Lets face it

I think us cancers dont mean to, but we do kind of make our partners insecure. And i feel like accepting it its the first step to changing.
I mean my cancer friends tell me the same thing. If they ever broke up it was because the other person felt insecure and it suffocated the cancerian.
Whats your lots opinion? Are we gonna put our egos aside or.. lol

Cancers make their partners insecure because they are insecure

Posted by scorpiothebadass
Cancers make their partners insecure because they are insecure

that wouldnt be the case with me . I know exactly where i stand

Posted by notafollower
I think us cancers dont mean to, but we do kind of make our partners insecure. And i feel like accepting it its the first step to changing.
I mean my cancer friends tell me the same thing. If they ever broke up it was because the other person felt insecure and it suffocated the cancerian.
Whats your lots opinion? Are we gonna put our egos aside or.. lol

This makes shitloads of sense!

Posted by KsamCancer
I think people become clingy(sometimes obsessed) to us and we need our personal space sometimes

Bs aside. We must be doing something wrong, because our partners are meant to feel secure and happy w us. Not obsessed and paranoid. Js

Posted by KsamCancer
I think people become clingy(sometimes obsessed) to us and we need our personal space sometimes

True! But God forbid if we get clingy - seems like double standards because I also see threads complaining about cancers being too clingy. So what gives?

I use to get shit all the time from an ex about how *I* made her feel. It got to the point I felt I could never please her - she always had something to complain about. I'm the same damn person now as I was then, so why is it my current gf feels like I'm always there when she needs me? But then again, she's not the needy type. Maybe that's the difference? idk *shrugs*.

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Posted by KsamCancer
I think people become clingy(sometimes obsessed) to us and we need our personal space sometimes

Bs aside. We must be doing something wrong, because our partners are meant to feel secure and happy w us. Not obsessed and paranoid. Js

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I don't feel I'm on this earth to make people happy. A person should own their own happiness. If someone makes me happier, I consider it a blessing, not an obligation. jmo

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Posted by KsamCancer
I think people become clingy(sometimes obsessed) to us and we need our personal space sometimes

Bs aside. We must be doing something wrong, because our partners are meant to feel secure and happy w us. Not obsessed and paranoid. Js

I don't feel I'm on this earth to make people happy. A person should own their own happiness. If someone makes me happier, I consider it a blessing, not an obligation. jmo

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The irony. Point is if the other person isnt happy we arent gonna be happy. Its simple, so if u wanna make yourself happy make those around you happy. And wht are your ex/current gfs signs? Just out of curiosity

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Posted by KsamCancer
I think people become clingy(sometimes obsessed) to us and we need our personal space sometimes

True! But God forbid if we get clingy - seems like double standards because I also see threads complaining about cancers being too clingy. So what gives?

I use to get shit all the time from an ex about how *I* made her feel. It got to the point I felt I could never please her - she always had something to complain about. I'm the same damn person now as I was then, so why is it my current gf feels like I'm always there when she needs me? But then again, she's not the needy type. Maybe that's the difference? idk *shrugs*.

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I agree on the clingy thing. I dont see it being a common cancer trait tbh. I honestly believe around a 70% of the time.

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Posted by KsamCancer
I think people become clingy(sometimes obsessed) to us and we need our personal space sometimes

Bs aside. We must be doing something wrong, because our partners are meant to feel secure and happy w us. Not obsessed and paranoid. Js

Are they happy but just got addicted to cancer love?

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I have a q . How dyou feel about cancer women? Can you relate to them?

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Posted by KsamCancer
I think people become clingy(sometimes obsessed) to us and we need our personal space sometimes

Bs aside. We must be doing something wrong, because our partners are meant to feel secure and happy w us. Not obsessed and paranoid. Js

Are they happy but just got addicted to cancer love?

I have a q . How dyou feel about cancer women? Can you relate to them?

