Courting a Cancer a woman

There's this Cancer girl that I have a crush on. I really don't want to blow it. What's the best approach to make her mine?

Perhaps it will sound a bit clich? but give her some flowers. It's a good start. Women in general wants to be "special" and by giving her some flowers that smells good and that looks beautiful she will feel "special". It's a fact.

You are starting off good by saying my favorite dating word: Courting. 🙂

Tell us a bit about her if you don't mind.
What is your sign btw?

the taurus way of playbook ...

at first you get to know her ...
then u start to ask about her via her frens ... what she like what she dont like ...
any info you can gather

thanks to today technology ... you start to message her without facing her ...
that clear yr awkwardness that might happen when u face her

u pay extra attention to her ... if she sick cough, get her some coughing mint candy ...
if its rain ... u prepare umbrella to her ... once in a while get her fav food if u know ...
if she likes something ... have some knowledge it ... or be a good listener when she speaks ...
if she;s quiet ... make sure you are good at story telling ...

u crack jokes to her from time to time making her laugh ... dirty jokes are great if she ok with it
i do find that jokes goes well with cancer ...

u get her hang out together ... but preferably with her frens along ... just to make sure she's comfortable ... if she is having alcohol then u better dont drink as you say u wanna drive her back
... do something impressive to the society like visiting orphanage, help those needed etc

as men ... you must look healthy, not depress, not struggling ... and not desperate
be positive ...

ok ... thats all for now ... gotta go out ...
this thing suddenly pops into my mind ... must be the weed 😛

lol

I would say...make her feel like the Goddess she is. Make her feel like a woman, make her feel the love you have for her, make her feel like a priority. I don't know if this is or isnt a cancer thing, but I never become completely emotionally available for a guy until he verbally tells (not subtle or blatant gestures or actions) me that he has made a conscious decision to make me his lady and once I therefore been given the green light, I will reciprocate your words/actions and MUCH more. Also, pay attention to the little things about her or the little things she does; showing that you appreciate her, she will blossom and her love will probably be more intense and lasting than any other.

Posted by cancerlady33
I would say...make her feel like the Goddess she is. Make her feel like a woman, make her feel the love you have for her

What the fuck is wrong with women? First off, advising a guy to treat her like a goddess only makes him create an image where she is on a pedastool. And men who do that quickly get to a point where they turn into doormats. And then make threads "I'm such a nice guy, what went wrong?".

What love for her? He is having a crush, he isn't in a relationship with her yet. I swear the fantasy never ends for some.

OP - Be a gentleman (harder to get by those types nowadays), initiate, be proactive and if she's into you it will go along swimmingly fine.

Women should be on a pedestal. And REAL women who are being treated like Goddesses know how to turn around and treat their man like a God. And a man doesnt have to show expansive romantic gestures to treat a woman as a Goddess. He can start off by doing things like being open and honest with her, complimenting her, etc etc.

I get your point but it sounded over the top in the beginning stages of dating.

If both women and men are on a pedestal, can't we knock it? They'll still be on even ground, as equals. The view from the top is nauseating.

Oh, I gotcha.

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by cancerlady33
Oh, I gotcha.

Virgos have zero romance in their bones. Zero. Equal footing my azz. A man should court a woman. It's just much more inspiring.

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Never said he shouldn't.

I feel like they should put each other on a pedestal and keep everyone else on equal footing. You see where I'm going with this?

I know where you're going with this, once they are actually dating.

If they aren't and the guy is over the top with the gestures it means either:

1. He's desperate and is behaving like that to get ANY kind of female attention.
2. He's ACTING in this way, because he heard women dig this shit.

Courting is great, treating someone like they're the love of your life off the bat, without being in a relationship with them is delusional. That would mean that the person you're into doesn't matter at all, you'd still play the same script for anyone.

Yes, I totally get you. But, I'm assuming that he's already been through the mental process of deciding that his cancer lady is important enough to begin to treat her that way. From what I'm sensing from the OP is that this woman is special to him; this woman is a prize that he is trying to win. And if this is the case, I think it's ok to show romantic gestures (and again, he does not need to go over the top in the beginning; some of the most deep, heartfelt gestures are the most subtle ones).

So what should women perceive themselves to be? Maybe you need to understand more of what being a Goddess means. In short, it means a woman that has mastered her femininity in all aspects. We have women out her that act like men and then wonder why men dont treat them like real women. The same goes for men who act like women. And what I was originally saying was that men must cater to a woman's nature in order to get a positive response from her (just like women need to understand a man's nature in order to properly serve him).

