@Caliscorpio
9 Years
Is this cancer man stringing me along or a slow mover?
Is a Cancer Man Stringing You Along or a Slow Mover
A Cancer man may be cautious and slow to open up, which can seem like stringing you along. His inconsistent behavior and delayed plans suggest he may be unsure or not fully committed yet. Clear communication is key to understanding his intentions and whether he is genuinely interested or just playing with your emotions.
Posted by Caliscorpio
So i have been texting this cancer man now everyday all day for about a month now. The first two times we couldnt go out because of me. But he asked me out again the night before but no specific plans. The next day he didnt text me the whole day and said he was busy and forgot. I naturaly took 8 steps back but started replying to him again a couple days later.Later i ended up calling him out on it because we still have not gone out. He said thats not something i had to worry about with a smiley face. Wtf does that mean—?
He then got mad at me the other day basically saying id be a bad influence on him. But he said he still wanted to go out with me. (I think he realized it was more of his problem) sorry i dont want to be too specific.
He becomes more attentive and clingy when i tell him ima go to a party. So he asked me out again. But i was being petty and was giving him a hard time. He said we will plan it today but again he hasnt even brought it up?
Why put so much time into someone if you are not serious? I need answers or opinions please
Mmm well maybe he feels you are not as interested in him as he is you... you are gonna have to make a solid plan and invite him. cancers are very protective of their feelings and tend to act opposite how they may actually feel... confused? Yes, the faint of heart need not apply ?
Best way to find out if they are in it for the long haul, is to get yourself so incapacitated that when you go to the bathroom you are unable to wipe your own ass, and when you need his help, what happens will let you know if he is a keeper or if you should drop him off at the pool and just leave him there.
@moonbutter i admit im not good at showing a strong interest. I just dont want to look like a dumb a** if hes playing me. I guess ill try to act more excited or idk?
Posted by Caliscorpio
So i have been texting this cancer man now everyday all day for about a month now. The first two times we couldnt go out because of me. But he asked me out again the night before but no specific plans. The next day he didnt text me the whole day and said he was busy and forgot. I naturaly took 8 steps back but started replying to him again a couple days later.Later i ended up calling him out on it because we still have not gone out. He said thats not something i had to worry about with a smiley face. Wtf does that mean—?
He then got mad at me the other day basically saying id be a bad influence on him. But he said he still wanted to go out with me. (I think he realized it was more of his problem) sorry i dont want to be too specific.
He becomes more attentive and clingy when i tell him ima go to a party. So he asked me out again. But i was being petty and was giving him a hard time. He said we will plan it today but again he hasnt even brought it up?
Why put so much time into someone if you are not serious? I need answers or opinions please
Mmm well maybe he feels you are not as interested in him as he is you... you are gonna have to make a solid plan and invite him. cancers are very protective of their feelings and tend to act opposite how they may actually feel... confused? Yes, the faint of heart need not apply ?
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Perfect answer.
Posted by Caliscorpio
@moonbutter i admit im not good at showing a strong interest. I just dont want to look like a dumb a** if hes playing me. I guess ill try to act more excited or idk?
Cancer needs this, scorpio. You need to show us.
That is how we open up and become yours. If you explain that we matter, if you make the plans and show us. And then we come out of the shell. And fall madly in love with our scorpio....
We are just afraid. For cancer, scorpio hurts.
Maybe you are so beautiful and special, that he does not feel worthy to believe that he can have you on the long run, so he stays hidden to avoid falling madly in love and then getting extremely hurt.
We do this... and specially with scorpio. That hides their emotion... but this is a magical pair. A soulmate connection. If he only knew you are writing online about him... He would love it
Posted by Caliscorpio
@moonbutter i admit im not good at showing a strong interest. I just dont want to look like a dumb a** if hes playing me. I guess ill try to act more excited or idk?
I struggle with this also... but to jump the hurdle I had to make a plan and say, ok let's do( activity) this day and when he agrees to that and you all have a good time... Congrats! You have broken through the barrier😄
Thank you both for replying!
Heres an update in case anyone is interested, so he did it again! He started to make plans and when i didnt want to go he pushed harder than i agreed and he basically said nvm id rather lay in bed all day....
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I got mad and did a stupid reply then he got mad at me—??
So i called him out and he said that wasnt his intention.he just likes to get to know people first because he is looking for something serious. I went shopping and i ate before i replied so i calmed down and basically told him to just let me know when he is ready.
He said he is and appeared frustrated with me (i thought i was being nice?) So at this moment he is making offical plans but i have to walk him through the every step.
Maybe he is just inexperienced?
Also i dated a taurus who was the flakyest person alive!!!! And this cancer has a taurus moon. Im thinking this might have something to do with it.
He needs your attention. He needs you to prove that you care a lot. If not, he will seek attention elsewhere
Posted by Caliscorpio
Thank you both for replying!Heres an update in case anyone is interested, so he did it again! He started to make plans and when i didnt want to go he pushed harder than i agreed and he basically said nvm id rather lay in bed all day....
