Dating a Cancer Man

Posted by kalin
Obviously he has lost interests
Move on

You're probably right......😢

He does tend to go ghost for days and then hit me up out of the blue, but we always end up having sex if I reply back...and I don't want to just be a booty call.

I've just had kind of a similar experience with a cancer man, who was constantly hot and cold. He always made up excuses for not meeting me... and I know how hurtful and confusing this feels. So Yeah, I'd also say move on and find a better man who really wants to be with you!

For sure. Thanks for the advice. He is hot but he isn't worth the headache!

Cancer men don't blow hot and cold if they really like you...they may test the waters here and there to make sure they are not being too vulnerable, but in my experience, when a Cancer man feels anything real for you, you will know.

nevermind

It sounds like the switch has flipped. He was into you, and you were into him, and now you're too into him and that's not what he wants. However long you were together/not-together, just go silent for a while. I mean... a while. Not a couple of days. More like three weeks.

However, that whole thing about your birthday weekend? Oh hell no. I'd break up over that, for sure.

Posted by GalOnTheCusp
It sounds like the switch has flipped. He was into you, and you were into him, and now you're too into him and that's not what he wants. However long you were together/not-together, just go silent for a while. I mean... a while. Not a couple of days. More like three weeks.

However, that whole thing about your birthday weekend? Oh hell no. I'd break up over that, for sure.

How awful is that! Why would he not want her to be into him? Are all cancer men like this? They go silent on you when they sense you like them a lot? They back off? What's with the games? Why would he persue in the first place and then back away....

Posted by GalOnTheCusp
It sounds like the switch has flipped. He was into you, and you were into him, and now you're too into him and that's not what he wants. However long you were together/not-together, just go silent for a while. I mean... a while. Not a couple of days. More like three weeks.

However, that whole thing about your birthday weekend? Oh hell no. I'd break up over that, for sure.

I'm pretty much already over him, the more time we spend not talking the more pissed off I get.

Posted by Arielle83
He doesn't trust you. He liked you and when he found out you had a bf he gave you that ultimatum for him to distance and because he probably didn't think you'd break up a 4 yr relationship just to fool around with a guy you barely knew.

Cancer thinks long term and you seem too easy to bend plus your weird banter is off putting. He should be testing you since you've proven you lack loyalty but it sounds like he cbf.

Sorry but when everything is shown to a cancer, and we don't like it, we really couldn't give a fuck. His excuses reflect how little he cares about how lame you think they are.

I've told a guy I'm painting my nails and making papier-mâché for him to realise I couldn't give a fuck. This is the vagueness of a cancer, but in all honesty it just reflects his lack of respect towards you.

He can't trust you.

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Thanks for being so brutally honest. I needed that. I was blinded by how hot he was and how he made me feel physically that I ignored all his lame excuses....I am a lot smarter than that...I refuse to be treated like a fool. A guy who wants to be with me wouldn't treat like me that. 😢 😢 😢

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Posted by GalOnTheCusp
It sounds like the switch has flipped. He was into you, and you were into him, and now you're too into him and that's not what he wants. However long you were together/not-together, just go silent for a while. I mean... a while. Not a couple of days. More like three weeks.

However, that whole thing about your birthday weekend? Oh hell no. I'd break up over that, for sure.

I'm pretty much already over him, the more time we spend not talking the more pissed off I get.

Posted by Arielle83
He doesn't trust you. He liked you and when he found out you had a bf he gave you that ultimatum for him to distance and because he probably didn't think you'd break up a 4 yr relationship just to fool around with a guy you barely knew.

Cancer thinks long term and you seem too easy to bend plus your weird banter is off putting. He should be testing you since you've proven you lack loyalty but it sounds like he cbf.

Sorry but when everything is shown to a cancer, and we don't like it, we really couldn't give a fuck. His excuses reflect how little he cares about how lame you think they are.

I've told a guy I'm painting my nails and making papier-mâché for him to realise I couldn't give a fuck. This is the vagueness of a cancer, but in all honesty it just reflects his lack of respect towards you.

He can't trust you.

Thanks for being so brutally honest. I needed that. I was blinded by how hot he was and how he made me feel physically that I ignored all his lame excuses....I am a lot smarter than that...I refuse to be treated like a fool. A guy who wants to be with me wouldn't treat like me that. 😢 😢 😢

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There you go girl! You'll be fine.

"Testing" people, as Arielle83 puts it, with a series of tests that you don't know are happening, and don't know if you've passed or failed, is a bunch of bullshit in and of itself.

Jsz! I have just understood the girls have the same pattern with cancer guys! They seem to be the worst kind EVER or I'm getting sth wrong.
What kind of woman do they want? The one who doesn't care? I even don't know what they can chase...a dream?

Posted by kalin
Cancer guys I know in real life have a thing for Leo females. So be a Leo female lol

Haha. I'll try. I'm thinking this scorpio thing might last me a lifetime.

Um...update...we still haven't talked..at all since Friday. I deleted his number out of my contacts and call log in case I got the urge to drunk text him. So if we ever talk again he is going to have to start the conversation. It's been a week since we've seen each other.

I creeped on his moms FB (because he doesn't use his at all) and she posted about how he is going back home in December. We talked before about him going back for Christmas...so idk if he is going to stay or not. Hopefully he stays so I never have to deal with him again. It hurts...but I feel a lot stronger and wiser for not putting up with his crap.