My lover is breaking my heart! (Cancer,July 4)

How do you ever get over losing a guy of your dreams, the one your heart wants the most?
Our relationship sucked. He never told me how he felt about me. But he sure did say he is not over his ex. He left me waiting for his calls and turned down bunch of dates.
I am not the greatest either, because he made me feel so insecure, I was playing his cards to him. I had thousand of guards up, showing that my life is great without him and never telling him how much I care. Also turned down few dates just because and was trying to make him jealous few times. It lasted 4 months.
Almost a week ago I got a text from him saying that he wants to break up: "crazy situation from the past and I need to see" "hope we will stay friends, your great" "you seem to be dating someone too, wish you all the best with that" etc.
I answered : "are you sure?I am not dating anyone, and I don't want to see or talk to you for a while for sure"
No answer.
Then I wrote a message that i'd like to get my clothes back from him and our mutual friend will pick it up.
No answer.
It's Day 4 and still no answer from him at all. What is this?
I don't have courage to end it! I can't imagine losing him. I am so sad. I don't know what to do. I think he might be back with his ex. But why is he not answering?
Please help me to clarify this situation I can't think straight.

*sigh* post like this makes me so sad 😢 men are so dumb. Honestly, I would just leave him alone. He will come back if he is interested.

Almost a week ago I got a text from him saying that he wants to break up: "crazy situation from the past and I need to see" "hope we will stay friends, your great" "you seem to be dating someone too, wish you all the best with that" etc.
I answered : "are you sure?I am not dating anyone, and I don't want to see or talk to you for a while for sure"
No answer.
Then I wrote a message that i'd like to get my clothes back from him and our mutual friend will pick it up.
No answer.
It's Day 4 and still no answer from him at all. What is this?
I don't have courage to end it! I can't imagine losing him. I am so sad. I don't know what to do. I think he might be back with his ex. But why is he not answering?
Please help me to clarify this situation I can't think straight.

If he is with his ex and really wants to be with her, there isnt really anything you can do about it. It seems like he can just be placing that u seemed to be dating someone as well. Other than just being honest with u and ask if that was the case with you. They may have never stopped talking and thats why its best to let ppl heal that just get out of relationships. With Cancers they are tricky. they show the signs early on imo.

The guy of your dreams, eh? lol

my relationship kind of sucked too with that cancer. Their charm is irresistable can't blame you for thinking he's the man of your dreams. Only when I broke up I realized I enjoyed crushing on him more than actually being with him, it's much easier and less drama lol

Posted by Leto12
How do you ever get over losing a guy of your dreams, the one your heart wants the most?
Our relationship sucked. He never told me how he felt about me. But he sure did say he is not over his ex. He left me waiting for his calls and turned down bunch of dates.
I am not the greatest either, because he made me feel so insecure, I was playing his cards to him. I had thousand of guards up, showing that my life is great without him and never telling him how much I care. Also turned down few dates just because and was trying to make him jealous few times. It lasted 4 months.
Almost a week ago I got a text from him saying that he wants to break up: "crazy situation from the past and I need to see" "hope we will stay friends, your great" "you seem to be dating someone too, wish you all the best with that" etc.
I answered : "are you sure?I am not dating anyone, and I don't want to see or talk to you for a while for sure"
No answer.
Then I wrote a message that i'd like to get my clothes back from him and our mutual friend will pick it up.
No answer.
It's Day 4 and still no answer from him at all. What is this?
I don't have courage to end it! I can't imagine losing him. I am so sad. I don't know what to do. I think he might be back with his ex. But why is he not answering?
Please help me to clarify this situation I can't think straight.

I am really sorry boo. Just as I stated in your past post, he has clearly moved on with someone else. Now it is time for you to do the same. Now, about your clothes.... You may want to just forget about those, or if possible, have him mail them to you or something. After I broke up with my Cancer I threw his clothes away. I knew he didn't want or need them and I also knew it would have been just another excuse for him to see me again. Your Cancer man has clearly moved on to someone else, as you stated above, its an ex. Ex's have a hold on us like no other, especially if there was a deep love and connection in that relationship. We tend to move backwards at times and rekindle previous loves.
I hope you find the strength you need to move on.

You will get over it, in a few months you will feel strong again and love yourself more than anyone else

It might sound lame but you could watch some matthew hussey videos on youtube. I did that once after a break up and it cleared my thoughts on what I really want from a relationship and showed me what I was doing wrong.

I strongly recommend it !

Also this,

It takes time to get over a heart break. No matter how you feel now, you will get over this man. One day you'll run into him and feel no desire for him. That's a great feeling too. It just takes time to get over the pain. In the meantime, stay busy, remind yourself that you never had a good relationship with him anyway and don't chase after men in the future. They're either motivated to ask you out or you're a piece of ass whose maybe nice to talk to. You want the whole enchilada? Don't settle from scraps from any man's table. And don't have sex with them until they have a title for you, "So and So, I'd like you to meet my girlfriend." A man whose willing to screw you but not willing to call you his girlfriend is no man worth having, no matter how good he looks in person or on paper. Remember that and you'll save yourself heart break in the future. Live and learn.