cancers have greatest potential

Ive been browsing this forum for a while now, and it seems to me that cancers in general get a below par rap from basically everyone. It seems that cancers are the sign that is always stereotyped as 'moody' and 'over-emotional'. I cant see any other sign that cops such strong stereotyping other than cancers. Im not a fan of stereotyping, which is why I take astrology with a grain of salt.

Cancers are one of the few signs who are born with a heart of gold. They truly care about other people like no other sign. I think its just that as cancers grow and mature they have to learn how to hide their true sensitivities and caring nature to protect themselves from being called 'soft' or being hurt. Hence moodiness and defencive traits start to emerge as they experience the 'real' world, something that usually, well it was for me, is totally different to what I imagined when I was a kid growing up.

I belive if cancers can allow their hearts of gold and sincere caring natures shine through their shells, they have the potential to be the most loveable sign. Cancers have to learn how to portray their sensitive, deeply caring, intuitive and mothering naures in a way that doesnt seem smothering, demanding or just plain loony. Cancers have to learn a bit of tact in their social/everyday lives, meaning they need to know when to stop feeling down or sorry for themselves and get on with the job. Basically, when in a depressed mood, which generally comes and goes in accordance to the phases of the moon, they need to be able to recognise 'hey im in a shit mood, that is why im doubting myself, whinging, cookiemonstering etc'. Once they learn how to do this they can start focusing their sensitive inner natures on to the outside world. I know as a cancer that if I can bring a smile to someones face then for that moment I feel happy and good about myself. Focusing inner energy upon other people, your family, your hobbies, anything really is a skill all cancers need to learn so they can snap out of one of their 'moods'.

Once this is learnt, cancers can learn to combine this with their other natural abilities, such as praticality and thrift money management(just to name a few). Of course the early years of a cancers life is very important as this deteremines how soon they begin to develop their 'shells' and how strong or defensive these 'shells' will need to be in order to hide their inner natures and get by in life.

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So basically stop giving us cancers such a hard time and please stop dishing out all of these common, negative stereotypes. Cancers are the most genuine of all signs, they truly want to make people happy. They just have to realise that how they compose themselves and how they portray their deep sensitivites and caring natures, plays a very important role in how other pople feel towards them. They just need to learn to control their emotions or keep them under wraps (they can learn alot from scorpios) and be sensible/pratical (learn from cappies/virgos) to when they let their shells down and show that beatiful inner nature of theirs. With this they can get rid of the much highlighted negative aspects of their personalities and become one of the funnest, most likeable, and happiest of all signs.

So I'd like to here from everyone their opinion on this topic, as it will be interseting to see your views on my opinions about cancers. And yes I am a teenager, male cancer.

I'm also a teen cancer and I pretty much agree with you. While I do have a hard time not being moody, I think it's a little easier keeping my emotions in check and being sensible/practical. Astrology is only true to an extent. You will met your share of good and bad cancers, however, when a cancer is bad, there's almost no cure for that.

Yes I'd have to agree that a bad, negative and immature cancer is possibly the worst person to have to deal with. I think for cancers (scorpios and pisces aswell) the journey from immaturity to maturity is the hardest of all signs. We really need to learn how and when to use logic and a bit of common sense, rather than letting our feelings dominate us. We also need to learn how to view certain situations objectively, rather than letting our feelings and emotions blind us.

I think once emotional maturity is reached for cancers, our true caring natures will begin to shine through, without getting frustrated with 'nobody cares about me' type attitudes. Basically Im saying that water signs in particular have the most to learn in life to reach maturity, and hence their full potential.

Tunes:

You are very evolved and mature to be only a teen; I agree with everything you have said about Cancers; you should read what I wrote in my last post concerning Cancers and from what I have experienced with the one I have been with for over two years now. We had some hard times but overall I had to go through this period with him because deep down I did know his potential and just how deep he was capable of loving and giving. I am reaping the benefits of that love now and it is awesome🙂 What I find most admirable about the evolved Cancer man is that he maintains a modesty, not arrogance, about himself that makes you appreciate and love him all the more.

I think it's great that you are so in tune to who you are. My Cancer tells me all the time that he has never met anyone who understands him like I do. I can say the same for him. We are so in tune to each other feelings and thoughts, it's scary sometimes.

Kudos to you- you Cancer men will always rock in my eyes🙂

🙂

OBPisces:
Good to hear that all is well with your cancer man. I think cancers can be very stubborn and they really do have to work things out for themselves. One of their major faults is that when they are down or depressed they become so withdrawn that they simply cannot stand taking advice or being given directions by someone else. They also become blind to everyones feelings except their own. This simply adds to their immense brooding. This trait I belive is one of the major downfalls for cancers in relationships.
That whole experience between you and him forced him to deeply look into himself and figure out where he was goin wrong. I think there comes a time in cancers lives when they are forced to do alot of soul searching, usually this comes after some sort of emotional trauma, such as losing the woman they love etc. During this period they begin to realise that they have become selfish cookiemonsters and that they are hurting the people they love. They really just need a wake-up call to realise and accept this part of their natures. Accepting the fact that they are the ones doing all the hurting is usually the hardest step for a cancer, because deep inside they are the ones that have felt hard done by.
This is the major difference between an immature and a mature cancer: excepting their negative traits and doing something to fix them. Unfortunately, there are probably alot more immature cancers out there giving the sign a bad reputation. And in reality they are the only ones who can bring about change.

