In love with Cancerian, i need help!!

I'm an aries... and yes I've fallen madly, truly deeply for this gorgeous cancerian, I know he isn't for me but he keeps sending me these 'signals', my question is, how do I capture this guy's heart and let him know that i like him without scaring him away?

This guy is already with someone, but he still plays around with me as if he is not...

I think that they can separate *acts of love* from love itself...but the thing is, I can't manage it!

How can i win a cancerian man's heart?

Question, how do you cancerians let people know if you *like* them? Has anyone been in a similar predicament?

Hi! I'm a Cancer, but I am also a woman. But I hope this info can help you at least a little.


Cancer

How to influence Him: He likes someone that is a mental mate, who can carry conversations with him. He is subject to mood swings, so help him when he gets down, and ride with him when he is high. He is very intuitive and can sense your true feelings, be genuine and real, not pretentious. He can pick up on whatever mood you're in and feel the same way within minutes, if you are happy, he'll be happy, if sad, he'll be the same. He likes social things, but not in excess, get his approval first before you commit.
A few don'ts: Don't get careless about your personal appearance, he appreciates beauty.
There are certain things or beliefs that he holds more dear than others, don't tread on them. Don't bring to him other's emotional baggage, he'll pick up on these emotions and it may upset his mood. Don't try to dominate him, use diplomatic persuasion.
He goes best with: Scorpio, Pisces, Taurus, Virgo
He clashes with: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius, Gemini
Neutral: Cancer, Libra, Capricorn, Aquarius

Hi Aries787

What description lovestruck has given may match. I would like to say that this crab dish whom you would like to have for your grand supper is just looking. He doesn't seem to be very satisfied with his current girl. So he is flirting with you. Well you can be sure that if he finds one flaw with you, he could be flirting with yet another one right under your nose. And as an Aries I know that this is unacceptable to you. 😉

Looks like he is not married yet. So no harm in trying your luck. Just be yourself and give sweet smiles to him from a reasonable distance. This way he knows that you like him but at the same time are in no hurry to rush into a relationship without testing the waters first. 🙂

All the best to you the spirited one! Keep posting.

Looney Bird.

Hi all,
AM I MISSING SOMETHING HERE—?

Is it just me or has anyone picked up on the fact that this guy is already involved with someone??

And even if he may not be happy with his current girl, is this any reason we should put the stamp of approval on his behavior. Or just dismiss how much damage and hurt could be caused to his current love interest if he gets involved with aris747?

Does he not have an obligation to cut ties with her before moving on to other interests of any kind? How can we go ahead and tell her to go for it without any regard to the other girls feelings if she finds out.

And what does this say about the cancers character? Does what he is doing indicate that he would be a stable, reliable partner for anyone. And how would aeris787 feel if she was the one he was involved with right now, and he did this to her.

Surely she should realize that this could become a very real possibility for her in the future. She could be standing "literally" in the other womans shoes someday with this guy.

And what if he has no intention of leaving his current mate, and is just looking for some fun on the side. I dont know but to me giving incouragement in this situation is not the best course of action to take, as both women could get hurt badly. Dont we have better standards here that we stand by??

And aeris787, how can you justify going after someone else's partner. Would it be ok with you if someone did this to you?? I guess it would as you dont seem to have any concern for the other girl here. Or the fact that the guy would do the same thing to you sweetheart.

My advise to you is if you get the chance to tell him you are interested, let him know that he has to be available to pursue you first. As in not involved with anyone else anymore before you will concider seeing him.

Well there you have it, my opinion. Take it for what it is worth, or leave it if you like.

TW2

Hi TW2 my friend!

You really made me hang my head in shame! How right are? How ever well intentioned my post was, i should have shown some more sensitivity. I am open to all sueestions which indiate towards insentivity, any thing gross or unfair.

Let em assure you my friend what ever i sugeested to Aries787 was after a lot of thought. I realised from her post that this particualr cancerian is no good for any female. And oviously the girl that he is currently seen with doesn't seem to be like a committed partner. Just my perception. And Aries 789 seems ot be knowing exactly what she is getting into. But yes ther is another angle that i realise now. How do we know if Aries 787 is seeing just what she wants to see? And how can we ignore the other girl's feelings. Maybe those two are at the begining of their relationship. And hwatever the guy maybe his girl must be working towards establishing soemthign more meaningful.

