Moving in with your SO...

Have any of my fellow cancers done this? If so, please give pros, cons, advice based on your experience.

My leo gf threw me a curve ball during our vacation and said she thought I should move in. We're together most of the time and taking this next step feels right, so I'm all for it. But it is unknown territory to me. Any good advice is welcomed and appreciated.

Posted by Kodak375
uhh.... your going into her place? Power moves bro.... be careful.

Power move? Please explain.

Her place is actually more convenient to both our work places than mine.

Good luck with that your freedom is gone soon as you move in.

Posted by Stihl46
Good luck with that your freedom is gone soon as you move in.

Stihl46, why you think my freedom will be gone? What was your experience>

We are at each other every night now. More and more of our stuff ends up scattered between the two places. It's becoming cumbersome. This move makes sense, no?

She wants you to move into her place its a power move on her part if you want to move in together find a new place together does she own this place?

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She wants you to move into her place its a power move on her part if you want to move in together find a new place together does she own this place?

We both own our place. So yes. Neither of us will sell at the moment, so it's her place or mine. tbh, my place is like a match box compared to hers , so I don't think she really wants to move into my place.

Did you live with a SO? What issues came from it?

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Good luck with that your freedom is gone soon as you move in.

But she is a Leo, not a Scorpio lol

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I know that lol, Cancers have our quirks that would drive a Leo nuts you move in together its a real test of the relationship a Cancer needs a place to zone out and hide he has his own place he's got a place to hide from the world. I don't think leo's really understand the solitude a Cancer needs.

Posted by Kodak375
Any sign of issues, she can toss you on your ass. It happens all the time. Or she controls the way the house is ran since she "pays" the bills. Dude, no bueno. Either you get a bigger place for her to move in to or you keep bouncing in between.

Well, that's why I'm not selling my place. I'm not even gonna rent it out for a few months in till I see how it goes. She really went out on a limb asking me and she was super excited about it. I think if I show concerns, she will take it personally and her leo pride will take a hit. But your points are well taken. Thx!

Shit, I hoped this would be easy. I had to laugh tho when you said *she controls the way the house is ran* because it doesn't matter if we're at my place or hers, she runs both places how she wants! Too funny! I don't mind tho, cause she's respectful how she does it - it gives me a glimpse into our future lives - how it would be long term.

Posted by Kodak375
Any sign of issues, she can toss you on your ass. It happens all the time. Or she controls the way the house is ran since she "pays" the bills. Dude, no bueno. Either you get a bigger place for her to move in to or you keep bouncing in between.

I agree its her house her rules I don't think that will ever change the best thing to do is move into a new place and they make the rules together. Its a power play of her having him move in, something goes bad in the relationship he's the one that gets kicked out and inconvenienced of moving back to his house or trying to find another place to live.

It will be one morning he leaves a mess in the bathroom will start a fight it will be something that she realizes is cramping her style.

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Good luck with that your freedom is gone soon as you move in.

But she is a Leo, not a Scorpio lol

I know that lol, Cancers have our quirks that would drive a Leo nuts you move in together its a real test of the relationship a Cancer needs a place to zone out and hide he has his own place he's got a place to hide from the world. I don't think leo's really understand the solitude a Cancer needs.

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Stihl46, you're right about the need for space, but my leo gf knows this very well. She actually needs more space than I do at times for her own thoughts! We've been dating for awhile, she knows me very well including my quirks. As I said before, we're always together now, just making it official.. And her place is big enough literally I can be in one part and not know where she is! But I do want to know the pitfalls of doing this so I'm glad said what you said and keep them coming.

Posted by thinktoomuch
Congrats man!

Who cares if it´s a power move? Although I don´t think it is. Leos tend to be very verbal about well everything anyways, so she´d probably tell you about it, if it was to keep power.

I love that it´s mostly young guys calling it a power move 😄 Ofcours they´re gonna think everything is a power move!
And Stihl ofcours, but with all due respect I feel like he is obsessed with power (hence why he is obsessed with scorpio women) and not losing it, constantly gaining it.