Yeah the relationship has a brother-sisterly vibe to it

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Thats cool. For some reason i cant stand them but i wouldnt let people chat shit about them either. Lol
Might be cause i see myself in them and it makes me mad to see them do certain things. As if i was criticising myself. Idk hard to explain . But you seem cool. Idk why i get this vibe from u like youre a mix of the weeknd and kevin hart . Dpnt ask

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The irony. Point is if the other person isnt happy we arent gonna be happy. Its simple, so if u wanna make yourself happy make those around you happy. And wht are your ex/current gfs signs? Just out of curiosity

Experience tells me different.

I went the route of trying to make an ex happy - she just found something else to be unhappy about. I learned through that relationship, that you can't make someone happy if they are not happy with themselves. If being who you are makes another person happy, then great. I'm not saying I won't try to improve things that need improvement, but if you get in the cycle of jumping every time someone is not happy about something, you will find yourself jumping through a lot of fucking hoops.

My current gf is a leo. Very independent. When we're together, we're like two peas in a pod. LOL. But I think some people look for a relationship to validate themselves and that's where you get into big trouble. If a person's validation is coming from a relationship, then when the relationship has trouble, all hell breaks loose because their validation is all wrapped up in you. To me, that's not even healthy. Loving someone and missing them and wanting to be with them is one thing. Demanding every second that they pay attention and answer every text in a certain time frame or else they become suspicious/hurt/angry is crazy as fuck to me. jmo

I'll just mention the last two ex's before leo:
Virgo ex criticized me til I was just numb - always complained about something. Felt like she wasn't going to be happy until she owned my very soul.
Aries ex was demanding and played too many damn games to get the upper hand. And when she didn't get her way, LOTS of drama the followed.

To be clear, in no way do I feel these ex's represent their sign - only themselves.

Posted by KsamCancer
I used to feel that way towards other Cancers, cause the stories involving them were so unlike me and all the cancers I knew were typical cancers. Too much earth and air in my chart perhaps. But I now see more than just the sun sign, and the reason I get along with them is because im not a typical cancer. Ive had 3 roommates in college, 2 of them were Cancers. All of them were crazy as hell. They took hard drugs, drunk like alcoholics, and were in dramatic emotional relationships but we get each other. When we wanted to be alone, we holed our selves up in our rooms and didnt bother each other.

For me the drug, drunk and dramatic emotional cancer are just a myth

Posted by scorpiothebadass
Cancers make their partners insecure because they are insecure

precisely...#dingdingdingwehaveawinner #end thread

Kodak you are right about your last comment (cannot quote - stupid DXP)

Posted by scorpiothebadass
Cancers make their partners insecure because they are insecure

NOPE

partners are not insecure. it's more like walking on eggshells. crabs (some, not all) are so sensitive it's like every time you look up you've offended them about something that you know nothing about because they hold grudges instead of communicating. also cancer needs constant reassurance and let's face it, all of it is tiring as hell. it's best to walk away than be bombarded. because if you're a sign that fights back, they further sink into their shell and act like you're the wrong one. it's part of the emotional manipulation, and it pissed them off that you see through it. then here comes the lies and cover ups. they are insecure but they try to hide it by putting a a tough, nasty front. the nastier they are only represents how deep they are wounded. it takes a long while for crabs to see the bullshit they pull. some never do.

now evolved crabs who are easy to communicate with and never pull this garbage are an absolute JOY to be around. they are like a slice of heaven. ^_^

Posted by Kodak375
I possess my women like she's the last treasure map in an Indiana Jones Movie. I never had the pleasure of being the typical hot and cold crab.

LMAO. What's your DOB?

