Cancer man breaks up with me without telling me.

Hello. So I'm a cancer female dating a cancer male. He's 27 and I'm 22. We met in June and started dating in July. He was the perfect gentleman taking me on dates and even out of town. He never disrespected me. He took his time to get to know me. We didn't even kiss until about a month of talking. In July while we were out of town he basically just told me we were in a relationship now he didn't ask but I thought it was cute. Everything was great. We got along just fine with only a few small arguments for the first four months. We even seriously talked about marriage. Now let me give a little back ground information on him. He got married at the age of 19 and stayed married for 4 years. He had one serious relationship after that were he proposed to his ex but soon after called it off. Then there's me. He told me he loves me first and says I can read him so well. We often talk about marriage and starting a family. He's currently working in London for a few short months. He flew me to London to visit him for Thanksgiving. It was nothing short of perfect and this is where I feel I fell in love with him. He came back home for Christmas and things were a little shakey. He was extremely stressed not knowing whether he was going back to London for his job or a more hostile country. He broke up with me twice for no longer than a day and we charged it to stress. We talked about it and I told him this was unacceptable. Things went right back to normal and we enjoyed his last few days in the states. Once he got back to London he was extremely busy and communication wasn't the same but he still text and called me telling me how much he missed and loved me and hated we hadn't talked as much due to his phone messing up. After a few days of him being in London communication was much less. He told me he had been really sick and irritated bcuz things weren't going his way but still managed to tell me he loved me and that he would call that evening but never got around to calling. By the second week of him being in London he's only texting me once in the morning but never calling. So we really haven't talked much. He told me a lot had happened since he's been there and we needed to talk about our future. I told him we just needed to work on our communication and not to be so quick to jump off the ship. He started to become even more distant. I questioned his actions and he apologized and told me he loves me. This was the last I heard for him. Yesterday was our 6 month anniversary and he didn't contact me at all. He didn't even open the message I sent him. I noticed he changed his relationship status to single on facebook. His mom called and told me he asked her to come pick up his car and I'm just confused. She was confused also saying he didn't state why. Again today he hasn't opened my messaged called or any kind of contact. I guess we are broken up but He didn't even tell me. I don't know what to do. I know he's under a lot of stress. He comes back home in a month. What should I do? Do I just let him be and wait it out? Will he come back to me?

Posted by SavantofOne
After further consideration, I would call him and ask him straight up if he has met someone new, and is he willing to just "throw all you had away"? He needs to be a man about it.

I would if he would answer the phone for me. I guess I will just have wait until he calls me.

Posted by SavantofOne
Not to make light of your situation, because I know how you probably feel...when did he start ignoring your phone calls? That would have been the 1st clue that something had changed. But that doesn't exonerate him from having the decency to tell you what he was doing over there that had changed his attitude towards you.

Well we talked on the phone last Monday. We had a really good conversation. He seemed just as upset about not talking as much as I was. I told him I had started to worry and he reassured me there was no need to worry. That was the last day we talked on the phone. Tuesday and Wednesday he text saying he loves me and would call me but never got around to it. Thursday is when I noticed a difference in his attitude. He said he was getting really busy and that we needed to discuss what is best for our future. He even set a meeting reminder to call me so that we could discuss this but still never called. Friday he text saying how sick he had been and that he would call but of course he didn't. Then Saturday he text venting to me about how he's sick and nothing is going his way. He apologized for not calling and told me he loves me. I haven't heard anything from him since. Everything is ignored and he changed his fb status to single. His mom called saying he wants her to pick up his car.

Posted by SavantofOne
Wow - that's really strange, particularly leading you on, and then not following through with promises.

I would either confront him about what's going on, or write him off and not speak with him again.

What he's doing is awful, especially the way he's having his mom pick his car up.

Who does something like that without an explanation?

Did his mother give you any clue about what's going on?

You need to try and talk with her, because she has to know.

I'd guess the "I'm sick" excuse, was his way of buying time to figure out how to handle things to avoid the confrontation.

I feel for you.

His mom was just as shocked. She asked me why did he want her to come get it. She said it was very random and unexpected and that he never said why. I will just give her the car and not contact him. I would hope that he would atleast give me some type of closure soon.