First time dating a cancer

Hi there,

I just met a cancer man. I am a Leo, Capricorn Rising, Moon in Scorpio, Venus in Cancer. He is a Cancer, Libra Rising, Moon in Pisces, and Venus in Cancer. We have seen each other 4 times, including the day we met. On our first date we went to a nice dinner, then for coffee, had nice conversations, but at the end of the night he didn't kiss me. I thought he wanted to but I think we were giving each other the wrong vibes. Ackward! However, as a Leo I like being up front so I kind of mentioned it in a not direct way. He said something like, "omg i so wanted to kiss you but thought you didnt want to, ackward! lol"

Now, we have kissed and it was great!

Thing is, I am two years older than him. He seems very mature for his age. If I ever text him he will text me back right away and he is always very nice. Thing is, he went out of town this weekend. He didn't contact me except for liking some new facebook pics of mine when he got back. I thought he would text since we usually talk a lot. I sent him a text the next day to see how his trip was. We texted back a forth for a bit. Thing is, he hasn't contacted me since. Btw, he only texts me and has never called. He does live about 45 min away from me. So the last text I sent him was to ask him if he had a videochat app on his phone. He said he didnt but would get it. I said okay great and thats the last I heard from him. I know that is the new trend since almost everyone just textes nowadays. lol Am I the only one that gets irritated by that? ha!

My question is... I have never dated a cancer before, I have had many cancer friends usually females (my best friend). I know he must have liked me to go out with me, but I feel like I am the one going out of my way to contact him. Even with the first date kiss... I felt like he was shy or passive. I heard cancers fear rejection, but I thought I was signaling to him that I liked him. Maybe I was nervous and gave the wrong vibes. Thing is, he is someone that I like so far and am interested in gettig to know better. We are still in the process of getting to know each other. I just don't want to get my hopes up if maybe he isn't interested. I know this sounds silly because I am just getting back into the dating game. I feel butterflies when I am around him, but what intrigues me more is that it seems based on our conversations that we have a lot in common and click.

I just want some tips from fellow cancers on how to ap

I just want some tips from fellow cancers on how to approach him, should I let him come to me? What are things cancers do in the beginning of a relationship if they are interested, and so forth? Remind you, this is the first cancer i'm have never actually dated. I have had several other cancers interested in me, but this is the first one I could see myself dating.

Help! I'm smitten by this cancer guy and want to see if he is truly interested in me as well. Thanks guys! 🙂

Hello Xdimplez, great to meet you too! I like your username too because I have dimples haha 🙂 I appreciate your feedback. As Leos, we like guys to take charge but we also like taking charge so I see what you meant on the whole having to practically "rape" him situation.

I will definately take your advice and be straight out with him about my likes/dislikes. However, I am hesitate to tell him what bothers me at this particular moment because what if he has been busy and last thing I want to come off as is insecure or needy. I rather tell him next time I see him in person. Only thing, he hasn't texted me. lol I'm annoyed because I can't stop thinking of him and why he hasn't contacted me. ugh!

Do you think I should wait for him to contact me or should I text him again? I just feel like the last few times it has been me, me, me! initiating the textes. I like guys to show me that they are thinking of me too, you know?

Thanks again for responding and your feedback. Very much appreciated 🙂

Haha yes I agree. My close friend is a Cancer and we are very similiar. I just want to know where the guy stands (cancer or not) with me and then I feel at ease. Pretty much, I want to make sure we are on the same page.

Hi Cestlavie,

I too have a Leo Sun and Scorpio Moon Venus in Virgo though. I attract Cancer men like OMG not another one. I am going to list the good and the bad at least from my perspective so take it for what you will.

The Good
They call and text you all day every day. We love attention !
They have fashion sense! We love that also.
They are in touch with your feelings.
They are super protective.

The Bad
They disappear and we don't understand that. In fact, we take it quite personal.
They are moody. We are ruled by the Sun meaning we are usually happy. All that doom and gloom. 😢
They have female issues (momma, baby momma, sister, grandma, boss at work) some women some where has done something to them.
They are not going to fight with you (unless they have Mars in Leo) we need a little drama.

I have dated 6 I think. I fell in love/lust with all 6 in less than a month. You would think I would have been leery but nope. it is absolute heaven in the beginning. I would date another one even though I know better because that feeling in the beginning is indescribable.

I say go for it. My only caution is that you listed partial placements and I count 5 water positions between the 2 of you. My goodness. That is a lot of emotion and feelings.

2 Venii (The plural of Venus, yes I made that up) in Cancer...peeks through fingers.😉

Thank you clueless cancer and nala13! 🙂
I gave in and texted him. He responded right away. We were both flirting and joking around. So hopefully I'll see him soon. He was at work so I told him to contact me later.

