOO easy breezy, there was just...no mystery.

'No mystery' is what I'd call a Gemini. What I'd call 'any' sign for the matter; reading ppl just comes easily to me.

The male of my sign isn't a mystery, just a lot of trouble, LOL! Nor do I think Cancer females would be a great mystery to Cancer males either. You should pick up Garth Nix's Old Kingdom series. Author's a Cancer guy and his protagonists think as Cancer females do. Odd that anyone could be walking around our heads.

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I'm terrible at reading people because I'm always doubting my intuition. But I find when I actually do follow it, it's pretty spot on.

My crab told me once I was hard to read and also difficult to understand. I thought that was an interesting statement lol...considering I talk my ass off. HAHA!

I haven't really come across that many Cancer females in my life for some reason. But generally the (few) Cancer males I do know, we have very strong friendships, and we understand each other more than anything. I don't come across that many Water or Earth signs in my life for some reason.