I'm a 35yo Cancer female (July 2) and about five weeks ago, I somewhat randomly met a 34yo Cancer male (July 19) on an app on iPhone. We started chatting, and hit it off and now we're at the point where we talk ALL DAY every day -- by phone, text, email and Face Time (iPhone/iPod). (I'm in a self-employed situation, and he's a pharmaceutical rep -- so we talk while I'm doing my thing and he's driving to and from clients...but also after work -- from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed, to be honest.)
He's been divorced for a year and has a small child he's very involved with -- and he lives three hours away (I know, that's really nothing in the grand scheme of things if he were to end up as "the one") We've not met in person yet, because my car is having issues and his schedule with work and his son has been crazy. But we're planning to in the next couple of weeks.
We are SO comfortable with each other that it's almost scary. It was one of those instant connections, and it feels like we've known each other forever. We talk about everything -- our childhood, or families, our friends, sex, work, fun. (I know everything about him -- even his siblings middle names!)
We immediately knew there was something there, but after the first couple of weeks I suggested we just stay friends for now because of the distance, time limitations, etc. But that lasted about two days before we both admitted that the "just friends" thing wasn't what either of us wanted. So we want to try dating, based on how things go with our first in-person meeting (but if Face Time is any indicator, we're gonna be juuuuust fine). We both know that this is something that could be serious.
(Btw, I laughed when I read somewhere that Cancer men enjoy pushing the buttons of women they're into. My Cancer guy does that ALL the time...and I always joke that he acts like the little boy in the schoolyard who pushes down the little girl because he likes her.)
Anyway, just curious about how to proceed. I've never dated a fellow Cancer before. My most significant LTR was with a Libra (baaaaaad match). Thanks!
If possible, could you post your natal charts? What are your moons, mercuries, venuses, mars', risings and (if you could get a reading with an exact birth time), what your 7th house placements are? I'm wondering because I find it very interesting and him being a Cancer/Leo cusp could be massively compatible with the rest of your chart 🙂
I've never dated a Cancer before either! Always wanted to, haha. Particularly a Cancer/Leo cusp. You lucky girl!
I'll try to get that info, because I don't have it right now. 😢 I know my birth time and exact location, but don't know his. Boo! Excited to hear we could be very compatible, though! (I certainly think we are...LOL.)
Agreed, MoonMan -- we definitely have our challenges ahead. Which is why I'm playing this carefully, and continuing to date other guys (unless he and I choose to get serious) so that I don't get so wrapped up in him, emotionally, that I'm heartbroken if it doesn't work.
Curious: You believe it's the female Cancer who will end the Cancer/Cancer relationship?
Oh, I am -- more so every day. But I'm trying hard to keep at least SOME emotional distance as a precaution. Not easy, though.
iwin32, thanks for this. I'm going to show him. Ever since I started talking to him about the traits of Cancers (he's very classic), he's developed an interest in reading about it.
I have never experienced such magnetic chemistry, extreme passion and devastating pain with any other partner. It is beautiful the way two crabs will cautiously dance together and then when the moment it right will cling so tight to each other. I don't know if it is bad or good, but I can attest to the intensity. I believe a lot of physical comfort is derived from the sun sign, a lot of chemistry is derived from the moon sign and long term love is the Venus. Take a look and see what mix has come about. Good luck 😉
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I'm a 35yo Cancer female (July 2) and about five weeks ago, I somewhat randomly met a 34yo Cancer male (July 19) on an app on iPhone. We started chatting, and hit it off and now we're at the point where we talk ALL DAY every day -- by phone, text, email and Face Time (iPhone/iPod). (I'm in a self-employed situation, and he's a pharmaceutical rep -- so we talk while I'm doing my thing and he's driving to and from clients...but also after work -- from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed, to be honest.)
He's been divorced for a year and has a small child he's very involved with -- and he lives three hours away (I know, that's really nothing in the grand scheme of things if he were to end up as "the one") We've not met in person yet, because my car is having issues and his schedule with work and his son has been crazy. But we're planning to in the next couple of weeks.
We are SO comfortable with each other that it's almost scary. It was one of those instant connections, and it feels like we've known each other forever. We talk about everything -- our childhood, or families, our friends, sex, work, fun. (I know everything about him -- even his siblings middle names!)
We immediately knew there was something there, but after the first couple of weeks I suggested we just stay friends for now because of the distance, time limitations, etc. But that lasted about two days before we both admitted that the "just friends" thing wasn't what either of us wanted. So we want to try dating, based on how things go with our first in-person meeting (but if Face Time is any indicator, we're gonna be juuuuust fine). We both know that this is something that could be serious.
(Btw, I laughed when I read somewhere that Cancer men enjoy pushing the buttons of women they're into. My Cancer guy does that ALL the time...and I always joke that he acts like the little boy in the schoolyard who pushes down the little girl because he likes her.)
Anyway, just curious about how to proceed. I've never dated a fellow Cancer before. My most significant LTR was with a Libra (baaaaaad match). Thanks!