Hi guys!!! so you probably read my replies about how cancer boys always melt my heart and how they always do sweet things to make me feel special ( I am specifically talking about my bf ) Skylark and Leo1970 kind of know what I am talking about. However, we all agreed that these boys are so insecure.... My bf always asks if I am seeing someone else, if i dont love him anymore, why i dont call him as often as before,if i will stop loving him if he gets fat.. etc....Anyways, I have always trust mine, cause he is so sweet always talks to his family and friends about me like i am his princess, but this week once I was using his computer a IM message popped out... from some chick telling him she misses him and she wants to talk to him ( I trsut him so much that I thought it must be an old gf trying to get back with him) .. but i was a little curious and started reading their past conversation... and I found a chat conversation between him and her .. a month ago... he was telling her was sexy she was and they even had a web cam chat... so I just imagine for pervert intentions... idk!!!!!! I felt sooo heartbroken, he didnt cheat on me but it feels like close to cheating... it seems it was only a one day thing ... something boys do when they are bored... but it was very sad to realize he does this behind my back.
I confronted him, he apologized and his excuse was that he thought I was interested in someone else (a month ago i was very stressed bcs of work) and that I wasnt paying enough attention to him and he needed to feel spcial... stupid excuse!!!!! His insecurity made him do this!!! i have never laid eyes on any other men.. bcs he is just sooo handsome... anyways heartbroken as I was.. i told him I needed time to think about this... i understood this is not technically cheating but it will be hard to trust in him again. that night i was leaving on a business trip, so i left to the airport without even calling him, i just wanted to go away... as I was done with security check and ready to wait to board.. I see him waiting there for me!!! That crazy boy bought a ticket to make sure he sees me before I leave... My heart just melted.. he looked so miserable... i didnt feel angry so i went and hugged him, he asked me to forgive him... that he made a mistake .. that he thinks another guys are trying to take me away from him and that I might leave him for another guys and that he just wanted to feel special... so i kind of forgave him...nobody ever did som
nobody ever did something like this for me!!!! That was the sweetest thing!!! and even though i was still kind of mad... i ask him to never make me lose my trust in him. Right now, we are talking and trying to be like before... he is trying relly hard to make up for that... but I feel like I can forgive him... but not forget about that incident.. what do you guys think?? I had him on an altar... now i dont know what to think anymore... i love him but i want to trust him again
Guys any help is appreciated!!! I dont want him to do something like this everytime he feels insecure!! i just dont even want to think about it... how can i show him he will always have my heart??? although i think i did it before.. but know i dont know if i can trust him my heart again!
Speak to him honestly about how it makes you feel but also LISTEN to him and hope you can work it out. So often we give trust freely and its something that should be earned. If it were me, he'd need to earn it back - and it would take time, communication and actions.
"He needs lots of attention; and when he can't get it, he tries to make his wife angry. This is usually the time the Cancerian male starts playing around. But, he plays around to get caught. Getting caught arouses his wife's ire, and this signifies to him that she still cares. However, this is a dangerous way to secure his wife's attention. It may be the beginning of the end of the relationship! He is looking for a love that he is seldom able to return. His mother was not a giver; he didn't learn how to give as a child, so giving becomes something that is learned in his adult life. The Cancerian type holds on to what he has and keeps asking for more, all the while giving little in return."
Skylark.. call him.. or send a text.. believe me he thinks the same right now.. wondering why you havent contacted him yet!!
Thanks guys, I am following your advice and taking it slow ...he is trying hard and I appreciate his efforts... i just know i just tolerated this once because I love him and I really really want to trust him again.. so he needs to earn the points back... so far this weekend he has showed me he cares for me and he will be there to protect me...
ohh skylark... i had two cancer bfs before and one thing i know if they like you they will be very persistant but if you show them no interest .. they will lose interest too.. is like they need the attention! i have asked this to my bf now and he agreed .. he said he was glad i actually took the time to know him better because he didnt like girls that play hard to get... and I love that game.. i just didnt use it much with him...
So my advice .. if you really like him.. let him know!!!he wont think the worse of you if you do.. take a chance! and if he does not say anything back.. then you know he wasnt that into you and move on before it is too late