Cancer Lady
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I have not ever lived with a partner because I haven't been serious enough about the relationship to want to do so. However my Libra recently bought a house and we will be moving in together once the renovations are complete. He sees a future with me and I want a future with him so the natural progression in our relationship is to move in together and I'm confident that we'll be engaged shortly after.
When you know what you want you do it and you don't half step it. You either give all and go all in or you leave it alone.
When you know what you want you do it and you don't half step it. You either give all and go all in or you leave it alone.
Posted by Cancer LadyOh, that's not it at all. I definitely see a future for us. I'm not sure how much she does tho. But you did say something I hadn't considered- maybe she's thinking more long term. She's never acted like marriage was on her mind in the past, so I never bring it up. But maybe that's changing.Posted by crabbycrab76I agree with Cap you guys need to have a "future" talk before you move in especially since you've been together 5 yrs. Moving in is always the first step to taking a relationship in a more serious/committed direction and if you're not COMPLETLY open to doing that then you do not need to move in with her until you are.Posted by CapricornLaurieThanks for the encouragement!
I say go for it. If that's what you want to do just do it!!
Half the people on this site are bitter.
Its better to try and potentially fail then always wonder. 5years is a long time to be with someone and if you aren't willing to move in at this point and see how it goes she might start questioning whether the relationship has a true future, esp if she is marriage oriented.
Yeah, I pretty much decided to do it when I made this thread. 😉. But from all the responses, I realize there are some finer details we need to discuss before I make the move.
I don't know how much marriage is on her mind though being the subject has never come up in the past, but you never know the future.
Could you see yourself proposing to her within the next year? Is she someone you want to marry and start a future with? It's been 5 yrs so you should know if your future includes her or not. You guys are far beyond the "dating/courting" stage. It's time to lay roots for a serious commitment and it appears that's what she's trying to do by making the first step and asking you to move in. She's not asking you to move in for convenience, she wants to take the relationship to the next level and you need to make sure you're on that same road with wanting to take the relationship to the next level BEFORE moving in with her. Do not move in with her if you do not see a future with her and she's not someone you would marry in the near future.click to expand
I don't have doubts that I want to move in. I just want to know what I'm getting into cause I never have lived with someone after I left my parents yrs ago. Yeah, we just need to discuss the details about bills and stuff because we are both financially stable.
Posted by Cancer LadyCouldn't agree more! I wish I knew what my gf feelings were at regarding our future. 😢
I have not ever lived with a partner because I haven't been serious enough about the relationship to want to do so. However my Libra recently bought a house and we will be moving in together once the renovations are complete. He sees a future with me and I want a future with him so the natural progression in our relationship is to move in together and I'm confident that we'll be engaged shortly after.
When you know what you want you do it and you don't half step it. You either give all and go all in or you leave it alone.
That's why you guys need to talk and soon!
Posted by Cancer LadyYep. We will this weekend. Thx!
That's why you guys need to talk and soon!
Don't do the Cancer thing and just assume things will work themselves out. I'm a Cancer and totally guilty of that however being with my Libra I learned quick that I can't just leave things up to chance and live in my head. I HAVE to communicate and make sure we're both seeing things the same way and just don't assume we are or wait for him to come around to saying it or doing it. Don't be afraid to express your wants and desires as that's the only way our love ones will be able to give it to us. We can't make the mistake of assuming they know what we want and even if they have an idea, they want be confident until we reassure them.
Posted by Cancer LadyYeah, we have great communication actually. And I have a leo moon - I think that helps me in expressing things sometimes (atleast on my good days 😉 ). We will definitely talk this weekend and I will bring up all the good points from this thread. Thank you!
Don't do the Cancer thing and just assume things will work themselves out. I'm a Cancer and totally guilty of that however being with my Libra I learned quick that I can't just leave things up to chance and live in my head. I HAVE to communicate and make sure we're both seeing things the same way and just don't assume we are or wait for him to come around to saying it or doing it. Don't be afraid to express your wants and desires as that's the only way our love ones will be able to give it to us. We can't make the mistake of assuming they know what we want and even if they have an idea, they want be confident until we reassure them.
Posted by crabbycrab76Now it makes more sense because you have a leo moon.Yeah, we have great communication actually. And I have a leo moon - I think that helps me in expressing things sometimes (atleast on my good days 😉 ). We will definitely talk this weekend and I will bring up all the good points from this thread. Thank you!click to expand
I have a cancer moon - My man is cancer.
Posted by M143Huh? What makes more sense?Posted by crabbycrab76Now it makes more sense because you have a leo moon.Yeah, we have great communication actually. And I have a leo moon - I think that helps me in expressing things sometimes (atleast on my good days 😉 ). We will definitely talk this weekend and I will bring up all the good points from this thread. Thank you!
I have a cancer moon - My man is cancer.
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Crabbycrab,
I mean not all women can have a great relationship with cancer men. You read all the comments a lot of women complaining their cancer men's behavior.