Posted by LadyYin
partners are not insecure. it's more like walking on eggshells. crabs (some, not all) are so sensitive it's like every time you look up you've offended them about something that you know nothing about because they hold grudges instead of communicating. also cancer needs constant reassurance and let's face it, all of it is tiring as hell. it's best to walk away than be bombarded. because if you're a sign that fights back, they further sink into their shell and act like you're the wrong one. it's part of the emotional manipulation, and it pissed them off that you see through it. then here comes the lies and cover ups. they are insecure but they try to hide it by putting a a tough, nasty front. the nastier they are only represents how deep they are wounded. it takes a long while for crabs to see the bullshit they pull. some never do.

now evolved crabs who are easy to communicate with and never pull this garbage are an absolute JOY to be around. they are like a slice of heaven. ^_^

Honestly, I wrote this with an open mind. But its really not how you're saying. The cancers I know including myself of course laugh off any type of mean comments & we even make fun of ourselves. Also, I spit out what bothers me right on the spot in calm but sharp way & forget about it 5 mins later. I've seen in many situations that when other signs advice Cancers, they're the ones always the ones saying shit like " Idk how you forgave that/this person" or "why do you still talk to them?".
And what you call manipulation I call " I need my space". There's really nothing more to it. You got us all wrong (or at least most of us)

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The irony. Point is if the other person isnt happy we arent gonna be happy. Its simple, so if u wanna make yourself happy make those around you happy. And wht are your ex/current gfs signs? Just out of curiosity

Experience tells me different.

I went the route of trying to make an ex happy - she just found something else to be unhappy about. I learned through that relationship, that you can't make someone happy if they are not happy with themselves. If being who you are makes another person happy, then great. I'm not saying I won't try to improve things that need improvement, but if you get in the cycle of jumping every time someone is not happy about something, you will find yourself jumping through a lot of fucking hoops.

My current gf is a leo. Very independent. When we're together, we're like two peas in a pod. LOL. But I think some people look for a relationship to validate themselves and that's where you get into big trouble. If a person's validation is coming from a relationship, then when the relationship has trouble, all hell breaks loose because their validation is all wrapped up in you. To me, that's not even healthy. Loving someone and missing them and wanting to be with them is one thing. Demanding every second that they pay attention and answer every text in a certain time frame or else they become suspicious/hurt/angry is crazy as fuck to me. jmo

I'll just mention the last two ex's before leo:
Virgo ex criticized me til I was just numb - always complained about something. Felt like she wasn't going to be happy until she owned my very soul.
Aries ex was demanding and played too many damn games to get the upper hand. And when she didn't get her way, LOTS of drama the followed.

To be clear, in no way do I feel these ex's represent their sign - only themselves.

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I agree with everything you've said so far. But the reason why I wrote this post, was because I wanted to see if this happened to a lot of Cancers , so that we could figure the ROOT of the problem. Ain't nobody talking about submissiveness and bum sucking. I'm the first to leave a relationship where the partner is always clingy/unhappy. Just trying to better myself for myself.

Posted by KsamCancer
I used to feel that way towards other Cancers, cause the stories involving them were so unlike me and all the cancers I knew were typical cancers. Too much earth and air in my chart perhaps. But I now see more than just the sun sign, and the reason I get along with them is because im not a typical cancer. Ive had 3 roommates in college, 2 of them were Cancers. All of them were crazy as hell. They took hard drugs, drunk like alcoholics, and were in dramatic emotional relationships but we get each other. When we wanted to be alone, we holed our selves up in our rooms and didnt bother each other.

Yeah, I don't consider myself one either. Though its hard to figure out if its because of the stereotypes about clingy, sensitive, mushy Cancers which I do not relate to at all, or if its because I'm simply really diff.

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Posted by LadyYin
partners are not insecure. it's more like walking on eggshells. crabs (some, not all) are so sensitive it's like every time you look up you've offended them about something that you know nothing about because they hold grudges instead of communicating. also cancer needs constant reassurance and let's face it, all of it is tiring as hell. it's best to walk away than be bombarded. because if you're a sign that fights back, they further sink into their shell and act like you're the wrong one. it's part of the emotional manipulation, and it pissed them off that you see through it. then here comes the lies and cover ups. they are insecure but they try to hide it by putting a a tough, nasty front. the nastier they are only represents how deep they are wounded. it takes a long while for crabs to see the bullshit they pull. some never do.

now evolved crabs who are easy to communicate with and never pull this garbage are an absolute JOY to be around. they are like a slice of heaven. ^_^

