Hurt feelings

Cancers, how do you deal with hurt feelings? I am always getting my feelings hurt. I am too sensitive. Duh, I am a Cancer. I feel like sometimes I may read into things too much but still it hurts, especially if I am having a bad day at work. I get so upset. Sometimes I go and hide and cry in the bathroom or somewhere private. I never cry in front of others or let it be known that I cry. I hate that. I wish I could grow thick skin. I am so thin-skinned. How do you cope?

Part of our easily hurt feelings is that we don't deal with the issue right away.
Meaning if someone says something hurtful we go quiet and cry.
Bring some rage every now and then. I brought some rage to work one day and some people are afraid of me now. Good!

I've learned to not hold back, say what's on my mind. Telling them what I feel. Even if it's hurtful to them.
They didn't care about how I felt so why should I care about their feelings. Maybe they need it dished back at them.
It could also help to plot revenge for the next time they come at you. Thinking of how you would respond.

Now how to deal with your fear of hurting others, even if they hurt you? Well try not to worry about their feelings.
The only people worthy of your concern are the ones worried about yours. Not the insensitive meanies.
I also tend to categorize people as friend or foe, and deal with them accordingly.

As you grow older and experience more of life you will experience less pain from peoples harsh words and actions.
It just won't get to you as much. Especially if you have a fantastic life outside of those people.
But feeling is what we do and I am proud of that. That energy can be directed toward something very positive.

I grew up in a sometimes harsh environment. I was very sensitive but learned to become more thick skinned due to constant verbal abuse and mean spirited relatives and neighbors. I was picked on constantly in elementary school and some of high school. I could not escape it so I learned how to fight physically and kicked some major ass and I learned how to spar verbally. As an adult people still think they can push me, due to my quiet nature. But I have developed a quick wit and ability to jab with sharp and stinging insults; to back them off.

Don't let anyone push you around, they will keep coming at you if you don't push back.
If it helps you could take on another character. Like Sasha Fierce. LOL

Let them crab claws come out and snip snip.

Don't be afraid to spot other people weakness and manipulate them; give them a zing right in there.
I also learned from other people how to respond to their own zingers.

Most importantly, it's best if possible to avoid people who are hurting you.
If you can't then you have no choice but to think of yourself first. Which is to find a way to fight back.
That's to either tell them they are being difficult or be difficult to them.

I hope this helps. Good luck.

Oh another thing I wanted to add was to not allow anyone to determine how your day is going to go.
It's tough but I try to think of other things that make me happy.

I am sending you some of my Sag moon and ascent energy to help you find good within the bad day.
And focus on that to get you through your day.

*Hugs*

Aw 😢 Well I often occupy myself with things that make me happy like a long run or swim or a talking to a lot of friends. But if I need alone time I bake a lot (culinary arts student) and bury myself in the kitchen, multi-tasking and cooking 3 things at once. It gets my mind off of things. In the end, I fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow which is great because if I dont tire myself during the day I will stay up all night, tossing and turning in bed and over thinking nonsense. Hang in there 🙂 You're not alone in this!

MoonMan,

You are right what works for me may not work for her, however perhaps adopting a bit of fire is empowering.
If someone is in her face, then what? Meditate?

I'm sure she is intelligent enough to take the advice given and use what works for her.

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Posted by LunarMaiden
MoonMan,

If someone is in her face, then what? Meditate?

*chuckle*
Yeah!
If someone is in your face, assume the lotus position, start chanting and levitate off the ground.
It really freaks people out, man.

Posted by LunarMaiden
MoonMan,

I'm sure she is intelligent enough to take the advice given and use what works for her.

I'm sure she is, her intelligence was not in question.

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LMAO
You know I would try that, but unfortunately I work in a mental institution.
They may have me committed!

So if her intelligence isn't in question then she can very well be given various ideas of how to deal with her situation. 🙂

^^^What happened Craab?

Finally another culinary student! Are you studying patisserie or cuisine ?

PASTISSRIE! Its my passion 😄

😉

Posted by Craabmoon
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Posted by Craabmoon
Awww Lunar and MoonMan, I missed your arguments back and forward.

It's okay, it's not really an argument.
However from time to time I will remind MoonMan who is his Mistress!

Did this thread totally derail? 😢

I hope we answered OP's question? 🙂

I am starting this week in a french pastissrie and very excited about it! 🙂 Nothing gets better than culinary arts, its art that you can eat! 😄

CautiousCancer, if you need a test mouth. Mine is available.