My leo sister is having her boyfriend move in with her, because it´s just the most convenient for both of them. He doesn´t own a place, so why the hell not? If it doesn´t work out, wel yes, then he´ll have to move out, but people move out all the time.

Maybe be more concerned with what crabby should be doing for it to work out, which is what he is actually asking... ?!
I say: be yourself, be honest (but gentle) and be firm.

Yeah, I definitely have my role as her man in her eyes. You can't be with a leo woman and lose her respect that's for sure.

And thanks for the encouragement. Yeah, I'm just trying to see the pitfalls to avoid. She said *no rush babe* so it's not like she's expecting me to move in tomorrow. But she did give me a gate key to her community and a house key, so she's pretty sure about where I fit in her life. And that makes me very happy. 😄

Posted by KsamCancer
If you really like her, then move in. I dont know your age so its hard to judge, but im assuming youre past your 30's so i dont see anything wrong in it. You know this girl better than any of us

Ksam, thanks man! Yeah, we're in our thirties. I think she's just ready for the next level of our relationship and so am I! The more I can be with her, the better! But I still don't want to go in it blind, ya know?

Posted by Kodak375
Always cover your assets is all im saying.Things can change quickly, and i've seen too many men land on their ass because of their emotions or making their girl happy by doing what she wants without thinking it through.

Kodak, I hear ya. Naw, I have a very good business sense, so I know how to protect what's mine and so does she. I want to make her happier if I can, but in the end, I do thinks it's the natural next step for us. Shit, we've been through some stuff in our 5 yrs together, and yet here we are - still together. So I would like to try it out. I'm really concern if it will affect our relationship in a negative way and try to avoid it - so whatever you see *might* can happen, express it so I can see clearly what I'm getting into. Thx!

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Congrats man!

Who cares if it´s a power move? Although I don´t think it is. Leos tend to be very verbal about well everything anyways, so she´d probably tell you about it, if it was to keep power.

I love that it´s mostly young guys calling it a power move 😄 Ofcours they´re gonna think everything is a power move!
And Stihl ofcours, but with all due respect I feel like he is obsessed with power (hence why he is obsessed with scorpio women) and not losing it, constantly gaining it.

My leo sister is having her boyfriend move in with her, because it´s just the most convenient for both of them. He doesn´t own a place, so why the hell not? If it doesn´t work out, wel yes, then he´ll have to move out, but people move out all the time.

Maybe be more concerned with what crabby should be doing for it to work out, which is what he is actually asking... ?!
I say: be yourself, be honest (but gentle) and be firm.

Yeah, I definitely have my role as her man in her eyes. You can't be with a leo woman and lose her respect that's for sure.

And thanks for the encouragement. Yeah, I'm just trying to see the pitfalls to avoid. She said *no rush babe* so it's not like she's expecting me to move in tomorrow. But she did give me a gate key to her community and a house key, so she's pretty sure about where I fit in her life. And that makes me very happy. 😄

Bro don't be that little piggy who gets lead to the slaughterhouse by the delicious scraps lol

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Believe me she is anything but scraps! She a fucking feast and worth the risk in every way! But she tends to jump into things without seeing the pitfalls. I like to know what the pitfalls are so I can safely guide us through them. That's how I protect us. I'm in my late thirties. Never ever wanted to live with or have some woman live with me. She's the first person that I feel that way about. Nothing to do but to see it through - but take wisdom with me.

Posted by thinktoomuch
I´m serious though, without being condescending: you´re getting advice from guys in their early twenties... I think they´ll tend to see pitfalls that is not going to be there in a more mature relationship, like the one you are in.

Maybe, but we can learn a lot from young people. I am a grown man. I will make the decision on my own. But I do think what they say has great value even if it's to reel in my emotions a bit so I get more grounded with the what ifs. All advice whether for or against, I take with a grain of salt because in the end who knows my feelings, her feelings or the situation better than me. 🙂

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Good luck with that your freedom is gone soon as you move in.