Honestly, I wrote this with an open mind. But its really not how you're saying. The cancers I know including myself of course laugh off any type of mean comments & we even make fun of ourselves. Also, I spit out what bothers me right on the spot in calm but sharp way & forget about it 5 mins later. I've seen in many situations that when other signs advice Cancers, they're the ones always the ones saying shit like " Idk how you forgave that/this person" or "why do you still talk to them?".
And what you call manipulation I call " I need my space". There's really nothing more to it. You got us all wrong (or at least most of us)

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dear, if the post doesn't fit you, then it wasn't for you. read and think logically before you react. obviously you skipped the 'some, not all' part of my message, as well as the last part acknowledging the positive crabs. we don't share the same experiences or know the same crabs so dont be so quick to label me as wrong. but it's okay. i know your kind is quick to defend its sign regardless of what another person has been through with crabs.

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Posted by LadyYin
partners are not insecure. it's more like walking on eggshells. crabs (some, not all) are so sensitive it's like every time you look up you've offended them about something that you know nothing about because they hold grudges instead of communicating. also cancer needs constant reassurance and let's face it, all of it is tiring as hell. it's best to walk away than be bombarded. because if you're a sign that fights back, they further sink into their shell and act like you're the wrong one. it's part of the emotional manipulation, and it pissed them off that you see through it. then here comes the lies and cover ups. they are insecure but they try to hide it by putting a a tough, nasty front. the nastier they are only represents how deep they are wounded. it takes a long while for crabs to see the bullshit they pull. some never do.

now evolved crabs who are easy to communicate with and never pull this garbage are an absolute JOY to be around. they are like a slice of heaven. ^_^

You're bitter and contradict yourself too much. Just stop posting and go back on the meds.

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aww, are you mad? if you dont like it, you're free to go get a life and do something better with your time. and do try to come up with better zings than the same old tired meds joke. you dont like what i say so i have to be on meds. whatever helps you feel superior, barnacle.

Dont worry we can see right through the BS and fake smiles



yet some of you have such a hard time looking at yourselves....guess it's easier to look at others while ignoring your own faults. that's the way it's played, right?

fake and bs never. i said what it is. there are crabs i adore and i acknowledged that. they are some of the best people and i love them. friends and family members that i am truly grateful for.

then there are ones who i wish i would have never met. i shared my experience with that. so why do some of you get so offended just because people come here and share their experiences? i wrote my say with only the people i knew personally in mind. lol, this is not a witch hunt so calm the hell down. you act as if you're personally who i was talking about. think before you react. or did you forget that every sign has good and bad? get over yourselves. if it wasn't about you, then it's not for you. simple as that. move on.

Ironic, you say i skipped the " some not all" part of your post yet you failed to see mine. I was only giving you a little insight , since wed be better at telling you why we do what we do. Was basically just offering a diff point of view for you to consider, not attacking you in any sort of way, so there's no need to feel offended.

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aww, are you mad? if you dont like it, you're free to go get a life and do something better with your time. and do try to come up with better zings than the same old tired meds joke. you dont like what i say so i have to be on meds. whatever helps you feel superior, barnacle.

Not mad; embarrassed at flaunting your mental disorder.

Don't cry about stereotypes then come here and stereotype.

Now go crawl back to whichever board's ass your kissing.

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thank you for proving my point i made earlier. hurt cancers turn very nasty. but it's okay. i find you lashing out hilarious. i see you're still grudging over an old post i wrote when you were on scorpio board seeking some girl's attention. and it's very apparent. you're mad. look at how you go out of your way to address me. you didn't like that i was abrupt and sharp with you. i get that. but it's ways much better than this to handle that. i gave you my attention. my charity work is over for the day. now do go retreat into that rusty shell of yours and continue your bitch fest. come out when you grow up. ta dear. hahaha.

Everyone else needs to chill. No need to be so snappy about it and make mean comments. We're all grown ups and we are all entitled to our own opinions, so lets just respect each other. We've all generalized before, so it's something we should already be familiar with.