I am sorry Aries 787 not judging you but what TW2 is saying is absolutely right. When ever you see attached person, the best thing is to keep out of any involvement with such a person, doesn't matter if he is showing interst in you. If he approaches tell him to get his house in order first.

Thanx Tw2 for opening my eyes. Usually i refrain from giving any such suggestions. believe me it is the first timein my life that I have fallen form grace in this manner.

Love to all

Looney Bird

Hi Friends in Duncan Board Land!

Wow, the knowledge that is seeping from this screen is awesome! For so many years women have been taught to disregard their feelings to make a man happy - to settle to feel loved - to not trust their instincts - and so on....we are waking up to the truth of who we are - we deserve respect and won't compromise our integrity, our being just to be in a relationship. The lights are burning brighter 🙂

Aries 787 very wise wisdomfilled words are being shared with you from those who may have traveled the path before you. You are so fortunate in that you may choose according to your knowledge as to what path you need to take for your own personal growth....my wish for you is that it will be a path that gives you inner peace.

This board is a great place to be...to share and most importantly to grow! Have fun learning!!!!!

Enjoy the ride my friend and welcome!

Freebird

hi all, thanks looneybird for the insightful advice. Unfortunately the matters grew more complicated since, we agreed on being friends and i was pleased with that, he told me he was in love with another woman...and i was fine with that. On the same day though, he tried to hold hands with me, tried to touch me and tried to kiss me. I was not happy to say the least. I did not express my feelings because i was a bit shocked with his behaviour. All of it was so confusing.

I really just want to be friends...because i think he's cool but now when i try to call him, he does not reply. I don't know what's going on...and i can't read his signals...i just wish i knew what to do. A few have told me he's not worth the trouble...but other than that, i think we had a lot in common. I made it clear I was happy being friends, but...he kissed me the next minute and tried holding my hand.

I don't want to be played around, but i want to be friends. I'm a bit lost at the moment.

Hi Aries 787

Dear one stay away form him. He is a game player no doubt. And you are turned on by him. That's the reason for your confusion. At the end of it all you may end up at the same stage that you ar ein now- confused and miserable.

Looney Bird

Hi guys...
I am new here and new at this...but I just couldn't pass these posts up...It just happened to catch my eye...CANCER.. OMG one of my friends (male)..whom I have spent almost everyday with for 2 years...is a Cancer/Leo...He is a partially disabled man..so I have spent alot of time with him..aiding him, keeping him company and watching our friendship grow....Well!!! I have been amazed at the comments about how wonderful/terrific these people are and their shell, patience needed, don't hurt them,don't ask questions,don't delve into their treasures, wait for their timing, moody etc...I guess I could on and on...but we all read these posts..so I won't...
Please don't take me as insensitive..because I am not..I'm a Pisces..gentler and kinder I couldn't be...I'm angry right now..and I have gone through more days of asking myself what just happened here...what did I do or say..when I should have asked what the hell is his problem and where does he get off...— All I wanted was a frienship with a guy that could be supportive, caring,fun, and we had a lot to teach each other
The mood swings, outbursts, never answering a question about things that cause hard feelings being said or done between friends with any openess, scenarios only in his head to justify himself, unfounded criticisms, never wrong,if he gets hurt..it counts..if he hurts someone else it don't, never an apoligy in any form. We will be rolling along having fun, laughing and talking..then bingo..outburst time..Then there is that shell..when he knows he's wrong and doesn't want to have to address it or didn't get his way..off he goes into it.. the last time it lasted 3 months..till I finally called him to address the issues.. his outbursts have me leaving till I can deal with it and then usually I call him..lately when he says things that hurt me ..I give it right back to him..when someone smacks you the reflex is smack back...and there have been many disagreements in the middle between then and now..the lasted issues were 3 1/2 months ago..he's laying low..the only thing going for him..is he sent me a b-day card..last week..
so my advice is and I feel this strongly < if his friendship is mine..it won't leave me> if it's not then it will go...This time I'm not calling...I don't care what sign you are...I don't have answers... only questions myself..but there is a social behavior that people expect(and should) from human beings and to disrequard any part of it ...because some people haven't grown up, don't know how to be open or honest or are just protecting themselves isn't acceptable...
Sorry if I sound hard..but I've had enough trying to understand something or someone who expects me to be a mind reader and punching bag.. .. I'm always being supportive and I don't feel he appreciated it..So girls and guys pay attention
and take a step back and obseve before you get involved friend/or foe ;*)
sofia