Cancer male and Match.com

I met a real nice guy on Match.com. He emailed me for a while and a few days ago we had our first date. I didn't take the whole thing seriously in the beginning though and since I'm just over another relationship and a happy single again, I slept with him because I was attracted to him but I wasn't interested in anyhing more at that time. After that I realized what a cool guy he is and I regretted having slept with him so quickly. I want to see where this goes. I kind of talked to him about the whole thing and he said what is done is done and that to him we are dating now. He also texts and emails me a lot and said that he can't wait to see me again.

Well, the thing that keeps me from sitting back and going with the flow is that his profile is still up on Match and he is online every day (I took mine down a while ago before our first date). I know we only met a short while ago but it's weird since we already slept together and I like him.

What should I do about this Match thing? Cancers are usually very loyal people right? What are the chances that he just wants to have fun?

If you're a Taurus or Scorpio, your chances improve exponentially.. I'm not certain about the others though.

Unless he tells you that the two of you are exclusive, don't trust that he is not out there picking up other women. Cancerian men are very very slow to committ and I doubt after one date he is considering your relationship exclusive.

sounds like a gemini trait to me ,slow to commit,picking up other women,lol. We do flirt,but once you are showing interest in us,blah blah blah then we are urs,wholeheartedly. But we are very gaurded in terms of our emotions.DONT play with them.We can be logical as well once emotions don't blind us.

so my cancer says to me that he's not talkin to other girls does that mean he mean we are exclusive? lol yeah they are really slow in turns of committing themselves but as long as you show interest and is sincere then he's not going anywhere. However, with your case, yeah since you two got intimated too soon I'm not sure but communicate with him and be patient that's all I can tell ya good luck!

Now, now, no ugly slights toward Geminis. I was not putting cancer's down, just my personal experience with my own cancerian man. We were dating and acting very serious. I met his mom and all the women who raised him after 3 weeks of dating. He would tell me things like, "I always thought about a future for one, but now I think about a future for two." In the same breath, he would say, "I don't want to get serious." "Were just friends." Believe me, I was not wanting to rush into anything. I wanted to take things nice and slow cause I knew and know that he is the man I'm going to marry and was very willing to take it one sweet day at a time. I was savering every minute with my sexy cancerian male.

Oh my god I am going through the same situation except my boyfriend and I have been together for months. I met him off of this site called mocha lounge and I took my profile off once he said the words that he was my boyfriend and I was his girl. But he still logs on and just added 3 new girls as his friends, even though they are from different states that still makes me feel he may try and meet someone new. I asked him why he stull logs on and he tells me he still has friends on there and he checks his messages. So I decided one day to create an anonymous profile of a woman from a totally different state and age (older than us)and decided to instant message him (it's a lot like aol) we talked on the net and five minutes later he decides to call me (his girlfriend) not knowing he was talking to me online and thank god my keys were silent because I had to keep up with the conversation. While we were on the phone he did mention he was on mocha and that some girl was trying to talk to him, but I am still fearful he may cheat. It's so crazy how I had to go through so much and I still feel that he may one day cheat if he isn't right now. I thought cancer men are known to be loyal as well. I even asked him one day if I was worthy enough to be with just me and he says "yes I can say that you are the second girl that I have been with and have not thought about cheating". So if he feels this way what's the point of signing on to mocha right? I tell you some cancer men can take up a lot of your energy as well as cancer women in which I am, but it's really crazy. So I can totally understand how you feel.

sexygem: "We were dating and acting very serious. I met his mom and all the women who raised him after 3 weeks of dating. He would tell me things like, "I always thought about a future for one, but now I think about a future for two." In the same breath, he would say, "I don't want to get serious." "Were just friends." Believe me, I was not wanting to rush into anything. I wanted to take things nice and slow cause I knew and know that he is the man I'm going to marry and was very willing to take it one sweet day at a time."

OMG My cancer friend said something simular to what yours said. Yes, I've met is immediate family (mom and dad), but he didn't really start "including me" until almost a year. I knew Cancer men were notorious for having more than one woman when single, but I never knew thay were slow to commiit. Things were so fast in the beginning, but I felt unconfortable ... Now things are slower, and I feel better, not so pushed! Yes, we are just friends, he has some growing-up to do. After one of our discussions, he has recently said some wierd stuff. So I don't know what to make of it, but for right now ... I SAY we are just friends. Hey, somebody's got to make a decision here 😉

