Cancer man's text ...so confused.

uh yeah..... you're showing him that you're not that interested... like you could take it or leave it. Which as a libra you probably could and if you don't want to crush his ego [and his shell] you should probably just let this one go..... You already said at first you didn't like him then you did... that's too sketchy for a crab.

I don't think I will ever understand the women that come here and say they've rejected a crab and now they want him back but he's not biting...and they can't understand why.... of course I just plain don't understand why people go back and forth like that anyway.... you don't not like someone and then you suddenly do - they're the same person they were when you met them - so if you didn't like him then and you do now, it's just a chase thing......don't damage him by playing that game....

I know you're going to deny that's what you're doing, and that's fine... you'll say all the same things everyone else who does this says.... but if you're being honest with yourself you really are just after what you don't have.

angelfish he did it again good job OPRAH! thats true libra that how i would have token it

well....you see the same story here over and over.... and a great deal of it from the same star signs [go ahead and tell me sign has nothing to do with it.....] women come here telling the same story of how they rejected a cancer man, and then when he lost interest in pursuing they changed their minds and suddenly [miraculously] realized he is the man of their dreams... awww... but now he's not interested, and they find themselves desperate to be the crab.....
And all the while those of us who truly appreciate these sensitive creatures pay the price for the damage these women do [There is a certain libra whose neck I would be most happy to wring at the moment.....]
I have to wonder why these women are wired this way?? it just seems cruel that they always want the poor shy crab and then end up hurting them over and over.... Why not look for someone more compatible and leave the poor things in their shells for someone more sensitive to come along and join them? [we bulls are MOST happy to stay put inside those shells along with the crabs - no need to go out and see what the rest of the world is up to when everything that matters is right inside that shell with us!]

damn..angelfish u need to write a book and wats ur zodiac sign—?

I am a taurus - the problem with me writing a book is that exactly the people who should be reading it would be the same ones who don't want to listen because they want things to go the way they want them to.

When someone wants something, particularly forceful air and fire signs, they just aren't willing to listen when someone tells them they can't/shouldn't have it. I've certainly been guilty of it myself - but never in the contect of hurting someone else to get what I want. I've only ever hurt myself going after something that wasn't right for me.

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just tell him...listen I really like you lets get together tonight.....we like to the point.....

angelfish, I completely agree with what you're saying. I will add that when I had started to like him he was still flirting with me/showing interest. It wasn't that he lost interest and then I started liking him, it was just that he grew on me. I've never had interest in a guy when first meeting him. It has always taken awhile before I started to "like" him. However, I probably should have told him that when he mentioned that he was confused by it .

you are again showing your nature.... he may still have been flirting, but I'd be willing to bet [and a bull NEVER bets] that his interest was waning at the time [of course I wouldn't take you word for it - so let's not throw any money down....]and I'm sure that's EXACTLY when you start to take an interest in someone - when you see, not necessarily that the intereest is comepletely gone, but once it's not as overt, when they start to give up. You have a very obvious "chaser" personality.... you NEVER like someone when you first meet them? Like I said..... they are the same people they were when you met.... but it wasn't until they starrted cutting their losses that you were in the game.

and keep in mind there is a difference between flirting and pursuing... we flirt with people we like, even the ones who aren't interested; hey, it gives us something to do. If he likes you he'll flirt to enjoy the attention from someone he's interested in, but that doesn't mean he'll go after anything more - and that is the distinction that YOU see when you kick into chase mode - he's flirting, but not PURSUING.

xangelfishx
l find u harsh sometimes , but your Bang on girl !!, and yes Libra! No good forget it , they like the flirt the chase, but come onto them, and they shut you out , too hurtful to Cancer , no one knows our pain , maybe only Taurus and Scorpio, thats why they know how to hurt us if we need a lesson in behaviour from time to time ,and we know that too. it put us in our place ,but LIBRA NO WAY! to superfical ,Head over Heart. never very good l know a Libra who walked away from a Taurus friend of mine who was totally mad about him he could do no wrong ,even thou we could see he was to cold for her. as soon as he got her pregnant , without a word walked away in June 08 and not as much as a text or Email , hes last words l want to do so much and and l never thought u to be the mother of my childern, l am still helping her now after the termination.

I can be harsh - but only when the situation calls for it......