But she is a Leo, not a Scorpio lol

I know that lol, Cancers have our quirks that would drive a Leo nuts you move in together its a real test of the relationship a Cancer needs a place to zone out and hide he has his own place he's got a place to hide from the world. I don't think leo's really understand the solitude a Cancer needs.

Stihl46, you're right about the need for space, but my leo gf knows this very well. She actually needs more space than I do at times for her own thoughts! We've been dating for awhile, she knows me very well including my quirks. As I said before, we're always together now, just making it official.. And her place is big enough literally I can be in one part and not know where she is! But I do want to know the pitfalls of doing this so I'm glad said what you said and keep them coming.

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Will you have your own separate bathroom that's what will set her off, my neighbour is seeing a Leo woman she's taken over his house she does things the way she wants it. I can hear them arguing about things because she is such a perfectionist. He seems to be happy she deals with his Fishy moodiness in the last couple years she's made a lot of female friends who she spends a lot of time with.

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Posted by Kodak375
Any sign of issues, she can toss you on your ass. It happens all the time. Or she controls the way the house is ran since she "pays" the bills. Dude, no bueno. Either you get a bigger place for her to move in to or you keep bouncing in between.

I agree its her house her rules I don't think that will ever change the best thing to do is move into a new place and they make the rules together. Its a power play of her having him move in, something goes bad in the relationship he's the one that gets kicked out and inconvenienced of moving back to his house or trying to find another place to live.

It will be one morning he leaves a mess in the bathroom will start a fight it will be something that she realizes is cramping her style.

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But Stihl46, isn't that the whole purpose of living together, to let those things come to the surface so you can see what you still have to work on? Also, getting a place together makes things messier financially? Now, these are tied together. I prefer to keep my place and shit - if shit happens, it happens. No different than what happens now and she or I get mad, right? And our fights have gotten past the petty shit anyway. When we fight, we fight big! Haha!! But manage to get through it. Our fights don't scare me like they us to because I know we someone stay strong with each other anyway. A relationship that can't take a fight isn't a relationship worth keeping in my book! Anyway, I still appreciate your feedback tho - nothing like getting another man's view.

My Pops advice: be sure son cause you ain't got no lamb there! I'm like, yeah, thx Pops!

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Good luck with that your freedom is gone soon as you move in.

But she is a Leo, not a Scorpio lol

I know that lol, Cancers have our quirks that would drive a Leo nuts you move in together its a real test of the relationship a Cancer needs a place to zone out and hide he has his own place he's got a place to hide from the world. I don't think leo's really understand the solitude a Cancer needs.

Stihl46, you're right about the need for space, but my leo gf knows this very well. She actually needs more space than I do at times for her own thoughts! We've been dating for awhile, she knows me very well including my quirks. As I said before, we're always together now, just making it official.. And her place is big enough literally I can be in one part and not know where she is! But I do want to know the pitfalls of doing this so I'm glad said what you said and keep them coming.

Will you have your own separate bathroom that's what will set her off, my neighbour is seeing a Leo woman she's taken over his house she does things the way she wants it. I can hear them arguing about things because she is such a perfectionist. He seems to be happy she deals with his Fishy moodiness in the last couple years she's made a lot of female friends who she spends a lot of time with.

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Stihl46, think BIG house - BIG. Ok. Plenty of places to escape to. LOL! Not anything I'll ever be able to fucking afford, but that's beside the point. I think I can find a bedroom or bathroom to use. But our routine has already been worked out from our many stay overs. Hell, even in my much MUCH smaller home, she has our routine worked out. She gets in a fussy mood from time to time, but for the most part she's easy going. The key to leo women is to let them run free and feel like they're running things for the most part, but set clear boundaries as to what is acceptable and what isn't. They r

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They respect you for that - your ability to set them straight in a firm respectful way. Sounds like your neighbor hasn't learned that about his lioness if she's yelling all the time. 😕

Posted by KsamCancer
Good point stihl. My biggest concern if any would just be daily routines. Whos cleaning the dishes, how will you handle groceries etc. We Cancers can be passive aggressive about things like this and so I like to get them out on the table right away.

