Cancer Men - About mom

Stereotypically cancer men tend to treat mom like the queen matricarch she is and tend to honestly love their moms. Question is: What happens when a cancer male doesn't have a mom?

Say, how does a cancer male child or teenage boy who doesn't have a mom fill that void? Will he be able to develop properly? Would he need to latch on to a mother figure to fill that role? Will he be just as adjusted as any other boy who doesn't have a mother? Will he eventually marry a woman who prefers to baby him? Will he be more into older women searching for the perpetual mother figure?

I don't really know how to pose this question properly because obviously any child without a mother would be dealing with that same void. I am just wondering if it would affect a male cancer more so than other signs.

Any thoughts? I'm just curious about this. So have any of our cancer men lost mom at an early age? Know a cancer man who has? Please share your experiences.

I know a cancer boy whose mother isn't in his life and am very curious how this will affect him.

Posted by J9
Speaking from experience from the cancer men that I met who fit that profile, they will fill that space with other people, but not necessarily mother figures.

They will fill these needs by having over protective friends. They would be too attached with their mother in law if they get to develop a good relationship. They would have a harder "shell" than what you can imagine, but to be honest, they will always be fucked up at some level. Will probably have his own family at a very young age.

He would resent his step mother if she tried to be his mother.

I can see how they would be too attached to a mother in law.

Posted by Fox
I scared to be committed because the most important woman in his life is gone and so maybe he feels like in the long-run he'll be left or hurt, so maybe there's this conflict of craving intimacy with a woman and fear of being rejected/left.

This would be my suspicion - that he would be afaid to commit because every important woman in his life has left him.

Do you think there is anything that can be done to prevent some of that? Can a friend of relative make a positive impact?

Posted by aquavita

Posted by truecap

Posted by Fox
I scared to be committed because the most important woman in his life is gone and so maybe he feels like in the long-run he'll be left or hurt, so maybe there's this conflict of craving intimacy with a woman and fear of being rejected/left.

This would be my suspicion - that he would be afaid to commit because every important woman in his life has left him.

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I hope it is bulshit. 🙂

Posted by Fox
Who's the cancer boy to you?how old is he?
(smh I keep saying maybe...stap fox!)

There are two actually.

One is 12, mom is in jail, lives with grandmother.

The other is a teen. Lost mom, ex-step mom doesn't contact him (after divorce) and both grandmothers are alive, but aging.

Posted by aquavita
well, the last cancer man i encountered and the first one to be intimate with and know enough to say about this topic lost his mom at the age of 24. he is 32 now. he calls her the most amazing person in his life, a beautiful person, the nicest woman. he has been married already once, has had numerous partners and to me seems loyalty to the one he has chosen for a partner is of great importance to him. he does not seem at all to need protection or a replacement for his mom. he needs cuddling yes. he is very independent. he is about to get married second time. p.s. my father is a gemini and his mother was the most authoritative, and loved by him figure in his life( she was a cancer), causing a lot of friction between him and my mom due to this relationship they had.

Might be healthier about it because he lost his mom as an adult instead of as a child.

Posted by aquavita
grandmother can be as great as a mother even to a cancer. second child obviously will be facing problems. but so do many children with missing parents. or dysfunctional ones. in the example i mentioned he lost her at 20 actually , but still not too young, he did attempt suicide.

True. I just wondered if it would affect cancer harder than other signs.

And sad your friend lost his mom, even sadder on the suicide attempt. Hope he's healthier now. 😢

The Cancer man I just dated. Didn't talk very well about his Mother. Said she tried to put alot of guilt trips on him. Ironically enough she is ill and he moved back closer to her to take care of her.
We ended things before he left because he got distant. About two weeks ago, he sent me a text saying how much he missed me. I told him I missed him too. That was July 19th. Since then I have heard nothing from him.
Don't know what to do?

Cancer ex found his mothers suicide hanging in the kitchen doorway when he was 16...
Needless to say traumatic all round but although he is a sweet heart and an old fashioned gentleman now, he always has A WALL up... always 😢
Nothing will ever bring it down. All the love in the world cant change that,
but he doesn't show it at all, you gotta be real close to even know the story.
He's been working with people for twenty years who don't even know his dad and twin brother are working the same company with him!
Anyway, he doesn't quite trust women.