Seriously, stop playing games with us poor shy crabs. We really don't appreciate it. We hate deception, we hate people pushing our buttons and we lose interest quickly when we think someone's pulling our strings.

xangelfishx hit it on the mark with her posts. they were 100% correct. i, myself, am a cancer male and i absolutely HATE it when people try to do this push-pull thing with me. if they like me, show me. if they don't, that's fine too. we can still be friends.

i never try to change people -- one great thing about us Cancer men is that we'll let you be who you are. BUT...we want to see the REAL you and once we've seen the REAL you...we'll decide for ourselves if you're right for us. the mature Cancers are looking for real connections with people who will not toy with our feelings or play immature games with us. we're just looking for someone who'll respect us, be sensitive with our feelings and let us feel emotionally safe with.

if you think you can provide that to a crab, i think you have a good shot at getting him.

WARNING: DONT PLAY THE PUSH-PULL GAME WITH A CRAB...IT WILL DRIVE HIM NUTS AND TRUST ME...YOU DO NOT WANT AN EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE CRAB ON YOUR HANDS!

well *I* hate having to deal with the mess these chicks leave behind....

cancers are sensitive enough as it is - when chicks come along and play with their hearts and hurt them [because these women think it's all in fun...all part of the game of love] then women like me have to deal with all the insecurity and fear and runnning away.....

Have a heart - play with someone less emotionally fragile....

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yes..... but when people like this get involved they convince cancer men that EVERYONE is lying - or at least that they NEED to believe that in order to protect themselves.

Thanks Cancerbuddy! I think we're into the same kind of girls...girls who are REAL, open and up front about who they are, and sensitive to our feelings. luckily for us, us Cancers are pretty good at seeing the REAL side of each person...whew!

imacancer, all of what you have said above is exactly why people need to just let it go and stop trying to figure out how to "get" someone......

people have different style s of dating and relating - if yours is to be nonchalant then you don't belong with someone who is the opposite - end of story. This is not compatibility and trying to change yourself to be someone they find compatible is not going to make a relationship work - no matter how much you "want" someone. They are not for you and that is all there is to it, because you approach relatioships differently.

ur the bomb angelfish.. its really true. I relaized that cancers dont like bs they want you to be honest with them . respect and love them.

i totally agree with imacancer...

just remember, 75% of how much a Cancer likes you is how much you show HIM that you like him...

if you show him indifference or dislike, that's like killing 75% of his interest in you.

OK.... my friends.... What about when that Cancer Guy... plays with someonelses head——

I've going into my 4th year... of the push/pull crap.. with a Cancer Guy....

I left in early 2008 after he disrepected me.... I would not bow down to his subsequent demands... He owes me a lot of money.. which I walked away from... (His leash on my life)... I do not contact him... He is the one playing these friggen games.

I get ghostly calls.... Hang ups.... and most recently... Xmas Day... text..

Well it's been awhile.... but here we go again.... 3 years out now.

Yup it seems to take forever....

A little background.... I DON'T TEXT ANYONE... AND NOBODY TEXTS' ME... EVER... OTHER THAN TELUS MOBILITY... ARRGGGGG.

On Dec 25 2010 9:02 AM text comes in...
Merryyyyy Christmas to you and the rest of your family. Have a wonderful day today & a properous New Year when it comes!!!!

Now this came in on a cell number... I had no clue who was sending me this... but had my suspicions.....A few days out... I decided to call the number... Private Caller... to see what I would get. I got V-mail message.. Some women with a very generic message at the other end... I still knew who it was tho... Call me psychic... what can I tell you. Even if this person had covered New Years... I suspected.. that I would get a message on New Years.... Yup came in at 11:10 am

On 1-Jan-11 11:10 AM text comes in...Happy New Year

I did nothing with it... until Today..... I sent him a simple message..... Read below:


1/2/2011 text
Me -Boo Boo (I sent the same message on Holloween night 2008)

Him -What does Boo Boo mean?

Me -If you don't know.. You must have the wrong no Sorry

Him -I don't have the wrong number. So it means that I'm your Darling. Thank U Have a wonderful and properous New year

Me -NO! It means I have your no

Him -OK??_ I got it!

Me -MFG (Yup he understood my criptic message from late 2009)

Him -I guess this means My Forgiving God

Him -Just Joking

ME -lol

Him -Have a good nite. Talk to you soon

Note that when I got the message early Christmas day..from some unknown number...I suspected him... as no other in my mind.. would text me like this.... I went back through my phone to see if this number ever registered before.... I so happens 4 calls came in which I missed in July... July being the real eye opener for me... as that would be his birthday.

Part 2

Can some Cancer expert out there please enlighten me as to what I may expect—?? ZERO communication in 2009 on my part...but it seems to me... that he is still holding on...to something... .... and yes I know it is him.... NO doubt in my mind... at all.

Would he not wonder or be driven crazy with thought... as to how I knew he was the texting party from that other number...when the message was left by some women.... Just saying. How the heck am I so sure?? And I am!!!!