Cancer men and possesiveness: should I be ticked?

I've posted a lot on here about my situation with a male Cancer. I'm moving to his town in Canada in 5 days for work and previously we lived 3 hrs from eachother. Everytime I went to visit (he never came to visit me-doesn't have a car) He'd pay for everything, keep his arm around me, act like my bf, etc. The last time I visited him was almost a month ago. He has no minutes on his phone but after I left he put some on and was texting me for a week and then I heard nothing from him for 3 weeks. He recently facebook chatted me but that's it.

Ok, so I get that Cancer men hide in shells and whatever. But what I'm slightly ticked about is how I've heard from his friends that he's been counting down the days til I get there and basically expects me to be his gf when he hasn't communicated with me basically at ALL. It's not just "Shelling", it's on the verge of being rude. I sent him a graduation announcement in the mail, nothing. I sent him a facebook message asking when he'd want to come visit me in the states (he said he would the last time I saw him)-nothing. I sent him a text message a week or so ago-nothing. And yet I'm supposed to just be "his" when I get there?

I know you're probably thinking well you're the one who's been obsessing over him on these boards these past months.. but I'm starting to see my stupidity. I was even considering losing my virginity to him and you know what.. he doesn't deserve it. Not yet or even in the near future at least. Yeah he's a gentleman and he pays for everything and is nice and polite but I don't think respect ends there. Respect is responding to people out of courtesy even if you're in a "shelling" mood. I get that they are emotional and all, but there is a fine line between being emotional and being selfish.

What should I do? I'm moving there on Saturday and living with some mutual friends. Would it put him off if I told him that I need time to get to know him and take it slow before we start anything? I don't think it's fair that he can be so possessive over me without even asking me to be his girlfriend. Blah. Men.

thomas I get what you're saying but I'm MOVING there in 5 days and he's known this for some time.

I think you should follow Noosiekins advise. Yes Cancer man are very confusing. One day they are all over you, and the next they act like they don't even know you. I've been involved with a Cancer man for the past year and a half, and I'm not sure from one day to the next if he is still into me or not. You have done your part, the best is to sit back and wait for him to come to you. Otherwise it will appear that you are needy and clingy, and that is a real turn off for Cancers. Trust me, he will come back, it sometimes just takes time. The longest mine has disapeared for was 3 weeks. Sometimes they get caught up with other things, and you should not take it personal. I have felt ignored by my Cancer man about 100 times, if he doesn't respond to my e-mails ect. The best is to not over react when they do come back. Just be friendly and later on you can tell him that you don't like the way he ignores your messages, and you see it as being rude.