I LOVE Cancers

My best friends and a lot of people close to me are all Cancers. I love you all. Don't let negative people get you down. Just wanted to let y'all know that I appreciate YOU!

On a slightly darker note, Geminis figure prominently in my past stalkers, along with a couple of water signs. *shrugs*

You guys are just fun to be around. My first best friend from JHS was a Cancer and she was great. But we went to diff. high schools. Then I met another girl with the same bday in HS and she was cool too. But we drifted apart after college. But that's ok. I met other Cancers along the way and y'all just nice people.

And of course there are Cancer guys who I love too. Might not have worked out with some of them but we're still friends and it's all good. I even call one of them my soulmate even though we never got together. We never dated or held hands or kissed but that's alright by me. He lives in Europe and I live here so we knew we couldn't be together but that doesn't mean I would care for him any less.

Same goes for my other close guy friend. I met him when I was just 12 and then again at 16 and then again at 20 and now we're just good friends and we see each other occasionally. He's always there to listen to me and really try and understand. I do the same for him. He might still hit on me a lot but hah, that's just a part of the charm. He's pretty popular with the ladies too but he tells me how he still misses one of his exes. I know he can't let go of her even though he's trying his best. I've learned a lot from him.

I have countless stories with my Cancer friends I could share any time. All positive and all beautiful. It is just what you make of it. You cancers seem to want to really get to know a person. I just find you guys easy to open up to more than any other people.

Then there's the guy I'm interested in. I could write books on how wonderful he is. He's put me through a lot but it's ok. He's hiding right now and we haven't spoken in weeks. But the last time we did talk we both told each other how we really feel about one another. I know it gets overwhelming for him to be so open and emotional so I'm letting him have his space to work through whatever it is he needs to work through. So I really wish I could just be open and send him a loving text but instead I'm gonna come on here and show the Cancer board some loving instead.

Some of my longest friendships are with Geminis. Love y'all!

I don't stalk. LOL when it's over it's really over for me.

Not all air signs are bad. We're all different, unique individuals all trying to carve out our place in this world.

I know my Cancer guy has told me that he doesn't get a lot of attention and that he has low self esteem so I compliment him whenever I do get a chance. I tell him how good he makes me feel and how much he makes me laugh. But no matter how much I compliment him he doesn't seem to get it and doesn't see how wonderful he is or how attractive he is. All I can do is just quietly love this person and hope that he understands through my actions instead of my words that he means the world to me. I've figured out so many different ways to show a person you love them other than with words. When he goes quiet on me, instead of hating him or cursing him out in my sleep, I just try to find other ways I could learn to show him that I care without using just words. I read up on the things he likes so maybe when we do get to talk we have more things to discuss. We're both so busy so talking to him occasionally is even a luxury for me. I even told him I'd never take it for granted. Time is precious.

I love Cancers too my sister is a Cancer and she is the sweetest loving person ever and my boyfriend is a Cancer and I haven't been this happy in a long long time. You guys are amazing, you can be challenging at times (like every sign) but you are worth it!!!!!

@geminibunny:
I think the thing about Cancers and words more often than not is because their insecurity makes them often immune to genuine praise. On the flip side, it also makes them less prone to flattery unlike their neighbor sign #5 *cough Leo*.
That's not to say a kind word at the right moment can work wonders, as long as its genuine.
I think you hit on it with actions. Now, actions done to "buy" a Cancer will be seen through pretty quickly and that insincerity gets logged in those emotional databanks for future reference.
Just the fact of being there when a Cancer inevitably goes into one of their funks goes a long way as well.
This is a broad brush. I've known some real "prima donna" Cancers where what I said above doesn't apply--those types display passive aggressive behavior in all its glory and can be rather toxic.

I know BlackIndian that you do sound a lot like my Cancer guy. So that's why I read many of your posts to learn more. He also loves spaghetti and other pasta/marinara combinations. He loves to cook. When he tells me that he likes me and only me I believe him. I trust him that he is busy and even when he is quiet, that's ok with me. I'm not a girl who needs constant validation.

When he goes quiet it can go on for 2-3 weeks and now almost a month. But I realize that if he never comes back to me, so be it. I might reach out when I'm ready to face that fact. But he's never told me that he doesn't like me. Quite the contrary. Every time we do talk it's really all peachy and the attraction is out of this world amazing. So no, he doesn't confuse me. I understand. If we talk to each other every day or keep constant contact nothing will ever get done for either of us. We're both such busy people I'm afraid we really would not get anything done and neither of us can have that. Out attraction is so strong that if I don't pull back a little I would probably lose my head in all of it. Can't have that.