@nala13... I do always attract cancer men but just havent dated one so I am not sure how to handle them. I think Leo's fear rejection too! So that might be a problem. haha 🙂 We both have mars in Leo! Uh oh! Is that a problem? How do two venus in Cancer relate with one another? I heard we might have a hard time opening up to one another? Is that true? Also, he doesn't call/text me everyday. If I contact him he responds in a heartbeat. I heard that cancer guys contact you a lot. Do you think it is because it is still fresh and new?

Let me know what you think please 🙂

HIs:Sun 22??28' Cancer
Moon 22??45' Pisces
Mercury 7??24' Cancer
Venus 11??49' Cancer
Mars 5??36' Leo
Jupiter 27??45' Aries
Saturn 15??28' –? Sagittarius
Uranus 23??37' –? Sagittarius
Neptune 6??11' –? Capricorn
Pluto 7??09' –? Scorpio
Chiron 25??33' Gemini
Ceres 24??34' –? Sagittarius
Pallas 13??05' Scorpio
Juno 9??42' –? Pisces
Vesta 28??50' Gemini
Node 5??15' –? Aries
Lilith 13??37' –? Cancer
Fortune 10??57' Gemini
AS 10??40' Libra
MC 13??55' Cancer

Me:

Sun 28??51' Leo
Moon 13??10' Scorpio
Mercury 13??17' Leo
Venus 22??44' Cancer
Mars 17??52' Leo
Jupiter 9??50' –? Aquarius
Saturn 22??04' Scorpio
Uranus 13??58' –? Sagittarius
Neptune 0??58' –? Capricorn
Pluto 2??23' Scorpio
Chiron 14??40' Gemini
Ceres 2??09' Leo
Pallas 13??51' Gemini
Juno 16??15' Libra
Vesta 14??59' Scorpio
Node 12??05' Taurus
Lilith 16??34' Aries
Fortune 29??12' Pisces
AS 14??53' Capricorn
MC 4??31' Scorpio

My life story with my cancer man is written all above, it's driving me crazy. But still drawn in, this charm tactic whatever you wanna call it. Has got me hooked, first cancer for me too. So cheers Celavie

Thank you Justswimming 🙂

Hi BlackIndian22, Thank you for the response. So I went out with my girlfriends last night and texted him. He was out at a club but was texting me back and he said he wasn't really feeling the place and that he had a cold. So today, I called him and he didn't answer.

I texted him saying, "hey babe, i just called to see how you were feeling? And to let you know about tonight if you and your friends want to come out" .... he responded with a text message no phone call back saying " hi babe, sorry i was in the shower. rushing around ha. thank you! I will let them know 🙂 " I then responded, " ok"

My problem is that I am trying to contact him and let him know I do care and am interested. I am a Leo though and although I can be aggressive I don't like chasing if I am not sure they like me? I feel insecure with him for some reason and I usually am not this insecure girl. It's driving me crazy. lol I am starting to feel like maybe he is kinda blowing me off but in a nice way. Am I overreacting?

I'll stop the chase and see how he responds to it. If he never put any effort to contact you.. then you know what's going on.

Thanks MaoMao, That's what I am going to do. The only contact he has initiated this week was liking my facebook photos and that does not count lol. Thanks for your advice. Hopefully, he will because I do like him a lot.

Yeah, I just sense something is off. I mean he is super sweet when he textes me back. If I text him he textes back right away. However, I know guys and they usually will contact if interested. So, I mean cancer or not. He shouldn't be this shy or reserve bc to me it is obvious that I am interested in him. He should be able to see that. Yes, I agree. I am going to back off and see if he comes to me. Thank you Blackindian22 a.k.a Dr. Phil 🙂

He just texted me about an hour ago because my friends and I were going out tonight and I had invited him to meet us. but we ended up staying home. At least he did text. But I am going to pull back a bit and see if he comes to me. Thanks again and sweet dreams 🙂

I agree with 😆implez. Tell him. Be your straight forward Leo self and give it to him straight. He will appreciate it. And you will need to make the moves first, once you do and he is interested, it is done deal. I agree with Nala, there could be problems with them and fear of being hurt especially if it by past lovers.mthere will need to be a lot of reassurance from your part. But being a Leo you know how we need it in our own way or it effects or self security. Communicate. And yes CC is right, we are similar in many ways but we in different manner.

RUN!!!!! Leo's require a lot of attention. Cancer man will have many mood swings and crawl into his shell. To a Leo, this will look and feel like rejection. Yes, Cancer is all sweet and attentive at first, but once any negative energy comes, he will retreat. Enjoy it while it lasts, but be prepared to move on.