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Ironic, you say i skipped the " some not all" part of your post yet you failed to see mine. I was only giving you a little insight , since wed be better at telling you why we do what we do. Was basically just offering a diff point of view for you to consider, not attacking you in any sort of way, so there's no need to feel offended.

Also, almost everybody will defend their own sign & turn nasty when they feel attacked. That dosent imply to only Cancers.

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Ironic, you say i skipped the " some not all" part of your post yet you failed to see mine. I was only giving you a little insight , since wed be better at telling you why we do what we do. Was basically just offering a diff point of view for you to consider, not attacking you in any sort of way, so there's no need to feel offended.

i dont offend easy, especially on a forum. i was expressing my thoughts. what i did see was the 'you got us all wrong, or most of us'. think about it. i do not know all cancers, nor do i act as if you are all the same. regardless of sign, we are all different people. my point is i wrote my post with the crabs i knew in mind. i dont just post things off the top of my head. i've seen and been through everything that i typed. so to act as if i have no right to express that says more about some of you here than it does me.

people post on scorpio board all day about the negative people they knew. i do not fall to pieces nor take any offense. they weren't addressing me so why would i care? this is a forum. people are going to say things that you personally dont agree with, but that doesn't mean they were talking about you. so to react over something that is none of your business just because someone negative shares your sign is absolutely ridiculous. you say you see so much, but do you see how your reactions and attitudes really are when it comes to things like this? hence all the negative posts that have been on your boards lately. it's easy to curse someone and write them off because you disagree. but have you walked in their shoes?

you read about someone falling out with cancer, or particularly not liking the cancer person they knew, then here comes all of the 'you're just hating! you're attacking us! get off our board! if you dont like us leave us alone!' how mature. it's easy to react than to think or understand where a person is coming from. smdh...

But yeah people. Can we please allow the negativity. Seems to be everywhere these days. Lets make this forum a postive welcoming one iinstead.
You're all free to express your opinion, but manners are always appreciated

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Posted by notafollower
Ironic, you say i skipped the " some not all" part of your post yet you failed to see mine. I was only giving you a little insight , since wed be better at telling you why we do what we do. Was basically just offering a diff point of view for you to consider, not attacking you in any sort of way, so there's no need to feel offended.

i dont offend easy, especially on a forum. i was expressing my thoughts. what i did see was the 'you got us all wrong, or most of us'. think about it. i do not know all cancers, nor do i act as if you are all the same. regardless of sign, we are all different people. my point is i wrote my post with the crabs i knew in mind. i dont just post things off the top of my head. i've seen and been through everything that i typed. so to act as if i have no right to express that says more about some of you here than it does me.

people post on scorpio board all day about the negative people they knew. i do not fall to pieces nor take any offense. they weren't addressing me so why would i care? this is a forum. people are going to say things that you personally dont agree with, but that doesn't mean they were talking about you. so to react over something that is none of your business just because someone negative shares your sign is absolutely ridiculous. you say you see so much, but do you see how your reactions and attitudes really are when it comes to things like this? hence all the negative posts that have been on your boards lately. it's easy to curse someone and write them off because you disagree. but have you walked in their shoes?

you read about someone falling out with cancer, or particularly not liking the cancer person they knew, then here comes all of the 'you're just hating! you're attacking us! get off our board! if you dont like us leave us alone!' how mature. it's easy to react than to think or understand where a person is coming from. smdh...

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—.... Well Im just going to sit here in confusion . You probably missed out most of my comments

Posted by KsamCancer
Shame youre a virgo moon. Youre letting your emotions cloud your posts. How many cancers have did you wrong? 1, 2, 5? As adamant as you are , you make it seem like you know 100. I know a 22 year old hasn't met that many Cancers in the world yet. So either you're being brainwashed by the media or you're still bitter from a breakup. And im pretty sure its the latter.

