Compatible moon signs?

Soooooo I've heard moon signs are pretty important as far as compatibility goes.

But I'm a little confused.

His moon is in libra. My moon is in gemini. Obviously compatible, yes?

Those were my original thoughts. BUT I was reading in one of my astrology books lately and it said "If they have a harmonious SUN-MOON signs then all will be well" or, "If they have harmonious luminary aspects in their charts...."

Umm, sun-moon signs? What is that? It's making me feel like the book is saying all will go well if our moon signs are in harmony with our own sun signs.

For example, my moon is already in harmony with my sun sign (gem-gem)
But his is not. Cancer sun, libra moon. That is not harmonious.
Therefore we do NOT have a harmonious luminary aspect or our sun-moon signs are not compatible?

Am I making any sense to anyone here?

I've been thinking the same thing. He's cancer and I'm (obviously) scorpio. My moon is in cancer...so goes good with his sun but his moon is in sag...not really going well with my sun.

and on TOP of all that I read that your moon can be cusped with the degrees. which makes my moon on the cusp of gem and his on the cusp of scorpio...so confusing.

And don't get me started on the mars/venus thing 😛

it's like there's a way to make sure your birth charts can be both harmonious and not so that no matter what happens the birth chart was right 😛

Ohh are you talking about your own sun being harmonious with your own moon? I don't know then.

from my understanding the sun moon aspect within oneself not being harmonious merely means that person has some inner turmoil to overcome or that their emotions and actions may not match up. ex. Aries sun and cancer moon. The sun in Aries nature may cause this person to have a one night stand. Conversely the cancer moon craves commitment and stability. The battle of instant gratification v. security would be a constant theme. This person would have to figure out which needs are more important to find balance and harmony. In regards to the moon aspects in compatibility the signs, some say matching moon and moon is important but not as important as moon and sun. From personal experience the latter seems to be more true than the former. But fret not there is an entire chart that could potentially form other positive aspects that in my opinion can trump and smooth out any potential air pockets.

I'm pretty sure our moons are trined. Libra and gemini is a great match. Mine is on the cusp of Taurus though...it's VERY close. I'm not sure where his is.

Thanks for the input everyone!

The book called "Love Signs" by Linda Goodman was explaining how important the luminary aspect was for the overall success of geminis and cancers together in relationships. The way she put it, cancers and gems are not too terrible of a match--for crab men and twin girls the success rate is much better than any other water and air mix ESPECIALLY if they have compatible "sun-moon aspects" in their chart. I was confused by this last part but I'm assuming that our moon signs are compatible?

Posted by Claire
^^ True.


From what i've observed and studied, when it comes to relationships, the moon/moon aspect between two people has the strongest bearing on how well they will get along .. especially in the long run. A good sun/sun aspect and a good moon/moon aspect is great and will overcome the possible negative sun/moon aspects these make between two people I think.

I think the best moon/moons are trines and sextiles.

I have personal conflict with a cancer sun and an aquarius moon and I know I will be much better off with either an earth or water sun who has either a fire or air moon as a mate. As opposed to the other way around!!

Check the degrees though, they can really make a difference. 🙂

I agree with this as well. From my own experience and in general with what I have seen and read it depends upon the type of relationship. For myself compatible Sun-Moon doesn't tend to work out in terms of relationships, and I like and need Moon-Moon (even if the Suns are incompatible). I have a Cap Moon and have even dated guys who either conjuncted my Moon with their Sun (Cap), or their Moon with my Sun (Cancer). BUT their Moons were incompatible to mine and while there was a base connection and great one it just didn't hit deeply and neither tended to be long term. I dated a Cap Sun who had his Venus in Cap as well and they both were Conjunct my Moon. BUT he had his Moon in Aries and we just dealt with things differently. I have also dated three Cancer Moons who were Conjunct my Asc/Sun and Mars in Cancer and I have dated a few Scorp Moons and it still was bad as they got hurt over EVERY thing I did (my Conjunctions are in the 1st and touch Uranus and Jupiter). Plus they all were the opposite of my Cap Moon as they didn't deal with things the way I did. They typically wanted so much more of me than I could give and thought I was distant. Keep in mind one was an Aqua with Cancer Moon and Libra with Cancer Moon.

I've also dated other guys who were compatible with my Moon (for instance a Scorp Sun...but he had an Aqua Moon). Things were great and fizzled out so we remained friends (a la is Aqua Moon and my Venus in the 11th). However we were still physical and I decided to pull the friend card and date someone else, he LITERALLY would not talk to me for 3 years UNTIL he was able to exact revenge on me and lie to a bf who believed him as they were "friend

Posted by PixieDust
The book called "Love Signs" by Linda Goodman was explaining how important the luminary aspect was for the overall success of geminis and cancers together in relationships. The way she put it, cancers and gems are not too terrible of a match--for crab men and twin girls the success rate is much better than any other water and air mix ESPECIALLY if they have compatible "sun-moon aspects" in their chart. I was confused by this last part but I'm assuming that our moon signs are compatible?

what she is saying is that if you are a cancer and are paired up with a gemini, then it is helpful if you have a gemini or libra moon. more specifically, concerning sun-moon aspects, means that the mathematical degree is within orb (within 2-3 degrees) to form a conjunction or trine.

Posted by PixieDust
Soooooo I've heard moon signs are pretty important as far as compatibility goes.

But I'm a little confused.

His moon is in libra. My moon is in gemini. Obviously compatible, yes?

Those were my original thoughts. BUT I was reading in one of my astrology books lately and it said "If they have a harmonious SUN-MOON signs then all will be well" or, "If they have harmonious luminary aspects in their charts...."

Umm, sun-moon signs? What is that? It's making me feel like the book is saying all will go well if our moon signs are in harmony with our own sun signs.

For example, my moon is already in harmony with my sun sign (gem-gem)
But his is not. Cancer sun, libra moon. That is not harmonious.
Therefore we do NOT have a harmonious luminary aspect or our sun-moon signs are not compatible?

Am I making any sense to anyone here?

your first thought was correct, your second thought was not correct. so it is good that he is libra moon and you are gemini moon and sun. but it does not necessarily mean a bad thing if his sun and moon are not in the same element (one currently being water an the other air).

you are supposed to look at the comparisons between your sun and his moon and vice versa (in order to refer to a sun-moon aspect). the phrase "harmonious luminary aspects" is more generalized, meaning any combination between one person's sun or moon and another's sun or moon that is harmonious.

so.... you have a wide orb harmonious luminary aspect (you cant really say unless you know the exact mathematical degree of the planets).