Posted by MissLibra
RUN!!!!! Leo's require a lot of attention. Cancer man will have many mood swings and crawl into his shell. To a Leo, this will look and feel like rejection. Yes, Cancer is all sweet and attentive at first, but once any negative energy comes, he will retreat. Enjoy it while it lasts, but be prepared to move on.

negative energy, and retreating in his shell is just a test, specially if your inconsistent and unreliable, cancer is a cautious sign remember that.

crabberries9/25/2013 12:50:22 AM Quote | IP

Posted by MissLibra
RUN!!!!! Leo's require a lot of attention. Cancer man will have many mood swings and crawl into his shell. To a Leo, this will look and feel like rejection. Yes, Cancer is all sweet and attentive at first, but once any negative energy comes, he will retreat. Enjoy it while it lasts, but be prepared to move on.

negative energy, and retreating in his shell is just a test, specially if your inconsistent and unreliable, cancer is a cautious sign remember that.

Crabberries,
Though I can respect the Crab's need to protect themselves and to rejuvenate by retreating, to others though, Crab's retreat may appear to show them as being inconsistent and unreliable. When retreating, there has to be reassuring communication so the retreat is not interpreted by the other party as rejection.

Hi MissLibra and Crabberries, Thank you for commenting. Yes, I sort of agree with MissLibra because I am feeling rejected. However, it has crossed my mind that maybe he is testing me. Like I mentioned before I have been the one contacting him this past week. He has not reached out. He only reached out one night he was out and he asked me to send him a pic of my friends and I. He though I was out and I had originally asked him to meet up. So, i think he wanted to show his guy friends and pick of my friends and I.

I feel like he is either playing games or just not that into me. However, whenever I do message him he does respond right away. I have called him once over the phone and he didn't answer, but I texted him right after and then he textes back. I mean I have had other Cancers be into me and they keep contacting me. This one is very nice but is not taking the initiative. I mean in honestly you can't have them all like you. He did have friends from out of the country in town this week so I am just trying to be patient. He also has been out partying all weekend with his friends. So, I am just going to wait and see if he comes to me.

My dilemna is that I am interested in him. I just turned 28 and really over playing games. He is 26. he does seem very mature for his age, I thought he was way older. I know I know, I feel like a cougar lol 😉 I mean certain things are necessary but I am trying to just communicate more. I did mention to him, I forgot how I worded it... but I said something like I don't want to bug him and feel like I am... I just like spending time with you. I understand your new in town etc...

He was nice and was like no not at all etc...
So I am interested in him and like him. I just wish I knew what his intention were. My cancer friend was telling me to just try to be friends and see where it goes from there.

I'm just going to let it be and try and be myself. If he comes to me great if not then i'll just be strong and move on. Wish me luck thanks guys. 🙂

Quick question to Cancers: I'm thinking to just let him come to me, do you agree? I mean, I have contacted him a lot. Shouldn't he get the hint? Thanks.

He hasn't contacted me at all past few days and I haven't reached out to him either? Should I contact him or wait for him to contact me? Some of you guys say to run, and others say to communicate with him. I want to ask him if he is even interested but don't want to come off clingy or insecure lol In all honesty, it would be great if he was into me but if he isn't at least I could put him in a friend category and know if we are even on the same page.

We only went out 3 times, so I feel like maybe it's too soon to say anything to him? What do you guys suggest? If I do say something to him, how should I word it? I sometimes come off too intense and have a hard time verbally expressing my feelings. It always comes out the wrong way. The times I have gone out with him I felt we had a lot in common and enjoy spending time with him. So, of course I want to get to know him more. I honestly do like him a lot.

If it was any other guy I would leave it alone and let them come to me. However, I never dated a cancer and know they are more reserved. Even on our first date, it seemed like he wanted to make a move but he didnt. I had to mention it to him for him to take action. lol So especially to the Cancers out there, do you think he is waiting to see how I am going to react, maybe he wants me to contact him, maybe he is busy or maybe he isn't as interested as i am? I mean he is new in town and he has only been here for over a month. So, I am just trying to be patient. Thank you everyone, I appreciate it. 🙂

We both have our venus in cancer, my moon is in scorpio and his in pisces. Do any of you have insight on the compatability for us within our venus and moon signs?

Looks like you are really into him... But from my perspective that he is not..
Whatever his sign is, a guy is a guy.. If he liked you, he'd be afraid to lose you instead of not contacting you.
Sorry to say.. But it's better that you move on

Maomao...AMEN!!

Thank you everyone! From this second forward I am moving on 🙂 It is a bummer, but it is life! 🙂 Thank you all again! 🙂

I agree with CC. And maybe he hasn't contacted you because he needs space, or wants to know how into him you are. Stop the I want it now Leoione qualities, slow it down, be patient and send a text just saying: Hey haven't heard from you in minute. I hope all is well with you. You have been on my mind.

See if he replies and what he says....then move on if you must. But key here is patience and reassurance. Can u handle that?