My Leo neighbour she's fussy what she eats so she buys most of the food, he doesn't clean the house to her perfectionist specs so she does all the cleaning too lol. He does all the cooking thou she doesn't like to cook and he doesn't like the way she cooks. I love teasing her when she's doing something in their yard I say something off beat why is there something out of place in the garden she's there looking trying to see what I see. As I've said I've heard her leo roar when she is venting her displeasure to her BF.

I do like to know where I stand when it comes to things who's doing what.

Posted by KsamCancer
Good point stihl. My biggest concern if any would just be daily routines. Whos cleaning the dishes, how will you handle groceries etc. We Cancers can be passive aggressive about things like this and so I like to get them out on the table right away.

Yeah, the weekend stay overs have surfaced all that - except the groceries. But leo women really take care of their men if they are anything like the leo I have. They will spoil you rotten! No shit, this woman will make me a drink and stir it till it's cold from top to bottom before handing it to me. I never asked her to do that or wanted her to do that! She does it all on her own and it makes me feel so damn special! ...and guilty getting such special treatment, but this is just one of many little ways she likes to show her love for me.

But even in kitchen cleanup - usually we cook together, but if she's running late from work, I get dinner started or if I have some things to do before heading to her place, she'll get dinner started. We have a routine already in place, I clear the table, she loads the dishes (she's very particular about dishwasher loading for some reason), then she caters to me hand and foot afterwards (LOL, but seriously - you guys have no idea how much leo will shower you with attention!)

Bills, we'll have to discuss because I'll still have my own bills at my place, but more than likely, she'll want to keep things status quo - you handle your responsibilities at your home and I'll handle things here kind of thinking. I am the messy one between us so that'll be a test for day to day living for sure. Maybe it works out now because we get "breaks" from one another, so being together all the time will likely surface something. Good point!

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They respect you for that - your ability to set them straight in a firm respectful way. Sounds like your neighbor hasn't learned that about his lioness if she's yelling all the time. 😕

She doesn't yell much anymore she spends a lot of time with her girlfriends when she moved to the area she didn't have any female friends now she does give her a break from his watery moodiness.

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They respect you for that - your ability to set them straight in a firm respectful way. Sounds like your neighbor hasn't learned that about his lioness if she's yelling all the time. 😕

She doesn't yell much anymore she spends a lot of time with her girlfriends when she moved to the area she didn't have any female friends now she does give her a break from his watery moodiness.

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She rather be with her girls than him? It's ok to spend time with your girls, but if you prefer doing that more often than being with me - I wouldn't like that.

Sounds to me your leo neighbor doesn't respect her bf. If they don't respect you, they will take charge and take over. Like I said, clear boundaries, firm, but sure - let them be the free creatures they are and don't try to control them. The more you try to control, they more they flee from you and slip through your fingers.

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They respect you for that - your ability to set them straight in a firm respectful way. Sounds like your neighbor hasn't learned that about his lioness if she's yelling all the time. 😕

She doesn't yell much anymore she spends a lot of time with her girlfriends when she moved to the area she didn't have any female friends now she does give her a break from his watery moodiness.

She rather be with her girls than him? It's ok to spend time with your girls, but if you prefer doing that more often than being with me - I wouldn't like that.

Sounds to me your leo neighbor doesn't respect her bf. If they don't respect you, they will take charge and take over. Like I said, clear boundaries, firm, but sure - let them be the free creatures they are and don't try to control them. The more you try to control, they more they flee from you and slip through your fingers.

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They do stuff together but he hasn't been feeling good for quite a few months, not really sure how good of a match Leo and Pisces is but they've been together for a few years.

Posted by KsamCancer
Good point stihl. My biggest concern if any would just be daily routines. Whos cleaning the dishes, how will you handle groceries etc. We Cancers can be passive aggressive about things like this and so I like to get them out on the table right away.

Well, I'm keeping a list on the things everyone pointed out. I think on it for awhile and see how I feel about it after awhile, Thx everyone. If anyone think of anything else, just post it Thx again!

Sit down first and talk about it.

