Taurus_IE
@Taurus_IE
9 Years
Comments: 0 · Posts: 1 · Topics: 1
Figuring out this Cancer Man :)
Posted by Taurus_IE@housecleaning
Hey there,
So, I recently met a cancer man online and this guy, is literally, like someone broke in to my head and created my dream man.
I feel so lucky to have met him and he has actually said he feels lucky to have met me a few times as I have been thinking it.
The thing is, he's not like any other guys I have dated so I don't really know how to play this, even the things I am feeling myself are strange to me. I just feel like I never want to mess him around or hurt him ever, I want him to be happy, it feels like my duty when I'm with him and I love that.
We've been dating 2 weeks (I know right, not long) and we've been on 5 dates. He has taken me to the best restaurants in the city, and I've been impressed that he's made reservations and booked movies and really thought through the details of each of our meetings.
We're getting on so well and both of us have noted that it does feel like we are dating longer. He has made throwaway remarks - like when I said I loved how he made a great effort to plan the dates "Get used to it" and when I mentioned I liked Tapas food he said "We should go to Spain, I'll check out flights". Then I complained I'd broken the cover on my iPad and he said "I know what I'm getting you for Christmas" it was all in jest and I'm clever enough not to read in to it but still he seems like such a nice person I don't think he would ever string me along either. I'm just kind of going through a "This must be too good to be true" feeling I guess..
So, here's the tricky bit, and the end of each date we plan the next one and they have all been just 2 or 3 days apart and as much as I feel like we are growing fonder of each other - I really don't get much from him in between. I didn't mind so much at the very start after 1 or 2 dates but now I'm longing to hear from him and he really isn't texting me much at all. On our third date he said he wanted to text me more but was worried that he would disturb me. He said he was always excited to see my name come up on his phone. I said "Please, text me whenever you like, I love to hear from you". But he didn't change. So, then I decided to try and communicate with him a little more, to open the gates a little and he would literally just reply once or twice and then go back to not contacting me.
Our dates have been wonderful and he has been a complete gentleman, all we have done is kiss and hold hands, so I guess he maybe still sees things as being early days.
I have a little worry that maybe he doesn't think about me when we are in between dates and this thought upsets me as I think about him a lot - despite having a very busy job and hectic gym schedule, normally I can put guys out of my head easy, but not this one, he's too special.
Thank you in advance for helping me figure this out 🙂
Posted by Taurus_IEI'm a cancer man and doing the same with a girl I have been meeting so it must be a thing. It's more because I don't want to bother her or for her to get bored with me messaging her though. Maybe to give myself time to consider how I feel about it as well. I expect it's the same for your guy
Hey there,
So, I recently met a cancer man online and this guy, is literally, like someone broke in to my head and created my dream man.
I feel so lucky to have met him and he has actually said he feels lucky to have met me a few times as I have been thinking it.
The thing is, he's not like any other guys I have dated so I don't really know how to play this, even the things I am feeling myself are strange to me. I just feel like I never want to mess him around or hurt him ever, I want him to be happy, it feels like my duty when I'm with him and I love that.
We've been dating 2 weeks (I know right, not long) and we've been on 5 dates. He has taken me to the best restaurants in the city, and I've been impressed that he's made reservations and booked movies and really thought through the details of each of our meetings.
We're getting on so well and both of us have noted that it does feel like we are dating longer. He has made throwaway remarks - like when I said I loved how he made a great effort to plan the dates "Get used to it" and when I mentioned I liked Tapas food he said "We should go to Spain, I'll check out flights". Then I complained I'd broken the cover on my iPad and he said "I know what I'm getting you for Christmas" it was all in jest and I'm clever enough not to read in to it but still he seems like such a nice person I don't think he would ever string me along either. I'm just kind of going through a "This must be too good to be true" feeling I guess..
So, here's the tricky bit, and the end of each date we plan the next one and they have all been just 2 or 3 days apart and as much as I feel like we are growing fonder of each other - I really don't get much from him in between. I didn't mind so much at the very start after 1 or 2 dates but now I'm longing to hear from him and he really isn't texting me much at all. On our third date he said he wanted to text me more but was worried that he would disturb me. He said he was always excited to see my name come up on his phone. I said "Please, text me whenever you like, I love to hear from you". But he didn't change. So, then I decided to try and communicate with him a little more, to open the gates a little and he would literally just reply once or twice and then go back to not contacting me.
Our dates have been wonderful and he has been a complete gentleman, all we have done is kiss and hold hands, so I guess he maybe still sees things as being early days.
I have a little worry that maybe he doesn't think about me when we are in between dates and this thought upsets me as I think about him a lot - despite having a very busy job and hectic gym schedule, normally I can put guys out of my head easy, but not this one, he's too special.
Thank you in advance for helping me figure this out 🙂
With a guy like this it can be one of two things.
1. He is a fantastic guy who isn't much of one to text a lot - in which case get used to that.
2. He is a douche bag who has 3 other girls on the go at the same time.
When I read your post I have to be honest, it sounded red flaggy. Talking about him getting in your head and being your perfect man - talking grand gestures of trips to Spain when he can't even call you.
This screams out to me that he is a player / narcissist / sociopath. I am sure you read that and think "no way he is so wonderful", but these people DO get in your head, and they DO listen to your idea of a perfect man and they become that to hook you in. Smart women marry men like this without realising so don't think you might be the only one.
Watch his actions, not his words and if he makes you feel confused, or "longing to hear from him" then dump and run. New boyfriends are not supposed to leave you longing for them or asking for help on a website - they are supposed to make you feel secure, understood and cared for all the time.
