cancers and sex

Hello everyone

I need some advice... You see I'm in love with a great cancer, he is cuddly and smart and I love his company, he tells me he loves me all the time, I see us acheive great things....the problem is I like him so much i wanna make him XXX daily, but he says he isnt horny, he is going through alot of stress right now with his career. I wanna to be supportive. should I back off and give him space or should I keep trying to be intimate with him? I want my great lover back, I don't wanna be just his friend. He says he doesnt know what he wants...ouch ouches


What can I do to get him to come back to me? I love him more than anything, and everything, we've lived together for 2 years now,

I need security in his feelings for me. this is consistant affection and desire to want to please. HIs words and actions are confusing,

I dont wanna put my awesome cancer in his shell,

Don't make him feel like's under pressure if you don't wanna force him into his shell. That means dealing with the fact that he's not feeling that horny at the moment.

Ok, I am a cancer female.

A few years back, I was going through a very stressful period in my life. At the time, although I wasn't seeing my bf very frequently (long-distance relationship) I just couldn't feel horny the times we were together.

I still enjoyed his company and needed his intimacy and support - more emotional intimacy than physical, and for physical more like cuddling than sex. As this period of stress became longer and longer, my bf started to complain and I felt the pressure that I had to get physically intimate with him, but this didn't help matters.

My suggestion would be, give him your total support and emotional intimacy but do not try to keep pushing him for sex. I understand your need for affection, I am sure he would, too, if you talked to him about this.

Good luck!

feed him some oysters and other high-zinc foods.

im under cancer, im not into horny things... But i become, becoz i have to please my BF. Since i love my BF, im happy to pleases him.

Advice - talk to him, let him know of what you feel, what you want.

first thank you everyone for your responses

2nd sweetbabes(horny things?) u mean sex? intimacy? orgasms?

it seems i have hurt his pride and he has shut me out.....

sending him naked poses in his email? dressing nice and hoping? soinf nice things for him? I was trying ot invoke...-- I try not to push , I don't want to... i nkow he is stressed cause of his circumstances of recovery and feels he cannot do his job, but once a week then 20 then none again it is killing me and he knows it and is using against me I feel, I try not to take it personally, but I don't get it.. he likes relying on my security that I am always ready and willing for him, i need some.... we used to 3 to 4 times a day: before he got hurt....... a year after surgery he's good for th e porn.. I need a little for me and espescially the intimacy.....he says he should give more but doesnt..... pointing out I get the absolute littlest? i am so lost today ... i am without direction.........

I feel he just wants to push me away, but says he doesnt?

My skin isnt so thick after all is what I am feeling. I can't handle his depression, the pills arent wonking fast enough.

My work and studies are surffring cause I am absorbed with hOw I am going to get him back out his shell, and give me his love....


and if any have a clue why is it so bad to say hmmm that sounded like an ass when the say things that are so mean, i insulted him.... well darn gee did you just hear what you said and wouldn't ya want to hit me if I talked to you with that tone and insolence.....


having a bad day here..

oh and my bad ......... i lost out cause I thought I'd be sweet and give him a blow until he ws done....thinking he would make it up later


a fool was I..... 9 days here and wondering hmmmmmm what am I suppose to be thinking

I can't give up sex, it's why I cook and clean and stay beautiful. And he's the one I want to have it with......HOW oh HOw do I get through....

um, not trying to be gross..but you might want to take care of it yourself..relieve the frustration so you can quit thinking like a guy. once your head is back where it needs to be you can have a conversation that is not pressure oriented. try to understand his depression and be his greatest cheerleader..maybe it is the confidence he is lacking in himself...sometimes people do not feel sexy when their confidence is down..take an interest in helping him be the man he can be and once he feels like it is not all about sex, he will come around....
take what you like and leave the rest...

I feel your frustration...... mine has a tendancy to overdo the porn when I'm at work and it tends to be overused when I need it.

hey cap/aqua...it is kind of strange that your cancer man does not want sex...— shouldn't it be the other way around? LOL!!! i am a cancer female with a cap/aqua guy and i am usually the one that wants to have sex more...but lately he has been wanting it more...hmmm.

anyway, are you two having problems within your relationship? that could be a factor.

Trust me the only sanity I have is from self appreciation, (I dont ever want to fuck around. )
I got got and got the well you have a good sex life you don't need me! ouch

lol menbay-- I wish it wasnt so important, but to me it is the purpose of the union. I searched long and hard to find a man I want respect, cheerish and yes be intimate with. With out intimacy, is it not friends! I dont fuck my friends. So unsure of what he wants in me.

I have tried to explain to him how I feel. But how to you approach something so sentive to him I dont want him to feel inadequate as he has said before I make him feel. I was just trying to explain whjy it is important to me in a relationship. It isnt all about sex but that is what makes it different than friendship. Short of being mean and I did nit letting him know my new job is suffering, and I don't know how much longer I can do this. The more I ask, the more I try the more he cuts it off. I already lost one job, due to duress. Oh I pray I don't have to decide between him or a job. He is alot of work right now. And without stress releif and security he wants me. I'm thinking hard.
I am trying to talk myself out of wanting him, and just enjoying his company and play Mom ( cook , clean, baby him, take care of his paperwork) anything he desires, I hope he comes back to me soon. I miss him.

ANd jeeze the cuddling is hard, when you want more. He gets hurt I dont want to cuddle. I cant.

I am keeping faith. And hoping it doesnt last more than a couplemore weeks.

Thanks everyone for your opinions and advice. It really helped.


Oh I hope I got through

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hmm I need him to be fair.

hey cap/aqua...

are you able to cuddle at all with your cancer boy— maybe if you gave him a little more cuddling, he would give you a little more sexual satisfaction...compromise, baby!

um, hey, just a comment. my cancer guy is super all over the place. cancer's are the one male sign that doesn't always want sex. esp. if stressed or ill. it's no. i'm aries and sex is always on my menu, but no so much with cancer guys.