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I´m serious though, without being condescending: you´re getting advice from guys in their early twenties... I think they´ll tend to see pitfalls that is not going to be there in a more mature relationship, like the one you are in.

Maybe, but we can learn a lot from young people. I am a grown man. I will make the decision on my own. But I do think what they say has great value even if it's to reel in my emotions a bit so I get more grounded with the what ifs. All advice whether for or against, I take with a grain of salt because in the end who knows my feelings, her feelings or the situation better than me. 🙂

Sure, just saying they have a very different view on things still - first thing they comment on, when you come here and happyly declare, that you´re moving in together, is that your girlfriend is on some kind of powertrip!! Wtf?! I´m thinking more in the lines of she wants to move in together, because she loves you and wants to be with you, and because it´s the next logical step to take...

I am surprised at their responses honestly, don´t understand it, and that´s probably why I chalk it up to being an age thing....

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Yes they do. But I don't expect their view to come from my older point of view. And even if it is based on their experience, it may still contain wisdom. That's all I was saying.

Posted by kissmygrits
Sit down first and talk about it.

@kissmygrits, yeah, for sure!

D'oh.
Leo woman here.
I lived with my Cancer ex for a few years.
We were young and dumb, but it was one of the best relationships I ever had 🙂
Only thing is we got our own place together, we weren't moving in or out of our own spaces. All from scratch- either way it was a very even keel living together and
the main thing was he had his own man cave set up asap where he could play of an evening or have his boys over and that helped tremendously.

crabby76,

awww. congrats. My man told me that 2 days ago. He wants to move in with me - he is full of stress and cannot deal it any longer, so he just wanted to run away and stay with me.
maybe in your part it's not stress at work. But I somehow disagree my man. I told him to stay in his ground. We are finding ways to settle. I need time as well. I have my own goals
and my house not fully done yet, so he offer me that he is the one to make it for me. I declined his offer. I have my own target december.

Oh well I wish you joy and happiness with that leo girl.

Posted by wagtail
D'oh.
Leo woman here.
I lived with my Cancer ex for a few years.
We were young and dumb, but it was one of the best relationships I ever had 🙂
Only thing is we got our own place together, we weren't moving in or out of our own spaces. All from scratch- either way it was a very even keel living together and
the main thing was he had his own man cave set up asap where he could play of an evening or have his boys over and that helped tremendously.

Oh, yeah, gotta a man cave! 😉
Just curious, why did you two not work out if it was one of your best relationships?

Posted by M143
crabby76,

awww. congrats. My man told me that 2 days ago. He wants to move in with me - he is full of stress and cannot deal it any longer, so he just wanted to run away and stay with me.
maybe in your part it's not stress at work. But I somehow disagree my man. I told him to stay in his ground. We are finding ways to settle. I need time as well. I have my own goals
and my house not fully done yet, so he offer me that he is the one to make it for me. I declined his offer. I have my own target december.

Oh well I wish you joy and happiness with that leo girl.

Thanks MI143!

Yeah, it's important that both are you are on the same page.

Well, we became like brother and sister very quickly. That's really all there was to it I suppose.
Tad creepy sounding, but seriously, we loved each other very much but we weren't IN love if you know what I mean.
We continued to house share together for a year or so after we broke up as we both needed time to find other places to rent etc but we worked at the same company and still do so it was a combination of too much time spent with each other and just a really solid companionship, that worked against us.
I'd say we we were both super easy going in general and being young we didn't have all the baggage hang ups and expectations that can ruin things after a little time...

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Well, we became like brother and sister very quickly. That's really all there was to it I suppose.
Tad creepy sounding, but seriously, we loved each other very much but we weren't IN love if you know what I mean.
We continued to house share together for a year or so after we broke up as we both needed time to find other places to rent etc but we worked at the same company and still do so it was a combination of too much time spent with each other and just a really solid companionship, that worked against us.
I'd say we we were both super easy going in general and being young we didn't have all the baggage hang ups and expectations that can ruin things after a little time...