In the meantime, I come up with all sorts of cute messages I could write to blow up his phone with but I don't and I won't. I think I scared him enough already but he's told me he likes it that I tell him how I feel about him. That he's glad and he doesn't see it in a negative light. But I have pretty good self control.

But you guys here, y'all good people. Don't let them negative people or words get you down. So I'll come on here and give y'all some attention instead. While I'm at it, maybe I could set some of these other bitches straight.

I believe the best course of action when they go into their funks is not let it affect you. When my boyfriend goes into the dark side lol, I am happy regardless, I do my thing and then the best way to bring him back is to pull him to me, put his head on my chest and give him a head massage while we relax on the couch. Affection works like magic at least with mine.

Ah Dafna, you are a lucky one yours is close and you get to show affection that way. For me, he's too far away. Having him near me all the time would be a luxury.

I try not to let the distance affect me. Sometimes it's hard that's all. When I have more time I would keep contacting and showing him I am here if he ever gets out of his funk. But nowadays, I just have to get my work done usually so I leave him alone more than I should but when I try to say hi and get nothing back, what am I supposed to do so I do nothing. We have such different communication style s.

When I think of him all I can do is smile. I don't feel sadness or pain. He makes me happy just being himself. I don't even want him to change anything.

Posted by CluelessCancer
"Affection works like magic "

stop telling our secrets

secrets schmecrets : they're out now. everyone knows...

Pixie Dust all around for everyone!!!! YAY!!!!

He's talked about cooking for me since the beginning. We just never had the chance. But I cannot wait.

I told him that he inspires me to set up a whole kitchen for him so he could experiment but whenever I want to say such things I'm afraid that I sound too much like I wanna wife him up so I only said it once. LOL

Awwwww..I'll try to be as consistent as I can. I used to just message him whether or not I get an answer from him. I didn't care. I just want to make him smile or laugh when he gets my messages and know that I am there for him no matter what. No matter how distant he gets. I'm always there. I just won't bother him too much or blow up his phone. I know when to stop. I'm not that clingy. hehehe.

I cannot wait to give him a beautiful kitchen one day, if I am so lucky to have him that long to be able to.

This night has made me miss him so much. I want to send him a cute pic and message regardless if he answers back or not. I've learned to be extra fearless with this one.

Actually you know what, I won't message him tonight. I need to keep my head above water for a bit for the time being. Too much to get done. Can't get swept up in this even though it is just too easy to be all caught up in all of these strong emotions.

Talking to Cancers is better than reading all those damn romance novels or watching rom coms. I'm getting my fix right here.

Gemini Bunny: Why do you think he's hiding? When you spoke to him last was he going through stuff already?

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
@geminibunny:
I think the thing about Cancers and words more often than not is because their insecurity makes them often immune to genuine praise. On the flip side, it also makes them less prone to flattery unlike their neighbor sign #5 *cough Leo*.
That's not to say a kind word at the right moment can work wonders, as long as its genuine.
I think you hit on it with actions. Now, actions done to "buy" a Cancer will be seen through pretty quickly and that insincerity gets logged in those emotional databanks for future reference.
Just the fact of being there when a Cancer inevitably goes into one of their funks goes a long way as well.
This is a broad brush. I've known some real "prima donna" Cancers where what I said above doesn't apply--those types display passive aggressive behavior in all its glory and can be rather toxic.

Thanks for the warning. Passive-Aggressiveness is really scary. I've dealt with abusive types before from other signs so I know..I've read up on the P-A thing but to see it in action is another thing. My guy doesn't have a toxic bone in his body but he just shuts down so easily and that might confuse some people for the silent treatment or whatever. I don't see it that way. When we do talk he is the sweetest most amazing person I've had the pleasure of talking to so I'll take the good with the bad. He's apologized endlessly and saying how much he's hurt me but the truth is, I've had much worse treatment from others before him. This one is a cake walk. Ignore me...ok...that's not so bad. It only hurts a little bit but honestly, it's not a direct assault on me or anything. He's just gotta handle his own emotions better but as of now, he doesn't know how and I can't help him. This is something that has been deeply engrained in him that he needs to work on and some girl who's been around for a few months isn't going to make such a huge impact on him. Hah. If he keeps doing this then it's his own loss and his own fault we are not interacting because I can be really good company and I always make him smile and laugh a lot so I know it's not me he has to deal with. It's his own demons. His treatment of me does not heighten or diminish my confidence one bit. I know my own value and I know how to keep busy.

