falling apart.. how to win back his heart

Ive been dealing wit my cancer bf since april. Weve been friends for about 3 years. hes been there to listen to me through all of my realationships. one nite we slept together. He said he loved and wanted to be with me.. but at that time i wasnt interested in him and i was still carrying baggage from my last relationship. long story short. I really wasnt myself. I didnt know how to give myself again... so i was kinda mean to him. not my normal caring, lovng self. A few months after we started hooking up he told me he had a girlfriend... So I became even more distant.
Im a capricorn and im also afraid of getting hurt and showing my feelings. but now that ive released some of the baggage from my past relationship im ready to move on wit him. But I dont think hes as interested as he use to be. He still calls me everyday but its not the same. Everyone says i should tell him that im in love with him cause i am... but I believe ive been doin the wrong things i tell him about other guys im dating ... even made up ones... lol

but i do it to protect my heart. i dont want him to think i need him. but i know im gong about this the wrong way. For the past couple weeks. His attitude has been distant and cold. he says disrespectful things, he sometimes just calls me to c wat im doing then gets off the phone. He stringing me along talking about wat his girlfriend cooks for him... when i want to c him its a bs excuse and when he wants to c me. i give him a bs excuse. im not gnna be waiting around for him to want to see me...

I dont know. I think he really cares about me which other cancers have told me. but this whole standing up thing.. is not a go.. its disrespectful and im not gnna let neone disrespect me...
Like today we were suppose to meet this monrning for breakfast we spoke and when i asked him if he was coming . he said im gonna call you when my phone charges... that was 7 hours ago... IDK then he'll call me and act like nothing happened

How should i persue this cancer... Should I be direct and let him know how i feel and what i want. I really believe that he wants me. I really believe that we would make a good couple. I just need to ...IDK...But hes falling back because I tell him about other men that are interested in me. Hes been jealous and very bitter. They say if you love something let it go. but when it comes to hearts should grab it and run?

cappybeauty, i don't think this is a matter of him being a cancer sun sign.It is more about how two people handle their emotions and the relationship itself.Try to take a step back from this and look at the situation from outside.One of you should eventually let the other know how they feel.
I've been through this type of relationship with a Gemini guy (with a lot of cancer in his chart) and because he'd never say it upfront that he likes me more than friends, i never told him either...and the relationship just went straight to nowhere.We were friends (and still are) but both of us felt strongly about each other- none of us wanted to actually say it, so we both lost.i still do feel for him, maybe we can work this out sometime...but what happened then will always remind us of our own stupidity.
If you want this man, just let him know, it's only fair this way.Don't make the same stupid mistake i made, it's not worth the suffering.

"They say if you love something let it go. but when it comes to hearts should grab it and run?"

I tried hard to let my gemini guy go, i did let him go, but that doesn't mean i let my feelings disappear.Those are two entirely different things.You can let him go, but your feelings are still there, and no matter where you want to run (with or without his heart) you'll always take those feelings with you.

i appreciate it. and ur rite... I realized that i have a fear of intamacy. I have to learn to be myself and to learn to allow people in. But i definetly know that have to let him know how I feel. Because i will never forgive myself for not taking the chance... but im also not gonna allow him to play games and disrespect me. He actually called me 3 times today but i didnt answer his phone call. I think he needs to know that i do love him but i will not take his bs.

how to win back his heart because I really believe that we would make a good couple.
you can't - people should come to you--- plus you sound like it's a game.

but I believe ive been doin the wrong things i tell him about other guys im dating ... even made up ones... lol
again you're game playing but points the game playing finger at him?

Cappy....just tell him.......go to him and just tell him.....the games are only gonna lead one way

Hahaha....isn't Cancer the sign that loves food the most...when he didn't make it to breakfast that morning, you should have said, "Whoa, you missed the BEST pancakes and bacon!" LOL

That's how I deal with a lot of situations...humor goes along way!

(Be a humorist, it makes life fun!)