I wouldn't worry about it too much, you've only been on one date. I mean I would find out what dating exactly means to him because some people have different understandings on what dating is to them. On another note I'm in the same situation I met a scorpio guy off myspace. I like him a whole lot. We've been out about 5-6 times and we slept together as well. It just happend on a drunken night lol. I was concerned on how he truely felt about me but, for the past few days he has been really opening up to me about how he feels. That he likes me a lot because I'm so laid back and down to earth. Yet of course on his myspace page there are all these other girls in his top 8 sending him kisses and he writes back to them as well just not lately. You know how on myspace you can kind of snoop on what's going on lol. A girl even left him a note asking if he got there flight info. He is supposed to be leaving to visit his mom for a month and is unsure and telling me he's leaning towards not even goin (this makes me wonder if he made plans with this girl and things didn't work out with her and he doesn't want to go on their trip). Last night he took me out for dinner, drinks, and a movie. We were up till 3:30 and he had to go to work the next day. I told him he shouldn't let me keep him up like that and he tells me "I'm worth it" he didn't mind at all. He's telling me all these charming things and I'm starting to believe him but, who are all these other girl? I'm just goint to take things one step at a time and see the outcome. I think I will eventually ask him if he is seeing other people just to get it off of my chest......

"I would find out what dating exactly means to him because some people have different understandings on what dating is to them."

Perfectly said honeygirl. You really have to pin them down on this one. Those sexy cancerian men have a way of making you feel like your the only women for them. I've read that sometimes they don't even realize they have made such an impact on someone. Heres a perfect example. My sexy cancerian knows how I feel. I expressed my feelings, short of saying I love you, cause a girl should never be the first to say those words. He loved that I felt that way and got that sweet goofy look he gets when I've touched his heart. In the next breath, he was saying that he could so marry me, but hes just not ready for that just yet and he wants his freedom. I remained calm but my heart was breaking. I then stated that I had asked him two weeks ago if he wanted me to stop calling him (because he had been doing the usual disappearing act) and just leave him alone and stay out of his life. He responding with a resounding "NO, I don't want that." Major confusion on my part. I told him goodbye and he looked at me and made that face like yeah sure, I'll see and hear from you again. Well after about 2 months he did. The holidays were rolling around and I know how sentimental he is and how much it means to him for people to remember him on special occasions so I would call. He never answered his phone, until New Years Eve. That was the last time we spoke. I know he is out there sewing his wild oats, and we are each doing our thing right now, but I have yet to be able to go out with someone or be physical with anyone. Cause they are not him. Anyway, the reason for all of this is...my best friend had been ignoring me for three weeks. She would not return my calls or answer them. She even stood me up for my hair appointment. Not like her at all. Then one day at work an email pops up from her with the subject line saying "The reason why". She had been at a party and over heard this girl crying about this guy that she had met at a Girl Roller Derby match and they had really hit it off and he was so sweet and charming. Then she said his name and best friend was freaking out. It was my sexy cancerian she was talking about. This woman was totally obsessed with him. It had been three weeks since she had met him. He did not get her phone number, nor give her his. She did'nt even know where he worked. There she was siting crying over him and she was nothing more than a one-night stand. She has attended every Roller Derby match since hoping to run into her. He has no idea the effect he has had on her.

Well let me tell you this.... I can say that even though we cancers are interested in someone we do need our space we don't like when people are real pushy and start to complain about us not calling or what have you... We may have just had one of our moments and crawled into oblivion for the moment and has nothing to do with you... When we get someone who starts to complain and is on our tail bithchin about it like white on rice we tend to stir away... That's just how I am anyway...

Honey girl, you are so right. You do need your space and I can understand. I leave him alone and let him do his thing and I don't follow him asking whats wrong? Much like now. Being a gemini we like our space as well. I would never try to tell him what to do, cause it will get me no where. I believe and have faith in him and I know I don't need to tell him a thing or nag at him. He will do what he needs to do when he needs to it. I spent 11 years in a very abusive marriage. I don't like to yell or do name calling and when he has raised his voice, I've asked him to please not yell at me. We really work well at discussing things.

Not sure, but seems like some people's feathers are a little ruffled by my post. Of course, its always hard to discern if there is attitude behind the writing. Let me assure everyone. I LOVE CANCERIAN PEOPLE. I LOVE MY SEXY CANCERIAN MAN AND WOULD WAIT A LIFETIME FOR HIM. My mom, who is the best mom ever is a Cancer. My favorite sister is a cancer. Believe it or not my least favorite sister is a gemini, a true gemini.

Remember its not just your sun sign that defines you. Your moon sign has a lot do with your emotional state. Your venus sign has to do with the way you love. The relationships you've had in your life also define you.