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I got mad and did a stupid reply then he got mad at me—??
So i called him out and he said that wasnt his intention.he just likes to get to know people first because he is looking for something serious. I went shopping and i ate before i replied so i calmed down and basically told him to just let me know when he is ready.
He said he is and appeared frustrated with me (i thought i was being nice?) So at this moment he is making offical plans but i have to walk him through the every step.
Maybe he is just inexperienced?
Did I misread this? He made plans and you refused to go?
Posted by Caliscorpio
Thank you both for replying!Heres an update in case anyone is interested, so he did it again! He started to make plans and when i didnt want to go he pushed harder than i agreed and he basically said nvm id rather lay in bed all day....
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I got mad and did a stupid reply then he got mad at me—??
So i called him out and he said that wasnt his intention.he just likes to get to know people first because he is looking for something serious. I went shopping and i ate before i replied so i calmed down and basically told him to just let me know when he is ready.
He said he is and appeared frustrated with me (i thought i was being nice?) So at this moment he is making offical plans but i have to walk him through the every step.
Maybe he is just inexperienced?
Tell what happen after you have date please.
Posted by Arielle
Maybe you are so beautiful and special, that he does not feel worthy to believe that he can have you on the long run, so he stays hidden to avoid falling madly in love and then getting extremely hurt.
Yup, quite possible!
Posted by Caliscorpio
Thank you both for replying!Heres an update in case anyone is interested, so he did it again! He started to make plans and when i didnt want to go he pushed harder than i agreed and he basically said nvm id rather lay in bed all day....
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I got mad and did a stupid reply then he got mad at me—??
So i called him out and he said that wasnt his intention.he just likes to get to know people first because he is looking for something serious. I went shopping and i ate before i replied so i calmed down and basically told him to just let me know when he is ready.
He said he is and appeared frustrated with me (i thought i was being nice?) So at this moment he is making offical plans but i have to walk him through the every step.
Maybe he is just inexperienced?
Did I misread this? He made plans and you refused to go?
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I did not refuse to go. Lol i just questioned the plans. I know that sounds bad but i was trying to test if he was serious this time
Posted by Caliscorpio
Thank you both for replying!Heres an update in case anyone is interested, so he did it again! He started to make plans and when i didnt want to go he pushed harder than i agreed and he basically said nvm id rather lay in bed all day....
—
I got mad and did a stupid reply then he got mad at me—??
So i called him out and he said that wasnt his intention.he just likes to get to know people first because he is looking for something serious. I went shopping and i ate before i replied so i calmed down and basically told him to just let me know when he is ready.
He said he is and appeared frustrated with me (i thought i was being nice?) So at this moment he is making offical plans but i have to walk him through the every step.
Maybe he is just inexperienced?
Did I misread this? He made plans and you refused to go?
I did not refuse to go. Lol i just questioned the plans. I know that sounds bad but i was trying to test if he was serious this time
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Oh no, jeez (head slap) DO NOT ENGAGE in the crab dance! That leads to nowhere! You questioned his plans which made him question your feelings toward him... you see this never ending pattern? You have to just believe and trust in his interest in you or this ain't gonna work.
Posted by Arielle
Maybe you are so beautiful and special, that he does not feel worthy to believe that he can have you on the long run, so he stays hidden to avoid falling madly in love and then getting extremely hurt.Yup, quite possible!
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I admit i am a bit more attractive but i am looking for something real and a nice guy. But lowkey idk if this is my inner scorpio but the longer he puts it off the more worried i get that there might be something wrong with him (sexually) that hes hiding. And hes waiting until im too attached to leave easily.
Posted by Caliscorpio
Thank you both for replying!Heres an update in case anyone is interested, so he did it again! He started to make plans and when i didnt want to go he pushed harder than i agreed and he basically said nvm id rather lay in bed all day....
—
I got mad and did a stupid reply then he got mad at me—??
So i called him out and he said that wasnt his intention.he just likes to get to know people first because he is looking for something serious. I went shopping and i ate before i replied so i calmed down and basically told him to just let me know when he is ready.
He said he is and appeared frustrated with me (i thought i was being nice?) So at this moment he is making offical plans but i have to walk him through the every step.
Maybe he is just inexperienced?
Tell what happen after you have date please.
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I will! If it actally happens this time
Posted by Caliscorpio
Thank you both for replying!Heres an update in case anyone is interested, so he did it again! He started to make plans and when i didnt want to go he pushed harder than i agreed and he basically said nvm id rather lay in bed all day....
—
I got mad and did a stupid reply then he got mad at me—??
So i called him out and he said that wasnt his intention.he just likes to get to know people first because he is looking for something serious. I went shopping and i ate before i replied so i calmed down and basically told him to just let me know when he is ready.
He said he is and appeared frustrated with me (i thought i was being nice?) So at this moment he is making offical plans but i have to walk him through the every step.
Maybe he is just inexperienced?
Tell what happen after you have date please.
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I will! If it actally happens this time
Posted by Caliscorpio
Thank you both for replying!Heres an update in case anyone is interested, so he did it again! He started to make plans and when i didnt want to go he pushed harder than i agreed and he basically said nvm id rather lay in bed all day....
