need some advice about a cancer man

Been reading a lot of stories here about a cancer men. I need some advice, because I (taurus) don't know what to do anymore.

I know this guy for 5 years now. I met him on vacation (yes he lives 4hrs away from me). We both had a relation in that time, but we always had a connection and saw each other a lot.

My relationship of 8 yrs ended in January with a leo guy. Me and my cancer man started to text in august. He also ended his relation (5yrs) in July.

We texted daily, 30 messages a day! He send me flowers the first week we texted. Also a lot of love songs and very sweet messages. We told our deepest emotions to each other and he old me he loved me numerous times. I booked a flight and we started to long for each other very much. He asked me to come in December also to spend the holidays so before the first time i would visit him, I booked another flight. He always said that i should leave my country and come live with him, and I would do it!

So 2 weeks ago i visited him.It was perfect. He payed for everything and we spend the whole time together. We kissed, made love but didn't told each other about loving each other (both a little shy).

When I was waiting for my plane to go home, I send him a voice note on whats app to tell him that I do love him and that i'm not sure if he loved me too. He responded that he's not in love with anybody and that he can't love so fast. But that he likes me a lot, that we are good friends now and that he wants me to come in december to visit him again. But that i need to understand the situation (we both just came out of a long relationship). A little heartbroken I left and came home. The next day he asked me if i hate him and that he treated me the best way he could. I send him another voice note that I don't hate him but that i felt very sad so i was crying a bit. He almost begged me to come in December and said sorry a couple of times. I said it wasn't his fault and i don't blame him. The next day (monday) he had send me 1 message. On Tuesday he had send me a couple of messages that I was the nicest girl of the world and that he is waiting for me again. And he wouldn't date other girls. I felt happy and thought everything was alright again. On Wednesday i heard nothing so i send him a message. He responded but told me he was busy. I gave him a couple of compliment but i felt that the conversation was different then before. On Thursday I heard nothing from him and also didn't send him anything (first time in 3 months we didn't speak). On Friday again nothing and I visited a friend who told me to send him a low-key message, just to check if he was feeling good. He didn't respond so i asked if everything was alright or that i should leave him alone. He responded that he was not feeling good and told me he was sorry. I said it wasn't a problem and that i hope he that he feels better soon. Now it's been 5 days and i heard nothing from him. Normally he is very active on fb but he didn't post anything. This night his sister who he lives with liked my profile pic that i posed a week ago. And today he also posted something on fb.

What do i have to do know? Let him be? Will he send me anything if i wait or is it over?

I need to know if I have to visit him in December or just let him go (I don't care about the money). But i'm too afraid to ask or send him anything now. I really like him and I would move in the future if he asks me to.

So I would really appreciate your advice on this. (Sorry for the mistakes, English is not my mother language)

I'm a Cancer and, speaking from experience, I tend to pull away when I feel like I have shown/given so much of myself. It looks like he has really gotten the feels that's why he's trying to pull back. But not because he doesn't like/love you. But maybe because it kinda is overwhelming sometimes and we just have to step back a bit and gather ourselves. Just try to wait it out. He'll come around if what he says is true. For the meantime, try not to go after him. Don't message him or anything. Or do anything that shows you want his attention. Just keep to yourself. Promise.

Taurus_Woman,

Ground yourself.

You're too far up in the clouds.

He was very honest with you, he simply wanted to take things slow and get to know you better.

There is nothing wrong with that.

Your insecurities began when you told him that you loved him, and those words were not reciprocated.

You immediately when into 'survival/panick' mode and pressed the connection 'harder.'

As a Bull myself, I understand that it's rare when we're in positions to take emotional risk.

We're not good with vulnerability.

You immediately saw this as rejection.

But he NEVER rejected you.

He just needed more time.

I think you may have turned him off temporarily,

Not permanently.

Let it go for now.

Why doesn't he want to come to you in December?

Why women are so panicing?

When I told Cancer that I love him - he went into long deep conversation about wanting to stay single for a while. Then I said LISTEN! When I said I love somebody I don’t mean let’s get married. It means I admire your qualities as a person, man, father, businessman...and kind and energetic soul as you are. Also nobody can make you marry them if you won’t! So what’s the problem? Can you just chill and let’s move on?

He happily accepted and told me that he loves me as well than...he made it more sexual than I did but we are still friends for about a year now. And he just told me that he thinking of me and when he is home we need to meet but I told him just for a drink.

He said no problem. And that is it!

That’s strange how people treating this short word as if it was a death sentence! Everybody need to CHILL!

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Why doesn't he want to come to you in December?

He said he doesn’t?

Maybe she isn’t able to accommodate him and paying for airfare, hotel and entertainment would be too much? Who knows?

Now is time to wait until his shock will wear off and he will talk again...🤷‍♀️