But it looks like your leo girl and you don't have problem with communication. Feelings are mutual, I guess.
Posted by M143We don't have a problem NOW - but the first few years, communication was NOT easy! Sometimes it was like we were speaking completely different languages. A LOT of work went into getting to this point. We understood each other's emotions but verbal communication was an uphill battle!. So we focused on sex instead cause that was going great! HaHa!
Crabbycrab,
I mean not all women can have a great relationship with cancer men. You read all the comments a lot of women complaining their cancer men's behavior.
But it looks like your leo girl and you don't have problem with communication. Feelings are mutual, I guess.
Posted by crabbycrab76hahaha. My man and I doing the same. Focused on sex.Posted by M143We don't have a problem NOW - but the first few years, communication was NOT easy! Sometimes it was like we were speaking completely different languages. A LOT of work went into getting to this point. We understood each other's emotions but verbal communication was an uphill battle!. So we focused on sex instead cause that was going great! HaHa!
Crabbycrab,
I mean not all women can have a great relationship with cancer men. You read all the comments a lot of women complaining their cancer men's behavior.
But it looks like your leo girl and you don't have problem with communication. Feelings are mutual, I guess.click to expand
Posted by crabbycrab76And don't think we don't have our fights even now. But I've learned not to pinch as much and she's learned not to roar as much, such that when we're done fighting, there's plenty of hugs, kissing and cuddling afterwards! 😉Posted by M143We don't have a problem NOW - but the first few years, communication was NOT easy! Sometimes it was like we were speaking completely different languages. A LOT of work went into getting to this point. We understood each other's emotions but verbal communication was an uphill battle!. So we focused on sex instead cause that was going great! HaHa!
Crabbycrab,
I mean not all women can have a great relationship with cancer men. You read all the comments a lot of women complaining their cancer men's behavior.
But it looks like your leo girl and you don't have problem with communication. Feelings are mutual, I guess.click to expand
Posted by crabbycrab76oh.. I had 3 breaks up with my man. I cannot handle pressure. He obliged me to give my attention to him even he is not around. I was trying to understand him clearly and I give my conclusion he needs assurance from me. He kept on saying he is committed to me. So even he cannot reply my message right away in my mind I have to do it because that what he needs. He told me that my life is important to him and everything in my life matters to him. lol. What makes me laugh about him is that he acts like a child. He told me everything including his dog. lolPosted by crabbycrab76And don't think we don't have our fights even now. But I've learned not to pinch as much and she's learned not to roar as much, such that when we're done fighting, there's plenty of hugs, kissing and cuddling afterwards! 😉Posted by M143We don't have a problem NOW - but the first few years, communication was NOT easy! Sometimes it was like we were speaking completely different languages. A LOT of work went into getting to this point. We understood each other's emotions but verbal communication was an uphill battle!. So we focused on sex instead cause that was going great! HaHa!
Crabbycrab,
I mean not all women can have a great relationship with cancer men. You read all the comments a lot of women complaining their cancer men's behavior.
But it looks like your leo girl and you don't have problem with communication. Feelings are mutual, I guess.click to expand
Posted by crabbycrab76That is how I use to approach my relationships in the past because it was just easier than dealing with emotions. You expressed emotion during sex and pretty much left it at that but I'm so happy I didn't go into things with my Libra that way. Well actually I didn't have a choice because we met at work and we couldn't get into a romantic relationship working at the same company. So we were forced to establish a emotional connection before sex was able to get involved and this has been the best relationship I've ever had. It's really forced me to grow emotionally and just grow period as a person. I really didn't realize how much I used sex as a crutch in my previous relationships and I understand more than ever now that just because you're having sex with someone doesn't mean they love you or that you have a solid foundation. The foundation isn't built until the emotions have been dealt with and that emotional connection has been accepted and agreed upon from both of you.Posted by M143We don't have a problem NOW - but the first few years, communication was NOT easy! Sometimes it was like we were speaking completely different languages. A LOT of work went into getting to this point. We understood each other's emotions but verbal communication was an uphill battle!. So we focused on sex instead cause that was going great! HaHa!
Crabbycrab,
I mean not all women can have a great relationship with cancer men. You read all the comments a lot of women complaining their cancer men's behavior.
But it looks like your leo girl and you don't have problem with communication. Feelings are mutual, I guess.click to expand
Posted by Cancer LadyOf course it needs to be Emotional Connection first.Posted by crabbycrab76That is how I use to approach my relationships in the past because it was just easier than dealing with emotions. You expressed emotion during sex and pretty much left it at that but I'm so happy I didn't go into things with my Libra that way. Well actually I didn't have a choice because we met at work and we couldn't get into a romantic relationship working at the same company. So we were forced to establish a emotional connection before sex was able to get involved and this has been the best relationship I've ever had. It's really forced me to grow emotionally and just grow period as a person. I really didn't realize how much I used sex as a crutch in my previous relationships and I understand more than ever now that just because you're having sex with someone doesn't mean they love you or that you have a solid foundation. The foundation isn't built until the emotions have been dealt with and that emotional connection has been accepted and agreed upon from both of you.Posted by M143We don't have a problem NOW - but the first few years, communication was NOT easy! Sometimes it was like we were speaking completely different languages. A LOT of work went into getting to this point. We understood each other's emotions but verbal communication was an uphill battle!. So we focused on sex instead cause that was going great! HaHa!
