cancergirl and my excancer boy :(

i just recently moved back from going to graduate school abroad after two years ive returned back to the usa for good. before i left i was dating a cancer man and we were both really in love and were together for 4 years but having problems at the time. i could have chosen to go to school in the us but it was cheaper abroad and i chose it also to live abroad so i had to leave him and it was really hard for both of us. I stayed away for a year and we talked through messages occasioanlly then before coming back for the first time in a year last xmas and he wouldnt see me or respond to any of my phone calls or messages when i was excited about seeing him. He said at that time that he didnt want us to bring back any old feelings which may still be there if we saw eachother..so then when i went back to school i asked him if he could come visit me because he said he would in the past and never actually did it..he still didnt respond and then finally sent me an email telling me that he was seeing somebody else and that it was really hard for him to tell me that and that he has been really fucked up from it but that he had to move on because i was away and that it wasnt fair what i was doing and he couldnt believe i expected him to wait forever for me (which was only 2 years but whateveer)and i asked him if he loved his new girlfriend and he said "no i have to go. i love you always" so then i was really upset of course and then started keeping myself busy doing things and dating other guys then in 2 months later he sent me an email asking me how i was doing blah blah blah and then sent me another message 4 months later telling me happy birthday and that he hopes im well...So I finally came home a week later after school ended and since i hadnt been home in a long time I got into an emotional overload seeing pictures of us and starting crying and freaking out and sent him a couple emails asking if i could see him...so i guess what i am wondering is ...if he will ever see me...after those emails or if i just need to move on

he is still with the new girlfriend too..

@wineaux, once again you provide insightful advice. I was amused that you used the kitten & yarn anology, I had often used the kitten and mouse scenario when discussing my situation. I have been following the strategy you suggested to cancercrabby with my own situation (Cancer Man Confuses Libra Girl). It has been 8 months since I've spoken to him. Hontesly, other than the obiligatory "hi" or "thanks" at work, I ignore him - so there have been no conversations on a personal level. Yet the games continue. Any ideas as to why the games continue (he too is still with his girlfriend) or what I should do?

@cancercrabby - As you can see, I can truly sympathize and I'm sorry that you are going through such a difficult situation. But wineaux's advice is insightful and true. You will feel a lot better once you take control of the situation. Hang in there & Good Luck!