Cancer Men and Love

there's only one woman in the world that pops to mind... i met her ages ago, and we were really good friends for a long time.. and i was completely in love with her. she was easy to talk to, i felt like i could be around her at all times of the day, she felt completely REAL, and set me at ease, even though we were "just friends"... she was funny, she never made me feel like i had to try to be someone i wasn't. basically, i felt like i was at home. sadly, it never worked out, but whatever...

i was really immature at the time and couldn't deal with what i was feeling, so i never really confronted it other than trying to drop hints about how i felt. i personally thought it was obvious i was nuts about her, and i thought she wasn't interested in being more than friends because she would mention other guys she liked and/or obsessed over, so i just had to let it go--which wasn't easy. later, she said she never knew how i felt after i told her.. so again, my immaturity struck against me.

i still miss having her in my life to this day, even though we occasionally see one another. she was completely different than anyone else i've ever "had feelings" for... i guess i confused simple attraction as more than that, and i was completely overwhelmed by her. she's a scorpio, so maybe that has something to do with it. i dunno.

retrospect can kiss my ass 🙂

i dunno, it's probably like you, i missed my chance and i doubt she'd let me close to her again... or at least that's what it feels like.

I liked this one scorp girl and even thought she was my one great love. The attraction was overwhelming too. As a cancer and although I may be attracted to other girls, but I still think there's only one person for me. And when I do find them, I won't have to second guess which mkes it look as if I'm playing games.

When cancers withdraw all of a sudden and do not continue previous mushy behavior it is generally because something has made them pause and they are mulling things over to decide whether or not they want to go in the same direction or not. Sad thing for you is that whether he decides to go on in that direction or completely change his course (or his girlfriend) he will probably try to keep you fully on board until his decision is made so that he doesn't lose anything that he is not completely prepared for.

it's definitely a cancer thing, not being able to let go. as far as being distant et al, i think he's testing you.

Can you explain "testing you" if you don't mind? Kate

well, i think he's playing hard to get and seeing how dedicated you are to him. or i could be wrong and he just wants his space. i know it's childish, but i've been distant before, just to see if the person notices and cares

but if that's the case, don't call him on it (like: "you're acting really distant"), just tell him you miss him and you feel like you two are distant


or something like that