Cancer personality change

I have a Cancer friend who seems like in the past few years she has had a noticeable change in demeanor. Before when I met her she seemed playful, like she had fun with her job, welcoming and open, and genuine. Now it seems like more and more she is somewhat fake, closed off and not playful or not having as much fun with her job. Have any of you had that happen to you, that either you or somebody else noticed? What was the cause of it or what had changed/happened to make a noticeable behavioural change? I can usually tell when someone is being fake and full of it. Before you could feel her arms wide open (spiritually, personally, etc.) You could feel it. Now unless it's certain people she seems more sarcastic, pushing and closed to most people and like a lot of her smiles are forced.

It is enough to make me think what happened!? I'm really good at picking up personality changes. She just doesn't seem like she is having as much fun with life lately. She doesn't seem to acknowledge it or at least doesn't notice it. Would that be because of a new job (which they started almost two years ago) their relationship, extra stress? She is sometimes not the greatest at expressing or talking about feelings(I'm assuming that is her Aquarius moon?)and very busy so it's been hard lately to sit her down for a heart to heart talk.

I don't see where you get the fakeness.

She could've had something happening in her life which you don't know anything about.

Yes, life happens to all of us.

Write her a letter addressing your concerns..it will give her time to mull things over and get in touch with you. Don't confront her on it.

That's what I was trying to figure out what happened. I'm never like that with people, if anything I am one who gets taken advantage of quite a bit. I've been told by quite a few people I am too damn nice. I guess with her since it has been gradual... not like a quick noticeable difference it's quite a bit of things built up over time. She and one of my other Cancer friends seems like they get like this when they have a lot of stress or if they are in a testing phase. My other Cancer friend (who moved back to Pittsburgh now) seemed like she went through this phase of "testing" almost purposely being a biotch to me or biting sarcasm for no reason. I got sick of it and stopped talking to her for a bit. I think she realized how much of a jerk she was being and admitted she's afraid I'll "leave". I said "where would I go? What are you talking about?" She said I know it just seems people annoy me and I try to be myself and they don't like it... they think I'm a biotch. I told her well yes you can be but you've been fine to me for the most part. She said yeah you're one of the only ones I really like. I can be myself around you and we "flow" well or just get me. I thought for a while she actually "liked me" because she did this complete 180 of being distant and all of a sudden became really tender, protective and a little jealous if I talked about girls I liked. Granted I know Cancers are protective of people they love or care for, but this seemed to have a romantic feel to it... who knows.

Is there any suggestions you have then to break through that shell to get the other Cancer friend back to her playful side again? I miss the joking... she seems so much more serious now and the fun playful side is what attracted her to me as a friend. I want to be there but it's also hard when the person isn't talking about it.

The thing is she's not just like that with me she's like this with the vast majority of people now. Before when she was dealing with the public she seemed genuine... now when I see her being interviewed or talking with the public her smile seems forced or her voice doesn't seem as warm.

A letter sounds like a good idea. I feel if I asked her out right she'd feel "attacked". With a letter it would give her time to think or reflect and hopefully I would get a genuine answer.

It's difficult to explain fake. I can tell if somebody is flashing a smile just acting or if their heart is into something. Sometimes anymore her heart just doesn't seem into things. That's what I'll do tonight write up a letter. Just have to figure out a good time to send it or give it to her.

She's probably very unhappy but doesn't want to show it, so she is putting on her mask.
You need to get unbusy and sit down with your friend and talk with her.
Stop calling her fake and be more empathetic to the fact that she is probably hurting inside for some reason.

Oh no no sorry that probably sounded bad, I totally feel for her because I was just thinking back to times my friends have told me I seemed unhappy or noticed a personality change and it was mainly because I was really unhappy/unfulfilled at my job or not happy with how friendships/relationships were going. I just said she seemed fake because in comparison to how she normally is she did seem to be putting on a mask or not into things as she normally is. It's not me that's busy it's her. She has so many things she is a part of and involved in atm it's hard to schedule any time to sit and have a heart to heart without getting interrupted. Trust me I want to, because I care a lot that's why I was trying to figure out where this change came from. I don't like seeing people close to me in turmoil or unhappy so I try to help as much I can, if I can.

I like seeing her with her genuine smile and having fun with things like she normally does. It'll just be a matter of bringing it out in her or at least maybe getting her to talk about it. Sometimes talking it out with people helps even if you can't do anything about it atm.