—
I got mad and did a stupid reply then he got mad at me—??
So i called him out and he said that wasnt his intention.he just likes to get to know people first because he is looking for something serious. I went shopping and i ate before i replied so i calmed down and basically told him to just let me know when he is ready.
He said he is and appeared frustrated with me (i thought i was being nice?) So at this moment he is making offical plans but i have to walk him through the every step.
Maybe he is just inexperienced?
Tell what happen after you have date please.
I will! If it actally happens this time
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😉
Posted by Arielle
Maybe you are so beautiful and special, that he does not feel worthy to believe that he can have you on the long run, so he stays hidden to avoid falling madly in love and then getting extremely hurt.Yup, quite possible!
I admit i am a bit more attractive but i am looking for something real and a nice guy. But lowkey idk if this is my inner scorpio but the longer he puts it off the more worried i get that there might be something wrong with him (sexually) that hes hiding. And hes waiting until im too attached to leave easily.
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Well that's interesting...
He is afraid of getting hurt. Get him out of his shell, look at him with your wide sad scorpio eyes, and he will melt forever. You cannot go wrong. Just get him to step out of the fear cage. Go after him if you must. Write him a poem. We, cancers, love that. We always push away the ones we like most, because those are the ones that terrify us the most...
You hold within your hands the potential to bring him back on that same room floor, but this time bleeding in tears to death. We feel things just like you, 1000 times amplified. And not for just anyone. So consider it a compliment. If he would not be rattled by you, you would see him every day, no hiding 🙂 but you are something special, a goddess, and gods create uncertainty..."why would she stay with me" "am I good enough" maybe he dreams of doing things over the top for you, but can't afford it. Maybe you walk around with an arsenal of expensive purses, and it makes him feel small and unable to cater to your life style . It could be anything related to fear. Fear of getting hurt. Fear of losing you. You need to reassure him, tell him you miss him, tell him he is special and he will come out. And once he does, cancer+scorpio... deep water fireworks. Soulmate magic. Be patient and do not give up. This is what we do, we test to see how fast you will be giving up and then we can say "she didn't like me that much anyway..." These are walls we put up to protect ourselves... nothing more. You have to go trough them. Good things take patience and effort... and then you will be rewarded. A cancer heart is a rare heart and if you have it, you will be loved like no other
And we actually like that texting back and forth period. It creates friction. It gets us to trust you.
Posted by Seraphlight
I think he sounds too flakey to be honest. Forget that!
But how can he be flakey when he wants to meet up and OP is the one refusing? I think they are going around in circles.
Posted by Seraphlight
I think he sounds too flakey to be honest. Forget that!But how can he be flakey when he wants to meet up and OP is the one refusing? I think they are going around in circles.
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I never refused? Idk why you keep saying that. I asked him if what he had planned was appropriate for the weather. And then he went on to convince me it was only to flake after i said yes. We get along so well until he starts to say we should go out but then he doesnt go through with it.
Posted by Seraphlight
I think he sounds too flakey to be honest. Forget that!But how can he be flakey when he wants to meet up and OP is the one refusing? I think they are going around in circles.
I never refused? Idk why you keep saying that. I asked him if what he had planned was appropriate for the weather. And then he went on to convince me it was only to flake after i said yes. We get along so well until he starts to say we should go out but then he doesnt go through with it.
He is messing you about. Flakey.
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I am trying to give him the benifit of tbe doubt. I just feel we have to real of a connection to throw it away yet. Ill update this in about a week.
Listen to my words. I am a cancer and all I loved were scorpios. And I treated them like that.
Posted by Arielle
Listen to my words. I am a cancer and all I loved were scorpios. And I treated them like that.
Thank you ahah honestly youre the one giving me hope. I love your advice and thoughts
Posted by Arielle
Listen to my words. I am a cancer and all I loved were scorpios. And I treated them like that.
Posted by Arielle
Listen to my words. I am a cancer and all I loved were scorpios. And I treated them like that.Thank you ahah honestly youre the one giving me hope. I love your advice and thoughts
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Hug.
Update: so i was getting irritated because he started getting distant. But we had our date and everything was amazing!
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So i have been texting this cancer man now everyday all day for about a month now. The first two times we couldnt go out because of me. But he asked me out again the night before but no specific plans. The next day he didnt text me the whole day and said he was busy and forgot. I naturaly took 8 steps back but started replying to him again a couple days later.
Later i ended up calling him out on it because we still have not gone out. He said thats not something i had to worry about with a smiley face. Wtf does that mean—?
He then got mad at me the other day basically saying id be a bad influence on him. But he said he still wanted to go out with me. (I think he realized it was more of his problem) sorry i dont want to be too specific.
He becomes more attentive and clingy when i tell him ima go to a party. So he asked me out again. But i was being petty and was giving him a hard time. He said we will plan it today but again he hasnt even brought it up?
Why put so much time into someone if you are not serious? I need answers or opinions please