Cancer man wants me to take the lead. Should I pursue him or let him chase me?

I met a 26 year old cancer man 3 weeks ago through a friend of mine. At first he was incredibly enthusiastic, constantly complimenting me on my looks/personality, texting everyday, good morning & good night messages included. He asked me on a date and it went great. He opened up about his family, past relationships, hobbies, interests for the future... and was so interested in getting to know about me. We didn't kiss (not sure if he was being shy, respectful, or just because he had a really bad cold that day and was being considerate) but after we went our separate ways, he told me that he enjoyed our time together and that he really wanted to see me again next week. He's a very busy guy that studies, works as a teacher during the weekdays and works at a nightclub during the weekends, but he was still very eager to make time for me. A lot of girls hit on him since he's very handsome and I've playfully teased him about it but he assured me that the girl he was interested in was me, and to be honest, he doesn't seem to be the player type, so I believed him.

The thing is, this past 2 weeks he has been texting less than usual. I told him, in a playful manner always, that he was ignoring me, and to my surprise he said he was waiting for me to also take the lead. I have no problem in doing so (i'm a Leo by the way) so I decided to initiate the texts as well, with good responses from him, luckily. He asked me out on Monday but I was busy that day, so he said said that we should go on another date any other day of the week and that he was really looking forward to it. I texted him the next day, trying to "take the lead" asking him if he was free on thursday night, with absolute no response. 8 days have gone by and still nothing.

What do you guys think? Should I just leave it there and see if he comes back (let him chase me again like he initially did) or text him again?
He told me last week that his father, who he has a bad relationship with, was in town, and that he was going to meet up with him. It's kind of a rough emotional situation so I don't want to pressure him if he needs space.

Thank you in advance! 🙂

I thinks you've answered your own question in the title. "Cancer man wants me to take the lead."

He's expressed that he would like to see you reach out to him as well. This fits with what I've experienced with cancers. They like to know that they are appreciated and that their affection is returned.

Texting him again at this point is redundant. Your next step would be to call him. If he doesn't pick up leave him a short, cute message. Focus here on the SHORT. Tell him you've been thinking of him and can't wait to see him again. Then the ball is in his court.

Even if he is preoccupied with his fathers visit, IF he is interested in seeing you... he WILL call you back.

Thank you so much for the response! I decided to do so and he has explained the difficult situation he's going through and says he definetely wants to go on another date! 🙂

Posted by LadyNeptune
I thinks you've answered your own question in the title. "Cancer man wants me to take the lead."

He's expressed that he would like to see you reach out to him as well. This fits with what I've experienced with cancers. They like to know that they are appreciated and that their affection is returned.

Texting him again at this point is redundant. Your next step would be to call him. If he doesn't pick up leave him a short, cute message. Focus here on the SHORT. Tell him you've been thinking of him and can't wait to see him again. Then the ball is in his court.

Even if he is preoccupied with his fathers visit, IF he is interested in seeing you... he WILL call you back.

I have to respectfully disagree here about the father's visit. I think if he has some emotional stuff going on, and any of it is negative, he could need space and distance.

You haven't done anything wrong, and just asking about another date to go out is fine. He'll answer you. Just give him some time. If you don't hear in a few more days, I'd just send a "Hey, I've been thinking about you today! Hope you're well." Nothing more.

I agree with a couple responses on here...1.) decide if you want to be the initiator/leader going forward because he's already setting that tone for you. I know I personally would not want to have to take the reigns...at least not solely. 2.) definitely a short/sweet text without pressure of hanging out, just let him know you were thinking about him and hope all is well...leave it open for him to respond, if he can't bother responding to a light, thoughtful text like that then I would just plan to move forward.

Sucks when stuff like this happens and we don't get answers as to why, but at least you haven't invested too much.