Crabbycrab,
I mean not all women can have a great relationship with cancer men. You read all the comments a lot of women complaining their cancer men's behavior.
But it looks like your leo girl and you don't have problem with communication. Feelings are mutual, I guess.click to expand
Posted by Cancer LadyThe emotional connection occurred first. The verbal communication was difficult. And that's when we would just reassure each other through sex. That is not how it is now. The emotional connection is still there but now we also good communication. Which is always followed up with intimacy (be that hugs, kisses, cuddling, sex or whatever). So we have come full circle and are very balanced in many ways. Ofcourse there is always room for improvement and we work at those things. 🙂Posted by crabbycrab76That is how I use to approach my relationships in the past because it was just easier than dealing with emotions. You expressed emotion during sex and pretty much left it at that but I'm so happy I didn't go into things with my Libra that way. Well actually I didn't have a choice because we met at work and we couldn't get into a romantic relationship working at the same company. So we were forced to establish a emotional connection before sex was able to get involved and this has been the best relationship I've ever had. It's really forced me to grow emotionally and just grow period as a person. I really didn't realize how much I used sex as a crutch in my previous relationships and I understand more than ever now that just because you're having sex with someone doesn't mean they love you or that you have a solid foundation. The foundation isn't built until the emotions have been dealt with and that emotional connection has been accepted and agreed upon from both of you.Posted by M143We don't have a problem NOW - but the first few years, communication was NOT easy! Sometimes it was like we were speaking completely different languages. A LOT of work went into getting to this point. We understood each other's emotions but verbal communication was an uphill battle!. So we focused on sex instead cause that was going great! HaHa!
Crabbycrab,
I mean not all women can have a great relationship with cancer men. You read all the comments a lot of women complaining their cancer men's behavior.
But it looks like your leo girl and you don't have problem with communication. Feelings are mutual, I guess.click to expand
Just wanted everybody to know...it's official! We will be living together by end of the month! 😄 😄 😄
Thanks to EVERYBODY who gave input. Very much appreciated! 🙂 cheers!
Thanks to EVERYBODY who gave input. Very much appreciated! 🙂 cheers!
Good luck! Be aware of the sweets in the fridge crisper.
Posted by kissmygritsRoger that!
Good luck! Be aware of the sweets in the fridge crisper.
Posted by Pisces15Thx!Posted by crabbycrab76Congrats
Just wanted everybody to know...it's official! We will be living together by end of the month! 😄 😄 😄
Thanks to EVERYBODY who gave input. Very much appreciated! 🙂 cheers!click to expand
YAY conrgats!!! I can't wait to move in with my Libra, hopefully the house will be ready at the end of next month.
Posted by tizianiToast bro! and thx!
(pours out a 40)
another brother taken down.
j.k
Godspeed
Posted by Cancer LadyThx! I hope it works out with you and libra too!
YAY conrgats!!! I can't wait to move in with my Libra, hopefully the house will be ready at the end of next month.
Hey, something to consider, I went in thinking we would split things 50/50. But as details were discussed - like I'm keeping my place so I'll have bill there and then when I rent it out, there will be management companies fees, legal protection - that sort of stuff - we decided to divide things based on percentage of income. Which was much fairer because 1) she makes a whole shit lot more than me and 2) overall I would be paying a lot more percentage-wise if we did 50/50. Something for you and your libra to consider to keep things balanced.
Anyway, Good luck and hope that house gets finished sooner than later!
Posted by ReincarnationNone at all cause I handle my own! It's gonna be fun as ride, that's for sure! 😛Posted by crabbycrab76So tell us -
My leo gf threw me a curve ball during our vacation and said she thought I should move in.
How emasculated did you feel?click to expand
Posted by ReincarnationThx! 🙂Posted by crabbycrab76Good. I'm happy for you.Posted by ReincarnationNone at all cause I handle my own! It's gonna be fun as ride, that's for sure! 😛Posted by crabbycrab76So tell us -
My leo gf threw me a curve ball during our vacation and said she thought I should move in.
How emasculated did you feel?
Hope it works out.click to expand
Posted by auroraYeah, the leo woman are confident as hell! I love her for it too!
i know a cancer man leo woman couple, they are together 15 years. they don't need anyone else, and i think they never had one issue ever. i think she made every single first move in their relationship 😄
*clears throat* - I will be making the next move tho. 😉
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