Posted by CrabPrincess
Gemini Bunny: Why do you think he's hiding? When you spoke to him last was he going through stuff already?

To be honest with you he's always had a lot of stuff to deal with from the beginning. Last we spoke we were both having a hard time dealing with the long distance. But we were ok. The attraction was like HOT. Nothing's new and nothing's changed. Just the same old hotness from day one and then after that it is always the same. I always am more vocal about my feelings for him so I expected it that he wouldn't be returning my sweet words after the fact. But during the exchange there was a whole lot of flirting and complementing one another and laughing. We get along fabulously. It's just he's fallen into the habit of having me say really nice things like paragraphs and paragraphs of nice things and he would completely ignore it for a while until we talk again weeks later and he would bring it up and say he was glad I say those things and happy that I feel that way about him.

The times before when I would have more time to deal with him I would constantly contact him even without a peep from him and sometimes I get a peep back and sometimes I don't. It was all a hit or miss with this one. I never minded. But nowadays I am extra busy so I have chosen not to be too available any more and so as a result the times in between are longer nowadays but that is ok with me. He has explained to me before that he is not the type who is showy with his feelings and it makes him feel weak. Everything I need to hear I've heard all before from him. He no longer has to explain himself. And I asked him every time we talk if he is talking to other women or seeing anyone else because I am curious and I am not afraid to ask so he would tell me no, that he is only focusing on me. I believe him and I trust him. Neither of us are talking to other people. I know I can be a handful already so why would he need to talk to other girls. By the things he's shown me he's really disciplined and if he says he is busy I believe him. Even when he wasn't busy I knew he wasn't and he would say I deserve better or that he knows he sucks at showing his emotions to me. Hah, he is not the typical Cancer I read about in fairytales. And that's quite alright with me.

I've told you before, he is a triple cancer Sun, Moon and Venus. Whatever that means, I don't even know...but whatever.

He's adorable just the way he is. I could engage him more in conversation if I tried harder but I have gotten way busier these days so I wish I could just keep at it but I can't. Times have changed a bit..I need to keep my head up above water this time. I've learned many tricks to get him to talk to me but I'm not going to use all of my tricks, or he would catch on to me sooner than later. I also don't want to feel so much like a circus performer either. You've asked me before is he worth it? So far, yea....so so worth it. Just seeing him smile is worth it. Just knowing somewhere out there that he might be having happy thoughts is well worth it.

The ironic thing is that he would tell me that he is always there for me so if I need to vent or talk or rant I could always find him and do all of that. But I have a feeling he meant I could rant and vent to his silence. LOL. He's a funny one. I don't really have much to vent or rant about to him. I think both of us are very strong that way. He and I are both so used to supporting other people so we're not really the type to reach out when in need. I know where he is when I need him I could always find him but I don't bother going on the platforms he uses because what do I look like, a doormat? I am not a doormat. And no I am not a needy girl. I don't need to vent my complaints about people or life to him. I've got my own ways to deal. He doesn't need to hear my crap or my daily life. Maybe I need to start getting a little whinier and make him "help" me even though I really don't need much of his help. I don't need him to be my therapist no matter how much he'd like that he's practically begging me last time to share my vents and complaints with him. He's always like..."tell me more..tell me more...do you feel better now?" So sweet.

I guess I am more emotional than most Geminis and air signs but I have very little water in my charts. I am a Leo Moon, Sag Rising and Taurus Venus. I'm just more emotional because I like being this way. I just don't show it outwardly or to people who don't know me. With my Cancer guy it is very easy for me to show him. I'll show him everything and it's been that way since day one. He just knows how to get me to reveal more than I should. I could feel my icicles melting and then that's it, before I knew it was sitting in a pool of my own emotions and he's there to cradle me. He's always done that and he knows his own power over me. He knows he's capable of getting me to melt.