I'm an Aquarian girl and every Cancer male I've dated has been a selfish, manipulative, lying, hypocritical, cheating slut. I always seem to get the negative cancers if you will. I know there must be good ones out there IRL but I only seem to read about them on here. Where is my Prince Charming dammit! LOL

Damn Tunes!

Alright I need to see a copy of your birth certificate or licsence to prove you are UNDER-AGE, lol

Hey Keco- look no further, the Prince Charming Cancer is a message post above you, lol

If he were only older =)

I guess it goes to show that wisdom and maturity have nothing to do with age. I'm 25 and all of the Cancers I've dated have been 22-28 and don't even come close to this guy as far as maturity goes. Sadly, I don't think those kinds of Cancers will grow up because if you're a selfish and self righteous person you think you're perfect as you are. My last ex used to actually BRAG about being humble. The irony is just killing me...LOL

We cancers do have enormous potential. The hardest part is realising the potential is there. Once a cancer can overcome him/herself, a cancer can achieve/attain whatever they want.

I can totally agree with this... I have already had my share of the stereotyping, and I only created an account less than a week ago.

"They truly care about other people like no other sign. I think its just that as cancers grow and mature they have to learn how to hide their true sensitivities and caring nature to protect themselves from being called 'soft' or being hurt."

This is so true. I hate having to be defensive.

i completely agree with all the posts... i am quite moody and sensitive... but hey, aren't we all? lol... the first time i actually felt "love at first sight" was with a fellow cancer... i am always in protective mode and it is hard when i deal with potential significant others because they deserve for me to be more open, but it is SOOOOO HARD...

"I'm an Aquarian girl and every Cancer male I've dated has been a selfish, manipulative, lying, hypocritical, cheating slut. I always seem to get the negative cancers if you will. I know there must be good ones out there IRL but I only seem to read about them on here. Where is my Prince Charming dammit! LOL"

-LOL!!! hey there keco...i am a cancer female who has been dating an aqua male for a while now...so, i can relate to you in a way...i don't know what it is, but cancers and aquas are very drawn to one another, as different as we are...it's strange!

and, i am a cancer and i have not had very good luck with cancer guys either in the past...so i am sure you have had a tough time with them...good luck 🙂

"Alright I need to see a copy of your birth certificate or licsence to prove you are UNDER-AGE, lol"

lol, by under-age you must mean drinking age? Im from Australia, so legally Im over age, as our drinking age is 18. And I'd definately agree with the post that says maturity has little to do with age. Maturity comes from introspection, experience and personal awareness. It does not come simply from passing time and growing older. Its sad to think that some people go through their lives without ever knowing who they truly are, their strengths and weaknesses etc.

"-LOL!!! hey there keco...i am a cancer female who has been dating an aqua male for a while now...so, i can relate to you in a way...i don't know what it is, but cancers and aquas are very drawn to one another, as different as we are...it's strange!"

Hi there moonchild =) Yeah, just like Cancer men, I've heard the same complaints about Aquarian men. That is just a tad bit strange seeing how the signs are so different. I guess when you factor gender into the equation it can get confusing seeing that men and women of the same sign can be completely different. I know that I would never date an Aqua man though because I have some as friends and it was crazy how I could read them so easily. It took the mystery out of dating..lol. Sadly, I will probably never date a Cancer man again either because of all the crap I've been through. That's really a shame because good Cancer men are known as the Prince Charmings of the zodiac. Too bad I'll never find out if that's true.

"That's really a shame because good Cancer men are known as the Prince Charmings of the zodiac"

say WHAT? i must've missed that memo...

"say WHAT? i must've missed that memo..."

I take it that's the first time you've heard that? lol From my personal experience with Cancer men I'd have to strongly disagree with that myself but I've read that many many many times about your sign. If I have time later on I'll post one of the pages that has that info.

i'm too dense when it comes to women to be charming

LOL I don't believe that for one second. Somewhere inside is a very charming man. It's the Cancer way, dammit =)~

haha, believe me, it's pretty bad sometimes. i pretty much have to be hit over the head and dragged around a circle while a church choir screams at me to make a move in order realize if a girl is attracted to me at all.

wow Moon you really brought this one back. But I enjoyed reading it and I agree with maturity playing a part in the tolerance of cancers, scorpios and pisces. i've been with an immature pisces and an immature scorpio and I wouldnt wish it on anyone. Im with a mostly mature Cancer and..could it be Im falling in love.

I also agree with you that people dont really understand signs and personalities and they say someone needs to be this or that or change this or that. I think the most impotant thing anyone can advise someone to do is find balance. And maturity is about finding and understanding the need for a balance of anything including patience, sensitivity, moodiness, selflessness, generosity, affection, loyalty and dedication.

I caught on real quick with a lot of people trying to change Cancer in ways that would take away from cancerness rather than asking how to deal with it or what its about to better understand it and take it accordingly.

lol Merc

I was thinking the same thing Merc. Maybe that's why I understand Cancers because I never quite fit in anywhere either. I know that's why my Cancer and I are close friends. He's all over the place and I've been to eac of those places sometimes more so sometimes less than he has.