Cancer male perspective, please....Different behavior from Cancer male friend

My cancer male friend has started behaving differently towards me. We used to hang out and talk and have conversations. This past Saturday he was drinking beer, after he had quite the buzz. He told me, that I was trouble and that I was a dangerous woman.

We have never had any confrontations and we always seemed to get along really well. Although Saturday evening he seemed nervous to be around me and although the conversation was good. He drank far more than normal and didn't elaborate when I asked him what he meant when he said I was a dangerous woman.

Thanks

The only thing I can add is we have known each other for 20 months and we are just platonic friends. We were hanging out at his place alone. While we were watching tv, he kept drinking, it's not his usual behavior and then said what I said above. When I questioned why would he say that he responded never mind. We were just spending an evening hanging out. He was just not acting like his normal self and there was no reason for him to call me trouble or dangerous. Later he went to bed and I crashed on the sofa as NORMAL. I was just trying to get some insight why a man would drink heavier than normal and call someone dangerous. My sister was of the opinion that he may have feelings beyond friendship and because he was burned pretty bad by an ex gf. He may have a fear of rejection.

He was drunk. Don't take drunk words so seriously.

Posted by pinkbird03
He was drunk. Don't take drunk words so seriously.

Hmm, not necessarily true. It's one thing to spout off random nonsense around people considered peers or acquaintances, and another to be alone with a crush after tipping back a few. The latter is confession city. So he meant something by calling her dangerous.

I can draw up two conclusion based off of my own behavior when I get like this. Both involve harboring romantic feelings. The first is passive-aggressiveness as a result of finding out you messed around with someone else. I'm sorry, I mean, "someone other than him". The second is he wants to tell you how he feels, but is being a cautious crab. If the first is not true, then look towards the second.

Hmm, not necessarily true. It's one thing to spout off random nonsense around people considered peers or acquaintances, and another to be alone with a crush after tipping back a few. The latter is confession city. So he meant something by calling her dangerous.

I can draw up two conclusion based off of my own behavior when I get like this. Both involve harboring romantic feelings. The first is passive-aggressiveness as a result of finding out you messed around with someone else. I'm sorry, I mean, "someone other than him". The second is he wants to tell you how he feels, but is being a cautious crab. If the first is not true, then look towards the second.





Thanks. I have not been with anyone in close to 3 years and he's known this we've discussed our dating pasts. I'm leaning towards the second as well. Thanks for your response.

Posted by pjking761986
Hmm, not necessarily true. It's one thing to spout off random nonsense around people considered peers or acquaintances, and another to be alone with a crush after tipping back a few. The latter is confession city. So he meant something by calling her dangerous.

I can draw up two conclusion based off of my own behavior when I get like this. Both involve harboring romantic feelings. The first is passive-aggressiveness as a result of finding out you messed around with someone else. I'm sorry, I mean, "someone other than him". The second is he wants to tell you how he feels, but is being a cautious crab. If the first is not true, then look towards the second.

Thanks. I have not been with anyone in close to 3 years and he's known this we've discussed our dating pasts. I'm leaning towards the second as well. Thanks for your response.

I was leaning towards the second possibility as well. His behavior did not sound passive aggressive from your OP. It would be best to have a conversation with him that does not involve alcohol.

When I'm trunk I say a lot of true things, but I also say a lot of things I make up on the spot. Most of it sounds extremely logical. The fun is in figuring out which is which, but really you shouldn't take too many things said drunk seriously. You can ask him to clarify. If he's saying you're dangerous and you're genuinely concerned about self improvement then I dont see why he'd not tell you. If you are reading subtext into it then maybe you should ask anyways just to clear things up so nothing lingers and grows.