I see. Nice to hear about a *good way to break up*. Glad you were able to be friends afterwards. 🙂

Posted by Koniucha
You haven't moved in with her yet lol

True. I did realized that I'm hoping living together will be like it is when we are just together now. Probably won't be, so I guess we'll see. People on the Leo board are warning me too - are you sure about this and that. So maybe I'm being too optimistic about it all - but I can't help it cause I love her! 😭

Posted by Arielle83
Ya I agree with most of the guys on here. It's hard moving into the other person's home. You wil have to adapt to their ways and rules. Then months down the line they start realizing it's not JUST their place anymore, and they start to compromise.


I moved into my husbands house when he was away. I was on my own for 14 mos in his place, so I made it mine. I didn't move anything of his, but I made it my mine.

When he came home it was all his rules and routine I had to adapt to. He's routine and I'm not. Anyways, it's still a very blokey crib. I've got a puppy calendar up and some pot plants. Plus he lets me have my JCVD posters cuz he thinks he's rad too.

I have my own separate room for my clothes, makeup and books and stuff that I escape to when he's playing his metal music. It works but your going to have to both understand compromises within small space.

Same here. She's routine - I'm not. I actually hadn't considered bringing stuff to her house - only my clothes, games, music, books, plants etc. Actual furniture will stay my house, but there is a ez chair I want down in the basement. So maybe after a month or so, I bring that in and see how she reacts. Hmmm...this is going to be interesting.

Posted by Koniucha
People move in together all of the time. I think you are trying to turn it into a bigger deal than it is. We all need space, not just Cancers.

You won't know how it goes unless you do it

Well, I'm in my thirties and have never done it, so yeah, it's a big deal to me - just maybe not so much for most others. 😐

Posted by Koniucha
At least you will still have your own place. It would be different if you were just relying on her only.

Yeah, I wouldn't put myself in that position. I don't rely on her financially at all - wouldn't feel right. I have my own, handle my own.

Posted by thinktoomuch

I judged you to give you a taste of your own medicine for undermining these other Cancer's advice.

I wish I knew how to post memes and clips from youtube, ´cause then I´d post the one of Phoebe from Friends saying "Oh, I have tasted my own medicin and it is bitter!".... Sarcastically ofcours 😄

But sincerely question: really!??!!! I mean, my comment is based off guys straight away making accusations, and I don´t think, that that´s cool. I even wrote "with all due respect", and I meant that.
They weren´t giving any advice, they were just throwing stones.
Just like your "stone" - which is trying to make me feel bad or regret, because of which day I was born, or "teach me a lesson" - is just as childish.

Maybe give crabby some advice on what to do and what to exspect, instead of bitching about his girlfriend, who probably just loves him.. Seriously. You give him some sincere advice, and I´m sure it´ll be good.

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@thinktoomuch,
aahhhh, I see the sweeter side of scorpios...you can put your dukes down for me now 😄 ... It's all good.

I don't feel they were coming from a point of trying to attack my woman - that's just their view of what could be happening based on their experience. When shit hit us cancers the wrong way....well...we start pinching. They were offended, so they offended you. You got offended. Now everybody's offended. Fair, no? Let's all put our pinchers and stingers away and hug now... Or is that my leo moon fucking with me again? LOL!

Posted by aurora
until i become more mature, i'm not moving in with anyone ever. and considering the fact how clueless i feel about what kind of maturing i have to do, it will happen maybe never.
though it's fun at first. lived with a pisces and a leo.

I was gonna ask about how it was living with your leo - but then I remembered he hit you - so fuck him and that living horror.

Instead, do you mind telling me how it was living with your pisces? What sort of things do you wish you had thought about before going in?

Posted by BlackMamba
Why don't you just marry her instead of playing house? This is all bs.

If you only knew. I would in a heartbeat, but she's no where ready for that step!

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Why don't you just marry her instead of playing house? This is all bs.

If you only knew. I would in a heartbeat, but she's no where ready for that step!

