mars in cancer - how accurate is this?

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As a mars in cancer person, I'd like to say that some of this stuff was relevant.
She stated that we may not know why we're feeling a certain way. This used to be me, except it was to the point where I didn't even know what I was feeling. I've changed to the point where I'm not overly aware of the reasons for my actions and possibly where they stem from.

She also stated that we act out in ways that people don't understand/irrational ways. I don't think this is all that true for me. Sure, sometimes things build up and I explode, but that's more of a human reaction, not a mars in cancer action.

She mentioned passive aggression. I can be rather spiteful and make snarky, passive aggressive comments. That doesn't happen often, though.

Another point was when flirting or coming on to someone, we do things like listening to your problems. I agree with that part. I think it's a way to get to know someone on a personal level and it's nice to do that as an initial bonding session. I don't want to fix them or really help them, though. I just want to understand them.

Sex was mentioned, and I agree that it's hard for me to let go, but I don't think it's because of the reasons she mentioned. It has more to do with how I was socialized.

Lastly, she mentioned how/when we get angry. I do get angry when cornered, but in many other situations too. If I'm cornered, I tend to get flustered really easily as well. I don't argue well in those moments. Overall, I am a pretty argumentative person and I do need someone who's calm and doesn't argue to help me WANT to make peace. I tend to lose myself in arguments and then become too stubborn to stop them unless the person is calm.

I took notes during the video, if you can't tell. Haha.
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Posted by jeane
thanks scenic. that helps a lot 🙂

i see a number of these traits in my mars in cancer bf. she spoke about mic holding back during sex, that they never truly give themselves. needless to say, this has concerned me! i imagine i would never know if he was holding back. how do i encourage that openness?
The dynamic might be different due to gender, but for me, having an assertive partner who seemed to really enjoy the sex we had helped. He complimented me a lot and made me feel like I was a pro. ; ) Haha. However, for me, it's hard to break free from a pattern once it's created. If the assertive guy didn't start out as assertive, I think my reactions would still be stuck on how he previously acted.