have you ever dated an Aqua?

Was wondering who elsr in here has ever dated or is dating an Aquarius? How did you deal with the withdrawls or aloofness? Did you take it personal or did you find that it was just your aqua being an aqua! When were together everything seems to be there then all of a sudden he'll shut down on me! And part of me is saying that its him being him then I have that insecure side that is cancers have and that is the side that looses... My understanding side is winning that this is just him being him! But damn why are they so withdrawn??

I was with one for years. I have Aquarius rising and Venus/Mars in Gemini.

I am emotional, he is detached. It didn't work in the end. I'm still a Cancer, he's still an Aquarius.

As a cancer how did you deal with the aloofness?

I divorced him.

Does he satisfy your emotional needs? I hate to say it, but the only two signs that genuinely understand me and attempt to fulfill me emotionally are other Cancers and Scorpios.

Ok I agree with you on the cancer and scorp thing! So far with him I have let my emotions evolve! He is very detached and does his own thing half the time where as you know I could be clingy all day! It bothers me but doesn't because i'm trying to give the relationship time to evolve....

Like Bella I got a divorce from mine. I'm not trying to discourage you. Realize that being in a love relationship with an Aquarius is not easy.

I can already see that! He's hard to read! Its like he's my complete opposite! It's almost like having a best friend with plus benefits... Not that there is anything wrong with that! But the only time he shows any type of affection is when we are laying in bed! He will occassionaly do other things like grab my leg when we are in the car and occassionaly kiss me good bye! But its occassionaly! He Makes feel like I can't get close to him! Like i'm gonna make the wrong move! But that's how we are as cancers we pretty much ride the relationship and Let it evolve this is the first time I have ever felt like this! I really like him for who he is what heals about we get along but where are the emotions and romance?

I have dated 2 Aquarius men and they just didn't do anything for me emotionally. I'm a Sag and they are supposed to be my compatible sign but it was more like a good friendship. There was no deep connection with either of them. Since I have a Cancer moon I need that emotional reassurance. If he has a water moon there might be some hope. Do you know what his moon and venus signs are?

I don't I've never ran his chart...

I am seeing an Aqua and am a Cancer...
Well its a LDR with different countries involved. So honeygirl, what you say abt intimacy et al wont really matter to me, i mean it matters but we are far apart so i havent really thought about that. Yes, he flirts a lot, like he uses sexual inuendo at times and then makes this surprised face and goes like :O LOL No i mean when i am feeling deep and intensely intimate and want to talk about "it" to him, like mabbe on fone or chat, he is almost always joking. He never gets it if its in a raw form. I have to go all the indirect and dreamy way to get him to talk about intimacy! LOL.
But he's not really emotionally unavailable, i mean he is aloof, yes bigtime. And its so sudden. And i am lost thinking wth happened. But he is super sensitive too, or so i guess now, cz he has lots of water in his chart. Probably thats why. It would be better if you can run thru his details, will be insightful 🙂

"When were together everything seems to be there then all of a sudden he'll shut down on me! And part of me is saying that its him being him then I have that insecure side that is cancers have and that is the side that looses..."

-and that is what makes the aqua/cancer relationship SO difficult. really...

"Realize that being in a love relationship with an Aquarius is not easy."

hahaha!!! that is definitely the truth 🙂
not easy at all... and it doesn't get any easier as it goes on either.

honeygirl...what is his b-day? we should pull up his chart to get a little more insight.

Your gonna laugh but he will not tell me his bday just that he is an aqua I have brought up the subject a few times and I can't get it out of him all I know is he is 38 and he is a damn aquarius!

He told me he didn't want anything he had everything he wanted except his house! And I asked why it had to be about anything matrial?! And he said he already appreciated me!

Such a smart ass!

Basically he won't tell me when his bday is! I told him not to get mad if I didn't get him anything since he won't tell me when it is!

His response was that he had everything that he wanted already except his house...

I said ok Mr. I have everything! Why does it have to be about something material? Your making me not like you anymore!

