Cancer Guy- Help

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woodenmeow
@woodenmeow
12 Years

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First off I have never dated a cancer, so this is all new to me.
We have been dating only a few weeks (3-4) and I do like him, but some of his behavior is slightly strange to me.
The first 2 weeks he was contacting me everyday and he is still in contact. I have reached out to him as well, I know that Cancers like to be re-assured and that is fine by me. No problems doing that.
I haven't spend any time with him since about 2 weeks ago. This last Friday he mentioned Dinner Maybe. I responded with that would be great. Friday came and we texted, he didn't make another mention of dinner. Then dinner time came and nothing. Next day I got an Im sorry text, said he wasn't feeling well. I told him ok. I really thought I was going to see him more. I have NOT asked him when we will see each other. He does work a crazy shift (5am - 2pm). Everything is so new I don't want be pushy. The other day he called me at my desk and said he was thinking of me and I told him I missed him. We chatted for a few mins. Then next day nothing, so I reached out this morning. Just based on my instints I get the feeling he seemed in a bad mood. I have sinced left him be.
When I dont contact him, and then we dont talk for a day or so... He is saying Hi Stranger. Then when I reach out he doesn't seem chatty. So I am little confused.
Can any of you fellow Cancer Peeps Explain?
Should I let him come to me?
I am a pisces, btw.
Thanks for all your help... 🙂
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TheLioness79
@TheLioness79
12 Years1,000+ PostsLeo

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Patience, consistently, reassurance and understanding. Took two month of spotty communication between my guy and I. I was unsure, but he peaked my intrest and just stayed cool and let it develop at his pace. Once I was there for him in a situation and he trusted me with that situation, I had thrown in my real intrest in him and game over after that. Patience, reassurance, consistency and understanding. It won't happen over night. But do call him out for his crap. You make plans and break them without communication is not acceptable behavior. You communicate with me you can not fulfill you obligation.

There is also nothing wrong with sending a text saying, hey, just thinking about you hope all is well if you haven't heard from him. But if he does have interest, do usually expect it to be slow at first. What is your patience tolerance level?