I dont care what you post, just dont post BS here. We see right through it. If its given careful thought then thats fine. But don't offend an entire sign and say it may not apply to you, its direspectful. My point: If your post is coming from 1, 2, or 5 sources, state that and tell about the experience and why you're bitter about it. Dont beat around the bush, make it seem like you know 200 Cancer's, and act like your posts are research in order to avoid talking about the bad Cancer breakup *smirk*

my dear, you took it that way. i write with no emotion. that's your department, not mine. i write from experience. it's funny you ask how many crabs have i done wrong. i dont make it a point to go around treating people wrong or trying to hurt anyone. if anything i will sacrifice and go the distance for people. a firm believer in do unto others. but when a person takes that and abuses it or tries to manipulate me, that's my cue to leave. i'm not for the arguing and the back and forth. rather than seek vengeance (that's karma's job, not mine), or try to keep a cycle of nonsense going, i walk away and move on with my life. not all scorpios are about war and stupid things like that. bitter, no. you'd be surprised how easily i detach and move on. i thank my Aqua placements for that. i have no reason to be bitter. rather than become upset by the things in life, i take everything as a lesson. i'm actually quite grateful.

i understand you heavily disagree with my point, as you never walked in my shoes. but to pin my words on the media or a bad break up shows how limited your understanding is, sadly. my post comes from what i've lived. you cannot alter another person's life to fit your views and write them off as if you know what went on. it's only bs to you because of your inability to fathom where i'm coming from. but that's okay. live and let live.

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Posted by notafollower
But yeah people. Can we please allow the negativity. Seems to be everywhere these days. Lets make this forum a postive welcoming one iinstead.
You're all free to express your opinion, but manners are always appreciated

Posted by notafollower
But yeah people. Can we please allow the negativity. Seems to be everywhere these days. Lets make this forum a postive welcoming one iinstead.
You're all free to express your opinion, but manners are always appreciated

I can't help you. You attracted this stench. Your OP is idiotic; have some respect yourself. Don't try to tell the entire board to own up to something that's imaginary. Positive indeed.

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"Whats your lots opinion? " < you missed this
Youre free to do what you want, nobody is asking you for anything. Just like I'm free to post what I want.

notafollower, i got your points. i acknowledge them. i see what you're saying. but i still stand firmly by my own. you speak of manners and respect. i didnt come here calling names, being rude, or lashing out. your fellow crabs are doing all of this. i understand the sticking up for a sign, but the measures here are ridiculous. im a scorpio but im not going to stick up for someone in the wrong, simply because they share my sign. if that's the case, maybe i should start a 'Free Charles Manson' campaign. i dont know him. people claim he did wrong. i wasn't there to see him do the wrong. so now i'm going to get offended because no one should talk about him, as he's a fellow scorpion. leave him alone. i feel offended that you're talking wrongly about this person i dont know, but they have my sign so im going to lash out. this is exactly what's going on here.

they see my posts as 'hate' or 'bs' or whatever they want to label it, yet they claim my emotions are clouding my logic. may i suggest a mirror with that hypocrisy? besides a few posts to that hurting renu, i have not strayed from saying my peace respectfully. but this is the world. people will lash out and try to do their worst because they dont like what they are reading. i am not bothered by this at all. i never understand how people take forums so seriously. are they that uptight about a zodiac sign? lol. it's comical. live and let live.

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Posted by KsamCancer
Do you even remember your posts from a couple of hours ago? Such contradicting statements with your posts just oozing with hate. A second ago you were hating, now you think youre a yoga instructor. Make up your mind, which one are you? This is what I mean by being real. If you dislike us, say it. If you like us, show it. I grew up with a scorp-aqua, its usually paired with recklessness.

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Notafollower use your brain next time before you post garbage like this. @ladyyin go throw yourself on a cross.