Thing is I am a very tough and strong person but for him I am vulnerable and I open up whenever I can. That doesn't mean that I just go all mushy and become a doormat to be stepped on. I'm not a welcome mat where he could come and go as he please. So he gets that about me and he apologizes incessantly when he comes back around and he is afraid to lose me if he doesn't do that. But truth is...I don't need much apologies. I just need consistency. I don't make it hard for him when he does come back but I don't make it extra easy either. It's always been the same thing. I'm not mad but explain thyself. LOL. I told him I don't get mad easily and he knows it. I don't get mad at him like I should be as other girls would be. But I'm not gonna go into a hissy fit when someone ignores me. I just get gone myself. But don't be coming back like it's a free pass either. When he does come back around he knows I deserve an explanation or something so he does his sweet thing and explains himself or apologizes. It gets old. I know...But this is his way of coping. Who am I to change his ways. If I don't like it then I would have gotten gone long ago. I'm here to stay. I'm not giving up on this. I'm not letting this go so easily just because he's different. As long as he isn't abusive to me, I am alright. That's my only request. So far, he's been amazing all around. But if he's quiet, I know he's sulking and something's up and bothering him. I just let him know I'm here...big smile.

Oh yea I get my romance fix when I come on here or when I read up on Cancer men on websites or Linda Goodman's Sun Signs book. Hehehehe. That Linda Goodman's write up on you guys is so dreamy and man..that alone could get me to cream my panties. mm Hm..sorry about that.

You can talk about food or whatever you like. I would text my guy what he's had for dinner but he would never answer that question me. LOL I'm just kidding, I only asked him question once. Why did you get rid of your thread earlier. You should start it again. Let's see what others have to say about why they're so attracted to Cancers. I'm curious to know too.

Posted by BlackIndian22
@geminibunny im glad you getting your romantic fix or whatever here lol. I like talking about romance & stuff like that. Especially foods i like to cook. Trust me the emotions are actually a good thing. Maybe that's why you gemini like us Cancers because we help you feel your deepest emotions

i'll try to find it and post it on here for you guys. Hah...yea...one time I discovered that book and I was missing my crab a lot so the only part of that book I read was on Cancers and boy did she get me to cream my panties for you guys. LOL I was like..damn..that's it..that is why I love him..Linda Goodman was singing your praises through and through in that little gem of a book.

Oh and here it is BlackIndian. So easy to find. So true too

http://sunsignsbylindagoodman.blogspot.com/2009/09/cancer-crab-june-22nd-through-july-23rd.html<BR>

Here's another article about you guys that's gotten me good last night when I couldn't sleep. lol read this when you're more conscious and so you're eyes won't bulge out.

http://drsextalk.com/cancer-sensitive-crab/<BR>

cancers have the most fewer flaws , we're just hyper sensitive

We love you too! ^^

@crabberries I know a thing or two about shutting down and so my guy shutting down doesn't bother me. I'll keep banging on that door until my hands are bloody and I'll keep doing it until he tells me to stop or that he doesn't want me any more. He's never said anything negative to me. But he is hyper sensitive and I'm very blunt. I say what's what and I don't censor myself ever. So if I hurt him I wouldn't know. But I'll keep apologizing if I knew I did something wrong and he usually tells me I did nothing wrong. Shutting down is his coping mechanism and I've utilized it many times growing up from the harsh realities of my childhood so I get it. I get why he's doing it. It has never felt as an offense but more of a defense mechanism so I don't ever and will not fault him for that. To me, I haven't seen many flaws in him yet, he's amazing and I tell him that as often as I can and when I feel like it.

@BlackIndian Thanks for asking, I slept enough. How about yourself? I save these articles on my phone and I read them when I miss him. They describe him to a tee and I've never believed in astrology as much as I do now because of the things I've read about him. He's really something special. I agree, every woman who comes on here to complain and are negative about their Cancer men should read these articles and read more about them before they get all pissed off from the way some of you guys are. Instead of getting mad and bitter about Cancers, they should learn more about them instead. That way, they would understand, it's not a bad or negative thing, it's just a part of who Cancers are. They can then choose to roll with it or get the eff out. I got used to it. The first time he disappeared for 3 days I freaked out because he was in the hospital and I was so so worried but now, it's been a month almost of radio silence and I know he's fine because he's always logged on to a platform that we both use so I know he's ok. I don't need to have constant reassurance that he's into me. Honestly, I am more worried for his health and his mental state than anything else because I know he could get really depressed at times and when I'm not there to crack a smile on him I get worried, that's all. These women on here just need to know it's not always about them, it's more about learning each other's ways and once they learn how to deal, it's really not so bad.

How long has it been since he stopped talking to you?

I know I'm asking alot of questions, but i'm just trying to figure this out wether he's really in shell time.

