Dear cancerian girls.. how do u get over ur love?

I see that it's been a year and still my cancerian cousin cant get over her ex. Long story short, she loved someone, he proposed to her, but her family disapproved.

One of the reasons why is he did not yet have a proper job and he traveled away for 8 months and during that time, he didn't update her father by even one phone call, so when he returned, he got rejected

Now my cousin and her ex do not talk anymore for a year. She still thinks of him and I can tell she secretly hates her father for rejecting her ex. She cries alot and I have no idea how to help her, I wish she's get over him bec. I believe he did not try hard enough to win her family.

How do I help her to live her life happily and not keep thinking of what ifs.. ? Obviously her ex is not even casually asking about her.. I think she needs to move on

Her placements: Cancer sun / Leo moon / Mercury moon / Venus Gemini / Mars Cancer

Sorry I meant

Her placements: Cancer sun / Leo moon / Leo mercury / Gemini venus / Cancer mars

As for me, I do a NC with an EX or LOVER because I want to heal (and believe me its hard) I focus on my well being and I do my very best not to concern myself with "HIM". I keep myself busy. Also another thing, when I'm ready to let go ... I'll let go and move on. I don't like to be pressured or nagged about it. There are some EX's or LOVERS that I still have in my heart and maybe one or two I carry a torch but I don't dwell on it. I came out of a 5 yr relationship and it took me 4 yrs to be completely over him (didn't date during that time because I wanted to heal my wounds and not carry baggage). She needs to let it out of her system (the crying, anger, frustration and the if's). Continue to be there for her and give her the reassurance that things will be better because it will! Let no man wear you down!!!

Posted by MagicPowas
One thing: Your family should not be the cause of a breakup. If you love someone and you allow your family to break you away from the person you love, then you deserve to have a broken heart.

Another thing: If she can't get over her ex, then she needs to either find closure or grow a spine and go after what she wants without seeking permission from her parents (unless of course she's not over the age of 18 or maybe 21).

I really wish that was even possible... I believe he's gone for her good anyway

Posted by Celestial_Luna
As for me, I do a NC with an EX or LOVER because I want to heal (and believe me its hard) I focus on my well being and I do my very best not to concern myself with "HIM". I keep myself busy. Also another thing, when I'm ready to let go ... I'll let go and move on. I don't like to be pressured or nagged about it. There are some EX's or LOVERS that I still have in my heart and maybe one or two I carry a torch but I don't dwell on it. I came out of a 5 yr relationship and it took me 4 yrs to be completely over him (didn't date during that time because I wanted to heal my wounds and not carry baggage). She needs to let it out of her system (the crying, anger, frustration and the if's). Continue to be there for her and give her the reassurance that things will be better because it will! Let no man wear you down!!!

I try to be there for her.. thanks for sharing this cause I think i was doing it the wrong way.. I kept telling her if she needs to be angry at someone, then it should be her ex n not her father.. I tried to make her see how he was not strong enough and that she deserves much better, deserves a fighter.. (but this is how i get over my exes.. by thinking of their flaws and how they were not enough.. even if i have to force this pattern of thinkinv just to get over someone.... ) i think for you cancerians its different...

I think she stopped talking about him with me cause of my *you got to blame him* attitude.. but i see her hurting.. and it hurts me too.. thats why i made this thread.. shes a very busy one with work n studies.. but she breaks down sometimes.. even if we are on vacation that is meant to make her chill out

Posted by Arielle83
She's not over it because it was out of her control.

@Arielle
@Aurora

this is also true .. but if she got to see how he was not strong enough, she would have had some closure with him. I guess then she wouldnt have felt victimized by her father .. But well its too late i guess to talk with her ex for a closure...

I asked her how it ended, and she said that they gradually stopped talking to eachother and communication gradually faded between them.. for me this is vague. Does not seem like a closure :/

Posted by BlackMamba
The LEO placements are FIXED and will hold on like a motherfuker. Good luck to her

Leo Venus in a nut shell.

Posted by BlackMamba
The LEO placements are FIXED and will hold on like a motherfuker. Good luck to her

her moon is in 0 degrees Leo ..

Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by BlackMamba
The LEO placements are FIXED and will hold on like a motherfuker. Good luck to her

Leo Venus in a nut shell.

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But her venus is in Gemini .. 13 degrees

Posted by TxOgal
I see that it's been a year and still my cancerian cousin cant get over her ex. Long story short, she loved someone, he proposed to her, but her family disapproved.

One of the reasons why is he did not yet have a proper job and he traveled away for 8 months and during that time, he didn't update her father by even one phone call, so when he returned, he got rejected

Now my cousin and her ex do not talk anymore for a year. She still thinks of him and I can tell she secretly hates her father for rejecting her ex. She cries alot and I have no idea how to help her, I wish she's get over him bec. I believe he did not try hard enough to win her family.

How do I help her to live her life happily and not keep thinking of what ifs.. ? Obviously her ex is not even casually asking about her.. I think she needs to move on

Her placements: Cancer sun / Leo moon / Mercury moon / Venus Gemini / Mars Cancer

that is a sad story.

that's very unfortunate for your cousin. if i were in her place i would be wishing and wishing and hoping so badly that the guy would ask me to marry him and sweep me off and take me away, despite family wishes.

but it sounds like her family is correct, he sounds unstable, and didn't seem to care or TRY. Yet, that don't matter to her.

only time and another man will be able to replace her empty heart. That's the only way. 1) time 2) a better man. Good luck to your cousin.