Cancer Man Taurus Woman

We were together for close to 2 years. Part of it was long distance. He was SOOO in love with me, and he grew on me. I fell for him. Just a little over a month ago, things started to fall apart. He stopped calling. Then, he'd make the usual excuses about being busy, yet telling me he wants to get back to the way things used to be with us. Only, he'd never really put much effort. Then, the distance got to him (understandably), but he still wanted to be together. I gave him every opportunity to get out if he wanted. I told him we could breakup and I wouldn't beg or call or text. He kept telling me that isn't what he wanted. Well, over 2 weeks ago, he started to ignore my calls. He allied me back one day, started this whole crap about the distance thing, he loved me, PROMISED he would call back, but didn't. So, I called him the next day, no answer or call back. I haven't called or texted him since. It's been 2 weeks. Last week (after 10 days of silence), I get a dirty text from him. I never replied. I didn't want him to think he could ignore me, but contact me when he wanted sex. 6 days now, and nothing from him since then. I'm wondering if the text was accidental? Was it meant for someone else? Is that possible when I haven't contact him in 10-14 days? Now, I'm missing him like CRAZY. I thought about contacting him, but what if there is someone else?! I need some guidance here, please ??

Turn 180 degrees the other direction, start walking, and don't look back.

Read your post. Does it sound like he's in love with you? There is no reason for dichotomous thought processes when you already know everything you need to know.

Here's what you know:

- He avoids contact with you

- He doesn't return your attempts to contact him

- Tells you things he doesn't mean, and has no intention of following through with

- He will contact you when he wants sex, and that's it

- Your crazy about him and know you shouldn't be

Very sorry you're going through this, but you'll get through it faster by no longer including this jerk in your list of priorities.

Posted by Crabra
Turn 180 degrees the other direction, start walking, and don't look back.

Read your post. Does it sound like he's in love with you? There is no reason for dichotomous thought processes when you already know everything you need to know.

Here's what you know:

- He avoids contact with you

- He doesn't return your attempts to contact him

- Tells you things he doesn't mean, and has no intention of following through with

- He will contact you when he wants sex, and that's it

- Your crazy about him and know you shouldn't be

Very sorry you're going through this, but you'll get through it faster by no longer including this jerk in your list of priorities.

Thank you for being so honest and straight with me. And no, it doesn't seem like he did love me. At least not for the last month. But, there was a time when he did. But, I know that's the past. I'm just going through a whole range of emotions. One minute, I want to text him and apologize to him for things that I'm thinking i may have done wrong (not being supportive enough, not being quick about deciding to move together, etc). The next minute, I'm so PISSED! I mean, I gave him every opportunity to do this right, and he STILL chose to disappear on me! I told him many times, that if he ever decided he didn't want to be together, all he had to do was TELL ME. I wouldn't cry, I wouldn't beg, I would just let him go. And he still chose the route to ignore me. And after 10 days of me not contacting him, giving him space, giving him his freedom, he texts me (accidentally maybe?), and I'm sitting here wondering why. And no matter how hard I try not to think about it, to shrug it off, I can't. I don't get it. I miss him. I keep praying, begging to God that he will call me. A part of me has a lot of hope. Then, I read your advice and I get angry (not at you lol).