Anyone can be charming and play the role of the dream man, but good people don;t usually do that on dates 1 - 3.
1. He is a fantastic guy who isn't much of one to text a lot - in which case get used to that.
2. He is a douche bag who has 3 other girls on the go at the same time.
When I read your post I have to be honest, it sounded red flaggy. Talking about him getting in your head and being your perfect man - talking grand gestures of trips to Spain when he can't even call you.
This screams out to me that he is a player / narcissist / sociopath. I am sure you read that and think "no way he is so wonderful", but these people DO get in your head, and they DO listen to your idea of a perfect man and they become that to hook you in. Smart women marry men like this without realising so don't think you might be the only one.
Watch his actions, not his words and if he makes you feel confused, or "longing to hear from him" then dump and run. New boyfriends are not supposed to leave you longing for them or asking for help on a website - they are supposed to make you feel secure, understood and cared for all the time.
Anyone can be charming and play the role of the dream man, but good people don;t usually do that on dates 1 - 3.
Keep dxpnet Independent
dxpnet has been online since 1997, powered by real conversations and a passionate astrology community.
If this page helped you, you can support the site below.
Every contribution helps keep dxpnet independent and ad-light.
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →Related Topics
Met a Cancer guy and he seemed to be really cool. We both enjoy music, talk about any and everything and seem to have a great time when we are face-to-face..... He barely reaches out to me via text or call but always stalks my social media page and I catc
https://68.media.tumblr.com/54600f7dd9c8192461b18a006884c6c1/tumblr_o2tv9wInP21qgbszdo1_250.gif
https://68.media.tumblr.com/ef35848ad6a945c9c2b982ce7436549c/tumblr_o2tv9wInP21qgbszdo2_250.gif
:D
Hello,
I have enormous feelings for Cancer man and he was in love with me too, at some point months ago. He did not want to be in a relationship so he suggested to stay away this summer. He texted me yesterday that he is missing me and wants to be fri
So, my sweet Cancer man has shown a new side. haha. He told me he loved me about two weeks ago and things are amazing. However, i'm noticing a new side to him. The other day I posted a picture on IG and he my best friend Joe started commenting and we were
I've noticed there are some very insightful people on this website so I thought maybe someone could help... I'll try to keep this brief. I have a close male friend who is a Cancer, we've known each other for 2 years. I am now hopelessly in love with him b
I think I gone crazy for my guy Cancer friend. I don't know when it started.
He's weird too, sometimes he's all smiles then the next somehow quiet. I don't know how to respond when he smiles.
GAH he's so fluffy and chivalrous, is he even
y'all probably sick of me by now but i've got so much curiosity towards this sign.
This cancer man's always been coming and going in my life, and tends to 'go' just as i start to show him some interested attention.
Really sick of asking the 'does he
I've been with a Cancer man for almost 5 months. We see each other about 4 days and nights a week. Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day. I'm lucky if I get once a day with him. We actually haven't h
I met a cancer man one day at a party, he just came up to me and asked me for my number and that was the extent of the conversation because I was leaving.
He called me the next day and told me he really liked me, something about me he found sweet / sex
So I met a Cancer man and I am thoroughly confused about how everything is happening between us and what to do now.
We started off as good friends. We came closer and reached up to the level of cuddling all night. He said he does not want to be in a r
So, I recently met a cancer man online and this guy, is literally, like someone broke in to my head and created my dream man.
I feel so lucky to have met him and he has actually said he feels lucky to have met me a few times as I have been thinking it.
The thing is, he's not like any other guys I have dated so I don't really know how to play this, even the things I am feeling myself are strange to me. I just feel like I never want to mess him around or hurt him ever, I want him to be happy, it feels like my duty when I'm with him and I love that.
We've been dating 2 weeks (I know right, not long) and we've been on 5 dates. He has taken me to the best restaurants in the city, and I've been impressed that he's made reservations and booked movies and really thought through the details of each of our meetings.
We're getting on so well and both of us have noted that it does feel like we are dating longer. He has made throwaway remarks - like when I said I loved how he made a great effort to plan the dates "Get used to it" and when I mentioned I liked Tapas food he said "We should go to Spain, I'll check out flights". Then I complained I'd broken the cover on my iPad and he said "I know what I'm getting you for Christmas" it was all in jest and I'm clever enough not to read in to it but still he seems like such a nice person I don't think he would ever string me along either. I'm just kind of going through a "This must be too good to be true" feeling I guess..
So, here's the tricky bit, and the end of each date we plan the next one and they have all been just 2 or 3 days apart and as much as I feel like we are growing fonder of each other - I really don't get much from him in between. I didn't mind so much at the very start after 1 or 2 dates but now I'm longing to hear from him and he really isn't texting me much at all. On our third date he said he wanted to text me more but was worried that he would disturb me. He said he was always excited to see my name come up on his phone. I said "Please, text me whenever you like, I love to hear from you". But he didn't change. So, then I decided to try and communicate with him a little more, to open the gates a little and he would literally just reply once or twice and then go back to not contacting me.
Our dates have been wonderful and he has been a complete gentleman, all we have done is kiss and hold hands, so I guess he maybe still sees things as being early days.
I have a little worry that maybe he doesn't think about me when we are in between dates and this thought upsets me as I think about him a lot - despite having a very busy job and hectic gym schedule, normally I can put guys out of my head easy, but not this one, he's too special.
Thank you in advance for helping me figure this out 🙂