He said thank you anyway but I already appreciate you... Meaning I wouldn't have to do anything for him on his birthday... And he still won't tell me his bday!

"The Cancer will lash out and feels it's "okay" because she was upset, and when the aqua doesn't comfort her, she sees this as insensitive on his part. But the aqua sees it as "Hey, you just disrespected me, I'm not going to comfort you!" He has no clue that his emotionless demeanor might have a hurtful effect on someone."

-oh yes!!! UC, this is right on.

The Cancer will lash out and feels it's "okay" because she was upset, and when the aqua doesn't comfort her, she sees this as insensitive on his part. But the aqua sees it as "Hey, you just disrespected me, I'm not going to comfort you!" He has no clue that his emotionless demeanor might have a hurtful effect on someone."

Yesterday morning I was at his place but lef to go home so we could meet up later and go shopping. Him and his roomate were going to watch football at a sports bar for a while. I figured I would let him do his boy thing... Well he didn't call me till later around 6. I knew he had fallen asleep because he woke up tired that morning and so did I. I really didn't feel like doing anything myself. So when he called me I answered the phone jokingy saying "what happend to you?" He was like why are you talking to me like that? In stead of saying I'm sorry or so on... I started laughing because I knew he was going to get offended right away... I said you fell asleep didn't you... He then apologized and told me how he got frustrated because he has some transactions on his account that he didn't authorize and kind of cried himself to sleep....

Knowing that he is an Aqua and this type of behavior is expected I don't really get mad... I know I will have my moments and speak my mind because nobody is allowed to just walk over me...

hasn't he done this sort of thing before?

In the beginning he would say he was going to call or call me back and wouldn't! It was on his time! So I broke it off and told him that it wasn't working for me that it seemed to be more of a sex thing and that wasn't what I was looking for! I did that through text and he never responded he said nuthing and I didn't even look at him for a week straight at work and one day he approached me and we talked and started all over again to make a long story short... Now he calls back just on his own time... Like before I just wouldn't hear from him at all! He knows better now!

Honeygirl, I dated an aqua and I thought I hated it, looking back on it...I would rather date one again then any sign.

"In the beginning he would say he was going to call or call me back and wouldn't! It was on his time!"

...Yep hehe.

Honeygirl, I dated an aqua and I thought I hated it, looking back on it...I would rather date one again then any sign

I can't say that it's easy but i'm always up for a challenge... Hopefully in the end it will just as rewarding as it is challenging! I can say in relation to the no calling back thing I feel like if I give him his space and he comes back we are good... There will be times when I need my space and want to go shell shock and if I respect his space he will hopefully do the same! I always wait for him to call... I rarely call him!

"There will be times when I need my space and want to go shell shock and if I respect his space he will hopefully do the same! I always wait for him to call... I rarely call him!"

...hmm, sounds more like you don't want to show him you want to call...🙂
I never called, texted, anything. He actually used to complain that he would like some affection now and again.

Trust me, your aqua will always be that way...you just have to learn to love it, and youll be fine! 😄

...hmm, sounds more like you don't want to show him you want to call... concur

It's not that I don't want to call or to show him... I really am trying to give him his space! He seems to need it specially lately and its making me feel frustrated i'm about to crack soon lol!

^^^ ouch sounds a lil uncomfortable...is it not natural for you to give people you date space?

I just try to ignore it. I know it might not seem like the best thing to do but trust me it works, in my case. Im a cancer so I tend to take everything seriously and I do have mood swings a lot, but he would never know it because I always act cool about things. I still stand up for myself though if needed too. All I know is Aqua's are some strange men. Very hard to read and very unpredictable. One min they can feel a certain way about you, then another the next. I don't think they don't care or mean to do it, but I think that's just how they are. If you can learn to deal with that you will be fine. Just think to yourself thats just the way they are. Like when I have mood swings, sometimes I don't mean act a certain way but it just happens. In a relationship you have to work through things. They are never perfect. If you can't work them out then you can't be together. It might not get me far or call me crazy but I ALWAYS try to hope for the best, and I always look at the positive side of everything. And it seems to work.