Forgetting Cancer

What's the easiest way to forget a cancer boy. Yes, this is the same boy I mentioned in my previous post. Those who thought he had no interest in me I'm pretty sure are right. And now I just want to forget everything about him. What's the simplest way to forget about him, besides NOT talking to him—

Cancers seem to get people obsessed lol

since you are a sag perhaps the best way to START [it's not going to happen over night] moving on is to get a few of your girlfriends together, dress in your best so you feel gorgeous and sexy, go out on the town and try to flirt with a few guys - not sure exactly how old you are but, but if you can, go bar/club hopping and flirt with several guys. The ego boost should boost your morale and help you feel like your energetic fearless sag self and while you'll likely still miss him, sags are famous for their free and easy spontaneous life style and with you guys a little fun and laughter is like an avalanche - before you know it you'll be on top of the world.

Posted by Sagittarius89
Cancers seem to get people obsessed lol

yeah what's up with that? i've noticed this pattern regarding my 1st boyfriend who is a cancer. he got me sucked in but i tossed him in the end (we were both so young and immature; he was my first love). he duped not 1, but 2, close girlie friends of mine and BOTH stopped talking to me after hooking up with him. i moved away from their area over a couple of years ago so i'm not in the loop. every once in a while i hear tidbits of the goings-on over there and they're both still chasing after him! he'll switch back and forth between the 2 and there's always some kinda stupid drama. weirdos!

now there's a new cancer guy in my life but he's a good 4 years older than me. i like the mature cancer much better. what's getting me in a tizzy is that i've known him for a few months and he wasn't even on my radar. it just hit me today that he's been slowly creeping into my life for the past month and is setting up house in my thoughts a lot. i didn't even notice! that's some tricky business!

anyway, don't try to forget about him. there was a good lesson learned in all of this i am sure. the hurt will subside and u will gain mental, and emotional, clarity. u need the time to go through the motions.

It's SOO hard NOT to contact him. He called me this morning while I was on the phone w/ someone else. Argh, I'm not obsessed with him. I just want to move on and forget him!

You could also try going to church. Alot of churches have singles night out. Singles who are looking for a relationship, dating or marriage come to church to eat dinner and watch a movie together provided by the church. Going to bars and clubs in search of a man is only going to land you a player. A pick up artist whose sole purpose is too pick up women to sleep with him. I talk to alot of men and I recently asked one, no actually two what do they think about women who go out to bars and clubs? Ironically both of them laughed at me and stated, "all they are out looking for is some DICK". One even stated no matter what geographical area you live in, if you hang out in clubs, bars, etc. A man is going to think all you are after is sex. That is the only thing on his mind with a woman in a club, bar, strippers club. etc.

It is not necessary to present yourself trashy. You can go to church, to the park, skating, boating, the beach, bingo etc. there are good men who want relationships. They don't want a woman who hangs out in clubs to be there woman. Start going to church and pray to God, get your life together and you don't have to not answer his calls. Talk to the guy if he calls but don't hook up with him for just sex. You will get over him when that emotional, sex connection is out of your system.

dear god.... no one said anything about looking for a man to date at a bar.... I said get dressed up go out, have fun, flirt [only], and feel good about yourself....

drama drama drama...... some people HAVE to be contrary for the sake of it.....the same people who would otherwise have told you to go out and your sexy self and show that man what he's missing.....

I don't need anyone quoting any of my so called advice.

Yes, it is good to go out and get dressed up and be yourself, flirt BUT you don't have to go to a bar or club to do flirt. Anytime you go to a bar or club to flirt Quote (ONLY), a man is going to automatically believe you want dick. Period! Have I ever been to a club, yes, have I ever been offered sex in a club, HELL YES! Always at a club or bar.

That is trashy! You don't have to be that desperate to get over NO man. It is other things you can do to get over a man, you can date yourself.

For fake ass people who don't even read my advice, why would you quote something you think I would tell someone else to do. DRUM ROLL! Because your ass is PHONY

I hardly see how pointing out what you USUALLY tell people to do makes me phony....
Flirting with a guy at aclub does NOT mean you have to sleep with him - regardless of what HE thinks it means. She is a sag, going out and getting attention and having fun will make her feel good about herself. No one told her to go get "DICK".

And you're the phony one - coming in here talking about "go to church and watch movies with single men" You have never ONCE told anyone here to go to church - your advice has ALWAYS been go out and be your sexy self and show those men what you've got - have several men at once if you want to. I don't need to make anything up or be phony - your shit is all over these boards.

excuse me - let me amend that - you have never once told anyone to go to church to find a man in a nice innocent setting. You have however accused MANY people of being demons and devils who need to go to church and save their souls....what a joke....

Ya, going to church?... sEriously? That won't help me, no offense. I'm just gonna go out, have fun, and be myself. I don't care what a guy will think of me. My goal is to forget about this cancer dude.

They do seem hard to let go. Its so weird how hard it is to really get them out of your head. If you arent with him you probably deserve better so just remember that most important fact alone and live life seeking the happiness and fulfillment you deserve.

Its strange when girls say they will forget about guys or just don't care what a guy thinks, but they come here to ask about guys and what not. I understand its friendly advice, but seriously? You honestly, don't care about what guys think about you? Then don't ask, right?

I don't think you read the whole thread.... she asked HOW to forget about a particular guy, and she is saying she doesn't care what guys at a bar that she doesn't know think of her - not the guy she's TRYING to forget.

Ya, going to church?... sEriously? That won't help me, no offense. I'm just gonna go out, have fun, and be myself. I don't care what a guy will think of me. My goal is to forget about this cancer dude.

No offense taken. I mentioned church along with other places you might want to try out that would be fun. The reason why i mentioned church is because one of the churches in one of the cities i live in has a singles night out. They invite all the singles in the city to come together once a month for a movie and they treat them all out to dinner. The purpose is for the single to get associate with other singles who are looking for dates, relationships, love etc. The sole purpose is to meet others who are in the same situation regarding love. Maybe all cities don't do it.

If you don't care what a man thinks about you. Go out and have some fun girl! Get dressed up, feel good about yourself and flirt, flirt, flirt and basically end up in the same situation you are in with the Cancer man. Most men who hang out in bars are not into relationships.

I wish you the best at whatever decisions you make and the only thing you can do right now is take care of YOU. No one can love you like you can love yourself.

for the single to get associate with other singles ....I meant to say for the single person to get associated or acquianted with other singles.

Through you will forget about him about it takes time. Good LuCK