Mastering patience with cancer man

This is mostly a personal rant since I want to get these thoughts out of my head. Any advice is kindly welcome.

Me and my crab guy split up 2 weeks ago. He didn't officially said "I want to break up with you" and was more like "I don't know what to do with us right now, I don't know what to offer to you right now" kind of thing. I was sad at first because I didn't expect it but I FELT like it wasn't over. He went through a lot lately and I understand that this separation was caused by that. He even said that he's going through a fucked up period (huge work stress). So I didn't take this as a breakup but as a break between us and now that i reflect on that, it's for the better. He said that he wished I had done something wrong so he would have a reason but I didn't, I was so wonderful.

I am 100% positive he will return, I swear 🙂 After a week he texted me to go out for dinner. When we met he expected this get together to be awkward but instead it was pretty neat. He called me beautiful, the most warm and wonderful soul. He was very loving actually and I enjoyed every moment of it. He hugged me twice and even hold my hand. He even asked if I still had the things from him. I was happy and my faith is strong. On the way home he said that he was so afraid I was cheating on him in the beginning although he knows I didn't and that I am just like a wonderful princess. He even made plans for this vacation together (go riding bikes and bowling). He cupped my face and said "until next time".

I haven't heard from him since then. Tomorrow is his birthday and yesterday I decided to text him saying that i wish to see him on his birthday to express my wishes etc etc and that I wanted to say this to him early since he might have another plan. He told me he will think some time to see me because today (Friday) he wants to go home (he is originally from another city) for 3 days (I'm actually glad he goes because he can relax and be at peace). He told me on the phone one of his contracts got cancelled and he lost all his investments on the stock market and that he's on a downward spiral.I tried cheering him up but failed. I realized on the spot he wasn't right so I didn't push it. I told him that even if he doesn't have time, we can see each other when he comes back and that's okay.

I really feel he is truly going through I bad period. I haven't seen him like this before. I'm going to wait and just be there for him..

And I don't really want to call him and say Happy Birthday tomorrow because I feel I have contacted him enough and besides, I want to wait until I can wish him face2face and actually give him his presents (he knows I bought him presents). So this thought makes me giggle rotfl

unconditilnl love.
Ive en here with my recen bf and hes obsessed wth e....but i can tell u that if he really requires this type of treatment you WILL regre te unconditionl love nd feel hurt and get tired of this crap. im here now. pm me for specific questions ill aways be of hlp. but unconditional love that wont b returned if he isnt ready

he is obviously confuse and scared.
And e wants attention hes a cancer. mke sur h knows u remembere hs bday and ll hs favourit thigs and important dates. believ me ad excuse my spellin my phone is realy slow

By the way, im also Romanian. I wa raised th romanian way 🙂 Good to see some cultue on ehere Do you liv there?

Yes! I am. I sent you a PM. You can answer in romanian if it feels better for you lol 😄 Glad to see another romanian here haha

I cant spell in Romanian. I can onl speak it 😢 I grew u in the US

Losing a fortune on. The stock market would send anyone on a downward spiral. Even though he kinda pu the relationship on hold, he didn't really end it. Even though he wants some space.. I'd before he leaves town go to him. Give him a huge hug, tell him you love him unconditionally and will support him anyway you can. Bring the gifts you bought too. His mood might change for a moment for you two to enjoy the time together. Any person in that situation would want to feel support and somebody with empathic ear. If his mood doesn't change and doesn't really respond to your visit. Don't take it personally. Just give him one last hug then tell him you're there for him when he needs you. Then back up giving him his spare . He'll come around especially if he sees you as positive and empathic. Wishing you both the best!

I really had no chance to visit him before he left (I imagined I left by now) because I'm @work 😢 So I will wait until he returns and say all those things to him.

The stock market news really hit me, I mean, there is a large amount he invested from his own pocket. I hope the stock market will be better soon for his sake..But thank you Cappedoff! Keeping up the good vibes

You can't make him happy. He has to snap out of it. Let him go home, roll through the emotions, get in Rocky mode with life. Let him come back and then you guys can meet face to face and give him his prezzie and tell him he's awesome.

It's sweet you are concerned about him but I bet he's a real bad ass. Stock market is not for the weak. My friend eats TUMS like candy doing that.

Rocky

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Lol he is, he once tried to explain how the stock market works and after not even 5 minutes I was so lost. I even tried it myself but there are so many variables and you gotta move FAST if you want to make some money (he was checking his stock actions from 5 to 5 minutes)

At this point I don't want to do anything more than I already did. It's going to be him who has to come back and recover himself from this shitty situation and I know that.
I'm pretty much positive at the present moment so I don't worry anymore. I know he's strong.

Your Rocky video made me want to work out when I get home lol

La multi ani, iubita mea is what I said to mine. He ignored me. Cancers are selfish and impossible.

Ugh please get over it darling! That derp you wasted your heart on is selfish. The next guy will.

*will appreciate

Lol I actually called because I thought it was polite. Apparently he didn't left, he was still in town and what started as a Happy Birthday call turned into a get together which lead me into spending the night at his place so I'm happy. We kissed, he hold my hand and we laughed together. He left home after dropping me off and called in the evening to see how I was, what I was doing and to update me on what he's doing back home.
I haven't heard from him since then (sunday).

I'm not mad at all. He seems confused on what he wants to do rotfl obviously he can't let me go.

awww yay!

Totally amazing. Tho I guarantee this shit will happen over and over and over til you put an end to it..

I don't want to over analyze shit, I'm on vacation and quite enjoying myself 😄 rotfl

I'm honestly AMAZED of how many romanians are here lol SALUT!
There are little signs that I saw regarding his behavior towards me that make me feel secure and stuff (when he left he told me to be "good" as in don't cheat/mess around with other guys)
I'm not waiting for him. I support him whatever he does but his problems are only his.

I'm a leo

can I PM you Forren?

I'm not Romanian but dated one for years and love the language!!

I had another date with him on thursday where he again told me the nicest things

He said some things that bothered me a bit about us like "I don't know if I will come back, don't wait up for me, don't let me bring you down" and I was like "I am FINE, I'm not waiting (not true lol as in I'm open to meeting other guys but I'm not open for a relationship) but I reassured him i was great.

We also laughed again a lot, he said that I'm the most beautiful girl on earth, etc. At one point he looked at me with deep love and said something like "I wanna tell you something but I don't want to give you wings". I convinced him so he said "No one has ever loved me so deeply and fully like you did..and there's no one than you that deserves my love".
I could tell he was trying to hold back but I KNEW and i KNOW what he feels. I replied saying "You do what you have to do now, don't worry about me, I'm wonderful and i'm sure it will turn out beautifully, whatever it may be"
When he dropped me off, he hold my hand and said that i'm literally the perfect wife.
He said that Sunday he wants me to sleep at his place because he wants to hold me in his arms because "you deserve it so much"

This morning I saw on facebook that he was at this beautiful terrace until 3am and I figured he wasn't ALONE.

I'm just...
I'm an inch away from telling him that I don't think we should see each other anymore.

I hate being taken for granted and I'm also confused as hell

*we should not see each other anymore

Yea sounds like he's saying a lot of conflicting bs...blaghh!!!! Always with the self pity crap too I tell ya. Lame!!