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ksam, i apologize that my point is way over your head. you cannot seem to grasp what i am saying. you're stuck on, 'if you have a problem with some of us, you must hate us, so say you hate us." your mind is stuck on hate. is that your reality that you live? just because i disagreed and walked away from some people in my life does not mean i hate any sign. you ignore what i said about knowing some really good cancers as well. im not going to dislike, blame, or fault every. single. crab born person just because i've been through a few things with a few crabs. i've been through some wonderful things with wonderful crabs as well. my truth is real. you need to grow and look past 'hate' so you can see what i'm saying. i harbor no hate and animosity. i can talk about what i've experienced without feeling bad about it. to me, they are important lessons. i dont hate anyone. it's such a wasted emotion.

the point is, it's not about the sign. it's about the person. all have good and bad. im not the scorpio aqua reckless people you knew, so dont lay that trip at my feet.

im not on a cross nor am i a yoga instructor. i'm buddhist. things just dont affect me as deeply as they do some of you. you can spew hate, insults, and disagree with me until kingdom comes. i remain unmoved. so is the way of the world.

Posted by KsamCancer
Do you even remember your posts from a couple of hours ago? Such contradicting statements with your posts just oozing with hate. A second ago you were hating, now you think youre a yoga instructor. Make up your mind, which one are you? This is what I mean by being real. If you dislike us, say it. If you like us, show it. I grew up with a scorp-aqua, its usually paired with recklessness.

since i oozed hate, please point out where i was hateful? it's okay. i'll wait. was i hating? or was i sharing some experiences? i think the word hate is over used by people who really dont know what it is. do not use 'hate' just because you dont like what a person said about someone else of your sign. that says a lot about your emotional and logical states. are you capable of understanding past your own limits of your mind, or am i wasting my time? if you wish to pull me into an argument, i must overlook you.

. *Maybe I should start a OJ Simpson campaign*

what for? the 'never ever say anything bad about any cancers whether we know them or not or else you hate us and we will lash out' campaign has already been in effect. for quite some time now. or have you not noticed? i see you're bent on arguing rather than gaining understanding. never asked you to agree. just be able to have that logic and reasoning which allows you to be able to see where another person is coming from. but from the looks of it, that may be too much to ask of you.

There is no saturating the fire with fuel, so I will not feed the it. I never was a victim. Victims ask 'why me'. I ask 'why not me'. Who am I to think that no one should ever trespass against me or talk down to me? We all face it. I am a student of life. I expect to go through good and bad things. I long ago accepted the things that I cannot change. I accept that some people would rather be negative and they want that same reaction back. If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. Chinese proverb. My inner calm will not be disrupted by those looking to lower themselves in discord. They shall argue alone.

Quarreling is like cutting water with a sword.

my personality has not changed. defense against what? i never felt the need to defend myself. understanding here is totally obsolete. i stand by everything i said. don't be mad because i wont spend time going back and forth with insults. that will achieve nothing. quarreling is the stupidest thing anyone can do. getting angry is also a waste. maybe when you get older ksam you will understand that instead of looking to find fault with people to in order to cover your own.

i can flat out be rude, but what good is that? all what will do is fuel those people looking for an argument. no thanks, not falling for those traps. i chose to compose myself and talk without all of the nonsense. i rather speak with unsweetened truth than use pathetic insulting words. im not here to win arguments or for anyone's favor. i had a few experiences, i shared them. it's not that serious.

and you still havent told me how i 'oozed hate'. it's okay. i know you have no real argument. you just got testy because my post was about some people of your sign. so you felt personally attacked. not the most intelligent reaction, but live and let live.

I do apologize, notafollower, for the derailment of your thread. i did not know that some people would make such a big fuss about what i've experienced. as if i cant have an opinion or post here. you people smdh LOL

Pass the Peace Pipe around and spread the LOVE people.

Kodak375, my cancer shares the same birthdate as you (not the year). What I love is he OWNS his clinginess, even brags about it...lol and is very vocal when he is having his moods (he does have aries mars, leo venus and leo moon). He is confident in his water and it is magnetic. There is nothing more attractive than a self actualized, confident crab who knows himself inside and out.

Very different from the crab I dated years ago (pisces moon and cancer venus). That crab had fire sign parents and was made to feel ashamed about his deep emotions and sensitivities and he could not process himself well because of it. He was awkwardly clingy and I began to feel suffocated and water logged as he began to look to me to wear the pants in the relationship. I just couldn't deal w the moods, the more I tried the more abusive he became.

I am a virgo sun/moon/venus w cap rising.

