Cancer Man disappeared into a puff of smoke!

Been going out with a Cancer man for a little over 3 weeks now. Everything was seemingly going well. Asked him if he wanted to catch a movie he agreed and then *POOF* nothing. He just disappeared. I sent him a text a couple of days ago and I haven't received a reply so I haven't pushed by calling or texting at all. I'm just pretty much letting him do whatever he needs to do without pestering. Just wondering if I'm going about this the right way. I like him and I don't want him to think I'm not interested. But at the same time I'm not afraid to lose him just yet. I mean we have only been going out 3 weeks.

Thoughts? Advice?

Wait for him to come back to you.... He disappeared for a reason.... Hopefully it's a good one. But DO NOT pester him. Let him contact you once he's ready. Maybe an ex came back into his life, who knows.

@cancergoddess I thought I was going to right way about it. I'm hopefully he's taking the time to try and figure me out because he likes me so I am giving him his space to do that. So I haven't called or texted him at all. I figured he would reach out to me when he is ready. Good thing I have lots of other things to occupy my time and stuff like this doesn't make me crazy 🙂

Posted by cancergoddess143
Wait for him to come back to you.... He disappeared for a reason.... Hopefully it's a good one. But DO NOT pester him. Let him contact you once he's ready. Maybe an ex came back into his life, who knows.

LOL if an ex is back in the picture; that's if the ex ever left to begin with.
She would do well to move on.

I find a lot of water guys start seeing other women when they are feuding with the gf, then disappear when they make up with their gf.

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Posted by cancergoddess143
Wait for him to come back to you.... He disappeared for a reason.... Hopefully it's a good one. But DO NOT pester him. Let him contact you once he's ready. Maybe an ex came back into his life, who knows.

LOL if an ex is back in the picture; that's if the ex ever left to begin with.
She would do well to move on.

I find a lot of water guys start seeing other women when they are feuding with the gf, then disappear when they make up with their gf.

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Very true!

I actually do this too, hehe 😉

I think maybe we did move a little fast and he wants to pump the breaks which I am perfectly ok with. I don't like the disappearing act. I am more of the "Just tell me you need some time" type but to each their own. Like I said we have only been going out for 3 weeks so I'm ok with it. There was a lot of time invested. I do like him A LOT and I want to see more of him but I am not the type to try to make someone be with me or like me. It's up to him in the meantime I'm just going to live my life. If he gets back to me GREAT🙂 but if not that's cool too. 😉

Posted by blackcanary007
I think maybe we did move a little fast and he wants to pump the breaks which I am perfectly ok with. I don't like the disappearing act. I am more of the "Just tell me you need some time" type but to each their own. Like I said we have only been going out for 3 weeks so I'm ok with it. There was a lot of time invested. I do like him A LOT and I want to see more of him but I am not the type to try to make someone be with me or like me. It's up to him in the meantime I'm just going to live my life. If he gets back to me GREAT🙂 but if not that's cool too. 😉

I meant there WASN'T a lot of time invested.

Why u care though?Anyways, lack of money. Ex is back with a bang or you too confusing. the scorch has spoken. Can you cook?

Posted by ReddmannScorch
Why u care though?Anyways, lack of money. Ex is back with a bang or you too confusing. the scorch has spoken. Can you cook?

I do care but I can't waste too much of my time over thinking the issue. If he is interested he will come back around. Money isn't an issue we both work and yes I can cook. If there is an Ex back in the picture then I am doing the right thing by not losing too much sleep over it I would think. but thank you for your reply

Posted by Iwill
How long has he been "gone" for now? A couple of days?? 😄 😄 You cray cray girl!😄

Cancer don't dissapear all the time, sometimes they just stay away and watch you from afar. See how you live your life without them, how you act with others. Not all people are the same, but this is my experience.

This means sometimes keeping away from afar (also so they can deal with their own life), glancing at you while sitting next to you, not saying hi right away if you meet, but standing a little while away and just looking at you, looking for you in a croud but not neccesarily saying hi 😄 😄 It also means somtimes you can feel left alone, but at the same time it gives you the chance to really show, who you are.

This is just my experience (but this one is a weirdo😄 But I believe all cancers are, all I know fo sure!).

It's not the number of days that raised the alarm to me it was the ignorance of my text. He didn't reply. It's all cool. If I was "cray cray" I would be flipping out about it but I'm not. Like I said he will come back around when he's ready. I just wanted to know if this was a normal occurrence for Cancer men because I have never dated one before is all. If it's a normal thing then I'm ok with it. Just wanted to know.

Because he did not answer a text—?u really into this dude.lol. Whooaaaaaa!!!!!Cancers does have an affect on people. Meh!

If you don't want this to be a reoccurring theme I'd suggest not to let him back so easy. He has to work to get back in.

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Posted by cancergoddess143
Wait for him to come back to you.... He disappeared for a reason.... Hopefully it's a good one. But DO NOT pester him. Let him contact you once he's ready. Maybe an ex came back into his life, who knows.

LOL if an ex is back in the picture; that's if the ex ever left to begin with.
She would do well to move on.

I find a lot of water guys start seeing other women when they are feuding with the gf, then disappear when they make up with their gf.

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+100

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Posted by cancergoddess143
Wait for him to come back to you.... He disappeared for a reason.... Hopefully it's a good one. But DO NOT pester him. Let him contact you once he's ready. Maybe an ex came back into his life, who knows.

LOL if an ex is back in the picture; that's if the ex ever left to begin with.
She would do well to move on.

I find a lot of water guys start seeing other women when they are feuding with the gf, then disappear when they make up with their gf.

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geez, what?
It seems you ladies have all but decided you know this individual Cancer guy, based on very limited facts/info, maybe you're right, maybe you're not, but you are making a strong assumption here.
smh

When or if BlackCanary receives a response or explanation, there is still a number of possibilities for his disappearance.

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Yes. Personally, I think it's an alien abduction. They're probably doing all sorts of depraved experiments on the poor fellow as we type....

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Posted by cancergoddess143
Wait for him to come back to you.... He disappeared for a reason.... Hopefully it's a good one. But DO NOT pester him. Let him contact you once he's ready. Maybe an ex came back into his life, who knows.

LOL if an ex is back in the picture; that's if the ex ever left to begin with.
She would do well to move on.

I find a lot of water guys start seeing other women when they are feuding with the gf, then disappear when they make up with their gf.

+100

geez, what?
It seems you ladies have all but decided you know this individual Cancer guy, based on very limited facts/info, maybe you're right, maybe you're not, but you are making a strong assumption here.
smh

When or if BlackCanary receives a response or explanation, there is still a number of possibilities for his disappearance.

Yes. Personally, I think it's an alien abduction. They're probably doing all sorts of depraved experiments on the poor fellow as we type....

LOL
Yeah man, those probes hurt like a bitch!

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But at least it's easier to drop a deuce for a few months after....

I'm a Sagittarius. I also think it was an alien abduction because those things are a normal occurrence in my area. I hope they bring him back soon without the probing of course 🙂 🙂 LOL

Posted by ReddmannScorch
Because he did not answer a text—?u really into this dude.lol. Whooaaaaaa!!!!!Cancers does have an affect on people. Meh!

Two days to reply to a text is not unreasonable to me. I think it's rude just to completely ignore it but it could be a number of reasons for this which is why I didn't jump the gun and bombard his phone with messages or phone calls (which I think is rude also). He'll get back to me when he's ready.