Cancer women and homely friends

In my many years of "research" I've come across somewhat of a constant theme/conundrum . Attractive cancer women tend to have "homely" friends. And before anyone calls me foul I don't just mean physical appearance. Often times the friend isn't even circus ugly as much as uncouth socially. From my mother to all the cancers I've dated to all my cancer female friends, somehow they all have a home girl who is wiggity wack. I wouldn't be nearly as bothered but they all complain about the hambugler of a friend consistently. And when asked about why they continue to hang with the said homely friend you know what they allllll say? "ummm I don't know... cause she's my friend.?.? you that's just how blah blah blah gets down." Cancer women the floor is yours.

What I've noticed of cancers of both genders is that they seem to lack good judgment in people as a whole. Sometimes they luck out but I often see them choose people who are NOT good friend material. My bf is one of them too 😢

LOL!!! Girl you hit the nail on the head. All my life I've had "homely" friends, which I don't really like that word but I guess you could say that's true. I'm a person that likes to help people and "fix" people, I'm drawn to people who need help, either physically or even psychologically. This past year I've pretty much gotten rid of most of my friends who need their heads examined, I've learned my lesson dealing with the crazy people. But I still have an overwhelming need to give advice and help people with their lives, I guess that's my maternal traits kicking in. Not only that, but I think I've always felt a bit intimidated by people who have everything together, like I don't measure up. I'm trying to be a lot more picky about who I let into my world now, I just moved to another state so I'm trying to start fresh and make sure I don't just let random people into my life.

"I think we have good judgment, but convince ourselves that we're being unfair when we get bad vibes from people who are trying to befriend us, so we decide to give them a chance (which of course ends in disaster). This has happened to me with a Leo and a Libra. I felt like I couldn't trust them deep down when I first met them, but since they said and did the right things *at first*, I convinced myself that I was being paranoid and became friends with them. Big mistake."

You hit the nail right on the head PurrHiss. I'm still recovering from the bad choices in friendships and
relationships I made when I didn't trust my own instincts. The kind of people you allow into your life can often be life altering choices and sometimes you don't see it until it's too late.

thank you all for the insight

Posted by Leo1970
It's a little different for me. My group of girls are all very attractive. We cause quite a rift when we go out together. Most of us are Leos too.

Wrong thread Leo. This one's about Cancer girls, not Leo girls. It's not always about you silly. 😄

Another possibility. We hate confrontations, hence we have a hard time breaking off friendships, even ones we know are bad. That's how it is for me anyway.

God this is so true! Most ex-friends were attractive on the outside, cause I like to look at pretty things, but some of their personalities left me thinking.. "what's wrong with you?" and "what's wrong with me for being friends with you?"

I think I like to see the good side of people and try to ignore the ugly that can be so blatant. I'm working on it tho because as domanb says, breaking up is hard to do.