THE point here is like any sign really its the confidence to embrace your innate qualities and even shine them a bit. Clingy can even be very sexy if it is coming from a self-actualized confident crab.

Kodak your message about the one woman in your life above is very sexy and so are your photos, your lady is lucky to have your devotion.

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The irony. Point is if the other person isnt happy we arent gonna be happy. Its simple, so if u wanna make yourself happy make those around you happy. And wht are your ex/current gfs signs? Just out of curiosity

Experience tells me different.

I went the route of trying to make an ex happy - she just found something else to be unhappy about....

I agree with everything you've said so far. But the reason why I wrote this post, was because I wanted to see if this happened to a lot of Cancers , so that we could figure the ROOT of the problem. Ain't nobody talking about submissiveness and bum sucking. I'm the first to leave a relationship where the partner is always clingy/unhappy. Just trying to better myself for myself.

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I see. Thx for explaining further. 😉

I'm all for doing what I can to have a happy environment. But your statement that I bolded still doesn't sit right with me. I feel most people do things because it makes themselves feel good - rarely the other way around.

Posted by thinktoomuch
Well: something positive for you all then.

Right now I am finding myself to actually really appreciate the slowness of cancer and the being cautious. Why? Because it gives me just as much time to process and to be cautious with even getting into a sort of friendship with said cancer. After a good but also extremely bad dating situation with him, and a lot of back and forth and back and forth and back ad forth again, I have finally come to appreciate the slowness - not to be nice to him, but for my own good.

Funny thing is, I actually think this cancer may be liking my posts and pics on facebook to try and communicate something to another woman. So weird.

And ofcours he is being friendly towards me in a very slow manor, that suits me very fine. As a person who used to go bananas, when i heard from him, feelings and emotions and adrenaline and hormones and heartbeats and paranoid thoughts all over the place, I would actually like there to be a long period of time, where we just interact through facebook, instead of going from no contact to a lot of contact. It gives me time to get used to interacting and not thinking, that it means all sorts of thing, that I´m not even ready to handle.

You´re not all bad cancer🙂

I like 🙂

Posted by LadyYin
partners are not insecure. it's more like walking on eggshells. crabs (some, not all) are so sensitive it's like every time you look up you've offended them about something that you know nothing about because they hold grudges instead of communicating. also cancer needs constant reassurance and let's face it, all of it is tiring as hell. it's best to walk away than be bombarded. because if you're a sign that fights back, they further sink into their shell and act like you're the wrong one. it's part of the emotional manipulation, and it pissed them off that you see through it. then here comes the lies and cover ups. they are insecure but they try to hide it by putting a a tough, nasty front. the nastier they are only represents how deep they are wounded. it takes a long while for crabs to see the bullshit they pull. some never do.

now evolved crabs who are easy to communicate with and never pull this garbage are an absolute JOY to be around. they are like a slice of heaven. ^_^

+ infinity and BEYONDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD!!!

Posted by LadyYin
partners are not insecure. it's more like walking on eggshells. crabs (some, not all) are so sensitive it's like every time you look up you've offended them about something that you know nothing about because they hold grudges instead of communicating. also cancer needs constant reassurance and let's face it, all of it is tiring as hell. it's best to walk away than be bombarded. because if you're a sign that fights back, they further sink into their shell and act like you're the wrong one. it's part of the emotional manipulation, and it pissed them off that you see through it. then here comes the lies and cover ups. they are insecure but they try to hide it by putting a a tough, nasty front. the nastier they are only represents how deep they are wounded. it takes a long while for crabs to see the bullshit they pull. some never do.

now evolved crabs who are easy to communicate with and never pull this garbage are an absolute JOY to be around. they are like a slice of heaven. ^_^

@LadyYin, although your post above doesn't particularly offend me, I have to say previous/older posts of yours has not only offended me greatly because they were so opposite feeling of what I get here that it's like different people wrote them. I think this is what my fellow crabs are complaining about. So even though I find this particular post more fair feeling, I also find myself feeling suspicious and not particularly trusting towards you.