Help Needed

Hi....I met this cancer guy online. We had been chatting for over a month while he was away and have met him twice since he came back to London. He has most of the characteristics as mentioned in many blogs. He is an introvert, although with me he speaks a lot with me. He likes to hold hands, loves cuddling, stolen kisses, light pecks. He is fun to be around.

On the second date we ended up at his place in the afternoon as it was raining and then got intimate. He didn't want me to leave later in the evening. All that is sweet and nice.

What happens is, and what i am unable to understand is he goes quiet and doesn't msg for a day or so. Then he is back to his usual self. Is the silent treatment usual. How do i know if he is interested or its just like an on and off thing for him.

Also what is the best way to handle a cancer man. I am a Libra myself. This hot and cold thing isnt really my thing. I am straight forward and it really pissed me off when he acts up.

If you need constant, day to day, communication, then you may want to rethink moving forward with a Cancer man. Especially if you think that lack of daily communication equates to being hot and cold.

Thinking he is "acting up" because he isn't talking to you everyday, shows me that you will never be okay with this type of communication habit. Cancer men aren't good at texting and calling, great in person, but out of sight out of mind at times. It is what it is. They will tell you if they aren't interested anymore, upfront. They just give two shits about texting and calling everyday.

Posted by nikkistar
If you need constant, day to day, communication, then you may want to rethink moving forward with a Cancer man. Especially if you think that lack of daily communication equates to being hot and cold.

Thinking he is "acting up" because he isn't talking to you everyday, shows me that you will never be okay with this type of communication habit. Cancer men aren't good at texting and calling, great in person, but out of sight out of mind at times. It is what it is. They will tell you if they aren't interested anymore, upfront. They just give two shits about texting and calling everyday.

That is the point ..if he was like that since the we started off then i would have understood. Yes he doesn't like calling and so i have never insisted on it as well. But we were texting constantly for a month.

Hence the confusion. but not what you have mentioned its like a common trait i understand.

Posted by Meg123

Posted by nikkistar
If you need constant, day to day, communication, then you may want to rethink moving forward with a Cancer man. Especially if you think that lack of daily communication equates to being hot and cold.

Thinking he is "acting up" because he isn't talking to you everyday, shows me that you will never be okay with this type of communication habit. Cancer men aren't good at texting and calling, great in person, but out of sight out of mind at times. It is what it is. They will tell you if they aren't interested anymore, upfront. They just give two shits about texting and calling everyday.

That is the point ..if he was like that since the we started off then i would have understood. Yes he doesn't like calling and so i have never insisted on it as well. But we were texting constantly for a month.

Hence the confusion. but not what you have mentioned its like a common trait i understand.

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That's because the first month is the honeymoon period. Once they get comfy, they can relax on it.

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Meg123

Posted by nikkistar
If you need constant, day to day, communication, then you may want to rethink moving forward with a Cancer man. Especially if you think that lack of daily communication equates to being hot and cold.

Thinking he is "acting up" because he isn't talking to you everyday, shows me that you will never be okay with this type of communication habit. Cancer men aren't good at texting and calling, great in person, but out of sight out of mind at times. It is what it is. They will tell you if they aren't interested anymore, upfront. They just give two shits about texting and calling everyday.

That is the point ..if he was like that since the we started off then i would have understood. Yes he doesn't like calling and so i have never insisted on it as well. But we were texting constantly for a month.

Hence the confusion. but not what you have mentioned its like a common trait i understand.

That's because the first month is the honeymoon period. Once they get comfy, they can relax on it.

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ahhh..thank you dear.

any advice and tips are welcome

he is really nice and cute and i do like him

Posted by Meg123

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Meg123

Posted by nikkistar
If you need constant, day to day, communication, then you may want to rethink moving forward with a Cancer man. Especially if you think that lack of daily communication equates to being hot and cold.

Thinking he is "acting up" because he isn't talking to you everyday, shows me that you will never be okay with this type of communication habit. Cancer men aren't good at texting and calling, great in person, but out of sight out of mind at times. It is what it is. They will tell you if they aren't interested anymore, upfront. They just give two shits about texting and calling everyday.

That is the point ..if he was like that since the we started off then i would have understood. Yes he doesn't like calling and so i have never insisted on it as well. But we were texting constantly for a month.

Hence the confusion. but not what you have mentioned its like a common trait i understand.

That's because the first month is the honeymoon period. Once they get comfy, they can relax on it.

ahhh..thank you dear.

any advice and tips are welcome

he is really nice and cute and i do like him

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You are going to need a store house of patience with them. Honestly. That's the best advice I can give you.