@CrabPrincess the last time we spoke was about almost 4 weeks ago. And yes, it really is shell time. He's always asking me to hang out when we do talk but I am busy so I tell him no., I cannot see him. I can talk on phone, text, email, whatever, but meeting up is hard right now. So he gets it and he goes into hiding if he feels like sulking like he always does when I don't give him what he wants or if he is really busy too or if I am overly dramatic he gets overwhelmed and he would ignore my messages for a bit. But usually he ignores them because I'm really just reiterating to him that I'll be here when he's out of his shell time. I say it. Come back when you want, I'll be here. Every time we do speak he wants to meet up and get his instant gratification. But no. I don't give in every time.

Like I said before, if I want him to talk to me I have my tricks and they've worked for me before. But if I am really busy, I don't bother him and it can go on for the both of us for weeks like this. And we are fine. When we do talk, the attraction is instantly back on and the sweet words pour out of him like melted butter. He is super gooey and super yummy whenever he and I give each other the time of day.

I'm afraid to say it, but I do have my own shell time too. I just won't ignore him when he messages me but I don't always give in to plans to meet up when it is just convenient for him. Doesn't stop him from trying though. Every time we do speak (about once every few weeks) he'd ask to see me.

lol @BlackIndian I love Ninja Turtles LOL hah..that is saying a lot

It's true though, Geminis don't need to constantly be around their partners. It doesn't hurt if they're always around but I know myself too well. I would get sick of a person who's constantly laying it on thick. I'd get really hesitant to be with someone who's constantly and always annoying me. I really don't like to deal with too much clinginess. There has to be a fine balance. I don't mind the intensity but I do mind the possessiveness and aggressiveness but so far he hasn't shown either so, we're good here.

It's different for everybody. Some girls like more attention. Me, I'm ok with what I'm getting. I'm not doing it on purpose or anything. I don't deliberately need my own space. I just happen to like the space too. I welcome it sometimes. Space is ok, but to be ignored is something else. I hate being ignored. So I like it when he says he's busy, talk another time. I'm ok with that. But to ignore me, uh uh. That really pisses me off. I bolt out of there and get detached immediately to save myself. I always hold onto him for some reason though so when he tries and pulls me back I'll give in. In the past when I used to get ignored I'd be gone gone so fast. I told him once that he knows exactly how to train me to miss him just right. There's something about him that pulls me back in and I'm curious to find out what it is. I think he's worth it.

I'm no doormat. Last time we spoke he assumed I was in love with him and I was like as quickly as he said it, I replied, Nope, I am not in love. I corrected him immediately. It takes more than few months of sweet talking push pulling and hot and cold to get me to fall in love. It's gonna take a hell of a lot more than that for me to fall in love with anybody. You can't assume a smitten Gemini is in love just like that. No way. He needs to try harder to get me to fall. I can't say for sure what does the trick for me but it sure as hell take a whole lot more than few months of flirting and hiding for it to happen for me.

I love the turtles. My favorite color is blue too. But I think I liked Michelangelo because he was the crazy one and he always said the funniest stuff.

Yea, my situation is kinda different because he's never said to me that he doesn't want to be with me or that there's another chick in the picture and for sure there are no exes. If he's said any of those things I'll be the first to bolt out of there so fast. I don't hold on cuz when it's done it will be done for me. I don't linger. I don't get friend zoned either so the chances that we'd stay friends would be slim to none. I don't stick around to hear about no exes or other females or how much he's grown to not want me. I would not be sticking around after any of that. Shell time I can handle. Negativity like 1) don't want me, I am out. 2) got another ho in the house, I'm out. 3) ex coming back into the picture, have fun! I won't fight for his love. I'll fight his melancholy and his idiocy when he decides to not pick up the damn phone but if he gets really stupid then I'm gone. Every time we do speak he makes sure to tell me how sorry he is at not expressing himself more clearly, how attracted he is to me, how much he misses me, how much he likes me, how much he cannot wait to see me again and that there is definitely no other girl in the picture, new or old. His mom hasn't even made an appearance yet but that might never happen for as long as I can help it, and probably far far into the future if it ever does. lol

@BlackIndian. To be honest with you. If he were to be clingy with me, I don't think I would mind one bit. I used to not like it with other guys but I've thought about it. If he likes it and if he ever gets that way with me, I am all for it. I won't push him away. I'll accept it with open arms and my heart will love it. If he chooses to be clingy with me I won't hurt him. I'll accept him for who he is whichever way or form he chooses to be. I've told him that already and he knows it. So no negative stuff.

You guys make me happy. I hope you're all are doing well and are happy and healthy.