You guys are just hurting eachother pokin at eachothers emotions! I have been there with a scorpio! And he has a girlfriend you talk about other guys... How can you have a relationship at this point!? Your making eachother jealouse because you are not with eachother but with other people... Someone, and that someone being you needs to let the other person know how they feel... He once wanted to be With you and your the one with the change of heart! Its only fair that you tell him exactly how you feel at this point! Tell him your tired of playing the games with him and put it on the table!

did you say he has a girlfriend—

I'm sure everyone would agree with me ... you should read my Posts on the Cancer forum... I was friends with my cancer for 3 years too and then we started dating...and i'm also a Capi.... you should just read them...hope they help it's a similar situation

well... we finally had the convo saughta... and i decided to just remain friends... I believe that he really loves his girlfriend... amd loves me as his friend.. which was so proved to me today... his girlfriend called him while we were together and he lied to her telling her that he was alone.. but instead of hanging up the phone with her he was completely disrespectful and talked to her for the longest 10 min. ever.. then came back to me.. hugong and kissing on me like nothing happened..
that was really a wake up call... After i left him he called me but i didnt answer.. i believe that everything happens for a reason.. and if that episode with the girlfriend did not take place i would have feel rite back in.. it hurt me and it still does but i know it is the right thing.
After my breakupn with my ex it took a long time for me to get out of this f@# $ every man alive phase... and i pushed him away instead of bringing him close. but i cant change the past... And i willnot allow neone to disrespect me... So well remain friends but i wont speak to him everyday ... keep my distance

But ofcourse like a man he wants to be best friends wit benefits... i dnt thiink so

... I believe that he really loves his girlfriend... amd loves me as his friend.. which was so proved to me today... his girlfriend called him while we were together and he lied to her telling her that he was alone..

Oh dear cappybeauty ... its the worse to get involved with a cancer thats already involved with someone else. It can be lethal, I've been there so I know -- the difference is that you knew about his girlfriend, the cancer I was with lied to me.


Yeah, I know it will be difficult but break yourself away from this guy. It will only hurt more if you can't do it now.

well... we finally had the convo saughta... and i decided to just remain friends... I believe that he really loves his girlfriend... amd loves me as his friend.. which was so proved to me today... his girlfriend called him while we were together and he lied to her telling her that he was alone.. but instead of hanging up the phone with her he was completely disrespectful and talked to her for the longest 10 min. ever.. then came back to me.. hugong and kissing on me like nothing happened..
that was really a wake up call... After i left him he called me but i didnt answer.. i believe that everything happens for a reason.. and if that episode with the girlfriend did not take place i would have feel rite back in.. it hurt me and it still does but i know it is the right thing.
After my breakupn with my ex it took a long time for me to get out of this f@# $ every man alive phase... and i pushed him away instead of bringing him close. but i cant change the past... And i willnot allow neone to disrespect me... So well remain friends but i wont speak to him everyday ... keep my distance


Let me tell you about another cancer relationship I had because I had 3 of them... All whom which I had deep feelings for...

One of the cancers I dated had a girlfriend... In the begining she was not there. We were friends for about a year prior and we both had a sig other. Well after breaking up with my boyfriend I was pretty frustrated with relationships alltogether. We started messing around and two weeks later he said he was back with his girlfriend and did I care... At the time no I didn't care... I had that attitude that other woman had done it to me so what did I care... To make a long story short we continued to see eachother we became really close like best friends plus benefits. I started to see other people and he hated it he was sooo jealouse. So he started telling me he had feelings for me and he would tell me he wanted it to be just me and him and so on... But thing was he could never really make up his mind what he wanted. Me or her? So it became a big disaster... I was going to move to Florida and he begged me to stay with him and moved me in his apartment mean while he was talking to his X girlfriend the whole time trying to get back with her... BIG BIG Disaster... And I vowed to never cheat on any boyfriend I ever would have in the future nor be with anyone who had any of the same type of baggage... So you are doing the right thing...

Heres something new. Try telling the truth! I am a cancer and one thing that really annoys me are liars and players. If i dated a guy and we broke up and he told me about all these girls he was seeing i would think he wasnt very serious about me, and that he was a selfish manipulitive arrogant A-Hole. It would make me appreciate what i have sitting at home next to me. And i would move further and further from the one thats acting like a player. You can fess up and tell the truth. He can do one of two things. either he will be pissed that you lied and never talk to you again because he can no longer trust you. OR if hes a doormat type he will get upset that you lied than want to get back with you but still wonder if you are lying now.