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Yes, you are the first person to understand her however If my man told me that he is not ready so what's the point of having a relationship with that person? Emotionally she is not ready
so I am now confused. hahaha

My cancer man sent me this today with a note My song for you * baby, I love you so much*. Cancer men really wearing their heart on their sleeve. proof.

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Why don't you just marry her instead of playing house? This is all bs.

If you only knew. I would in a heartbeat, but she's no where ready for that step!

Yes, you are the first person to understand her however If my man told me that he is not ready so what's the point of having a relationship with that person? Emotionally she is not ready
so I am now confused. hahaha

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Naw, we have a lot of stuff to still work on - but we're steadily moving forward, so I'm happy. And I don't feel like I need marriage from her if that's not something she wants. I would like it, but I don't feel it's something that I need cause I know I have her heart and love.

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My cancer man sent me this today with a note My song for you * baby, I love you so much*. Cancer men really wearing their heart on their sleeve. proof.

Awesome song! Yeah, that's why we're so careful about getting in relationships. Once we're in - we're ALL the way in! Glad for you. 🙂

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Posted by BlackMamba
Why don't you just marry her instead of playing house? This is all bs.

If you only knew. I would in a heartbeat, but she's no where ready for that step!

Yes, you are the first person to understand her however If my man told me that he is not ready so what's the point of having a relationship with that person? Emotionally she is not ready
so I am now confused. hahaha

Naw, we have a lot of stuff to still work on - but we're steadily moving forward, so I'm happy. And I don't feel like I need marriage from her if that's not something she wants. I would like it, but I don't feel it's something that I need cause I know I have her heart and love.

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Yes that is more important in a relationship her heart and love. She is a well reserved person in my opinion.

Posted by thinktoomuch
😄 When I did boxing classes, the trainer told me I was too eager!!!! Go figure...
But I´ll put ´em down, don´t want to derail or anything - but I gotta react, when I get called "not human" - that was wayyyy weird.

Like I said before, my older sister is a leo, and although she does take control and power of many situations (it´s just her leo and big sister gene), she would never have a guy move in with her to power play him. Guess I was trying to defend all leo women and women in general - I´m tired of women getting called controlling.

But no doubt: the guys can give you some good advice, that I can´t. They should just exspand their minds a ittle 😉

@thinktoomuch
I'm sorry that you were called that. That was a very hurtful thing to say, I also read what someone said in one of your other post which I won't repeat here because it was so vile and mean, Sometimes, we forget when typing on the other side of the computer, we are all connected to one another by our very natural selves and it's so easy for things to spin out of control. I know this is too little, too late, but it hit me very hard for some reason and I wanted to let you know, as the originator of this thread, I am sorry that it was said here.

I say go for it. If that's what you want to do just do it!!
Half the people on this site are bitter.
Its better to try and potentially fail then always wonder. 5years is a long time to be with someone and if you aren't willing to move in at this point and see how it goes she might start questioning whether the relationship has a true future, esp if she is marriage oriented.

Posted by CapricornLaurie
I say go for it. If that's what you want to do just do it!!
Half the people on this site are bitter.
Its better to try and potentially fail then always wonder. 5years is a long time to be with someone and if you aren't willing to move in at this point and see how it goes she might start questioning whether the relationship has a true future, esp if she is marriage oriented.

Thanks for the encouragement!

Yeah, I pretty much decided to do it when I made this thread. 😉. But from all the responses, I realize there are some finer details we need to discuss before I make the move.

I don't know how much marriage is on her mind though being the subject has never come up in the past, but you never know the future.

Posted by aurora

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Posted by aurora
until i become more mature, i'm not moving in with anyone ever. and considering the fact how clueless i feel about what kind of maturing i have to do, it will happen maybe never.
though it's fun at first. lived with a pisces and a leo.

I was gonna ask about how it was living with your leo - but then I remembered he hit you - so fuck him and that living horror.

Instead, do you mind telling me how it was living with your pisces? What sort of things do you wish you had thought about before going in?

if i want to be realistic it was ok. in fact i have zero bad words and emotions about him. but near the end it was hard, like it always is.

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Yeah, I guess outcome depends on the individuals involve- it can be a good experience then.