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Posted by cancerlady33
I would say...make her feel like the Goddess she is. Make her feel like a woman, make her feel the love you have for her

What the fuck is wrong with women? First off, advising a guy to treat her like a goddess only makes him create an image where she is on a pedastool. And men who do that quickly get to a point where they turn into doormats. And then make threads "I'm such a nice guy, what went wrong?".

What love for her? He is having a crush, he isn't in a relationship with her yet. I swear the fantasy never ends for some.

OP - Be a gentleman (harder to get by those types nowadays), initiate, be proactive and if she's into you it will go along swimmingly fine.

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Yup.

Posted by cancerlady33
We have women out her that act like men and then wonder why men dont treat them like real women..

This is really shallow. It brings to mind the notion of a "Feminity Handbook", so we can all act the same way and forget all about being individuals.

Relating to someone, anyone in life, is a personal experience. If we're in sync, ok..if not, it is what it is.

Who said ANYTHING about being individuals— Just to be clear: YOU CAN BE AN INDIVIDUAL AND STILL PRACTICE THE ART OF BEING FEMININE. You can practice this while caring for a man, making a meal for a family or decorating a home. You can also practice this while playing football with the fellas, fixing a car or drinking beer with the guys. You are totally misunderstanding me. A woman can be a woman and still take on whatever the hell she wants to do. And there is varying degrees of femininity AND masculinity in each person...some have more, some have less. But what I'm saying is, to court a woman you must cater to her feminine energy. For example, a guy could take a woman out on a date to drink beer and watch football at a sports bar. But in order to cater to her feminine energy he may want to compliment her smell or her look, be more gentle in his touches or maybe listen to her more sharply. If she was a dude, none of that would be necessary because dudes are more masculine and would not respond to that kind of behavior.

xMoonMan: and just what IS a woman— If you dissect that then you may understand where I'm coming from

Posted by CluelessCancer
I'm a lioness and a Goddess.

Right on!

Olympus must be really deserted.

And perhaps your comprehension skills too? IJS

I can't with you guys right now. I'll just leave it at that because I don't think I'll be getting through. When I refer to as a woman as a goddess, I am referring to her as a human...who is in sync with her nature at its core.

Obviously not. Let me try oneeeeeeee more time. Maybe this will help. We are not God, we are humans, right? But some can argue that we (as humans) embody the spirit of God, right? How? By resonating with God...such as helping your fellow human, demonstrating love, you know...doing Godly acts. Now. Women (humans) can also embody God or God energy or more specifically...Goddess energy, which is marked by femininity in varying aspects and is unique to each woman. Yes, she is, in fact, human, but she is embodying a certain type of energy (which makes a clear demarcation from other humans that are of more masculine energy). Example 2: A human can embody a demon or demonic energy and still remain human, doing human things (except these human things are done in a more evil way, that deviates from the normal human/human behavior). Do you see now—

I understand,everyone has their own philosophies and their own thought/logic processes. But I did not delve into this goddess topic to convert you or anything, I did it so that you can understand where I was coming from. And where I was coming from was not asking the OP to lose his own individuality, self respect, dignity etc; I was not asking the OP to speed up the relationship 12 noches and perform drastic measures to court the woman; and I was not asking the OP to kiss the ground she walks on. I was suggesting that he basically treat her like a real woman and to put her first. Why put her first? Because at the end of the day she's a cancer and cancer women appreciate that. Yes, put her on a pedestal, let her know that shes wanted or sought after...this does not mean that he has to start making silly dating mistakes etc etc. And how fast or slow or subtle or blatant his actions are are solely up to him (his comfort levels, his unique situation, his needs/wants, how she responds to him, etc). I'll say this yet again: you can still treat a woman like a goddess while moving through healthy phases in courtship and dating. And problems in relationships will always be there as there are no such things as perfect relationships.

XMoonMan: You are pretty much saying the same thing I am saying, you are just seeing it in another aspect while also distorting my messages. What's up with the labels (spiritualism, romanticism, etc)? I wasn't trying to go there. You are digging too far in. I'm simply saying that if a man wants to properly court a woman he needs to appeal to her innate nature, her feminine side. Just like I would have to treat a man like a man (his masculine aspects) when trying to relate to him. Simple as that. Seems like you are more focused on arguing instead of actually understanding what it is that I'm saying. And what you have to say is your opinion and I welcome it, as I like to bounce ideas off of people; but what is aggravating is your tunnel vision, your inability to comprehend simple ideas and connect the dots.