Northwest what happened to your post

I took the time to write it soni will post it here

First decantaurus I would leave a woman who was independent and all if she made it easy for me to leave. If she never changed too much and had the same old patterns I would eventually leave. Someone can be emotionally warm to you during moments but still make you feel sad and lonely during other moments when they kick you to the curb. If after she walked out on me and came back and still wouldn't make time for me when she really needs to of course I would bounce. Who wants to be treated like that? What kind of love is that? I get the medical issues but that's even more of a reason to stay close by each other and to build a strong unbreakable bond. The bond built now is very fragile and is bound to break at any moment. Example my cancer friend is a very busy person but if she likes you or respects you she will find a way to make time for you-even if she brings her work along or just only hangs our for I few hours. And I'm not trying to disrespect the OP in anyway but I'm guessing someone with PTSD or I schizophrenia would blow hot and cold like no other and bring a lot of drama and stress to a would've been great relationship. My friend has never said anything about it but I really think one of the dudes she used to mess around with had schizophrenia or something because when she would give me updates after she had a great time with dude the next update after would be--dude is ignoring her, dude cursed her out for something he made up in his head or blew something way out if proportion, dude told her to never contact her again, dude switched it up and blah. I didn't want to mention it to her and I could tell she felt embarrassed to tell me when I would ask about updates. I could tell her feelings were hurt. I wanted to tell her he probably had mental issues but I didn't want to make her overthink things. It was mental issues or drugs or he was on some type of revengeful get backs or he was juggling other women around. Eventually she learned to stop initiating contact or expecting anything out of him other then a quick fuck once a month. That's how bad it got. Now she doesn't really care if she sees him or not because of the cray emotional roller coaster she was on. That's abusive I ain't never see someone go through something like tht and she stuck it out with him for years. She had to realize no fruits was going to come from that and put her heart on someone else. No one wants to feel like they're not a

No one wants to feel like they're not a priority no matter how tough they seem like. She would say but when were together everything is fine bullshit but eventually she learned dude was just out to toy with her emotions and lift her up just to kick her back down again. I tried to tell her a long time ago but she's stubborn and needed to see it a million times before she agreed. I know cats like him. He probably is jealous of her and loves to let everybody know he's able to shit all over a young beautiful successful woman and then have her come back again and again. He's insecure immature and psychotic. This cancer dude might feel the same way.

I thought her post was still there.. Lol

Oh I guess she blocked me. Lol the truth hurts northwest! LOL

What's the point in asking for advice if your going to block someone who doesn't agree with you? Are you here just for sympathy and to feel better about your shitty ways to get people to make you feel like your in the right or do you really want a real solution to your problem— This is why I don't really interact on this site much because as soon as you don't agree with someone they curse you out or block you. I think it's time to get off. And next time don't waste my fucking time. I know you'll be reading this. This is probably EXACTLY why your cancer faded. How do you beg for answers and ask for guidance then suddenly block someone? Like I said before way too much work.

Star-

1. So you like alittle control, a challenge in a relationship, and lots of affection? So you like less independent woman, nothing wrong with that because you would be the type to support, work harder, bring a consistent amount of stability(financially) to the household. And she doesn't even have to work, just cater to you emotionally, sexually, and mentally and it's all good..

I totally would change my work schedule if it bothered someone if you wanted me at home in bed at night.. But I have to work too. I can't just stay at home unless I knew for sure you can provide stability in a marriage along with kids on the way..that's if you wanted kids. If not we just work and travel with all the money saved...

But aren't Cancers emotionally unstable, so you need a strong willed person as a rock to help each other balance things out.. If I am all logical, then the POI must bring a stable, balanced POV...

I have met alot of patients that have disorders like this.. I would take care of you if you were never to get off your medication and always went to your doctors appointments.. I am a taurus fixed stellium female with Cancer rising I have to be the strong one....I will strongly take care of you the best of my capabilities..

Well people know how to deal or don't know how to deal with Cancer, so people have to educate others..

I think she blocked me too. 😕 not sure why...ok lol

I dont see it either she probably erased it

Maybe she deleted herself..??_

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Posted by StarChild63
What's the point in asking for advice if your going to block someone who doesn't agree with you? Are you here just for sympathy and to feel better about your shitty ways to get people to make you feel like your in the right or do you really want a real solution to your problem— This is why I don't really interact on this site much because as soon as you don't agree with someone they curse you out or block you. I think it's time to get off. And next time don't waste my fucking time. I know you'll be reading this. This is probably EXACTLY why your cancer faded. How do you beg for answers and ask for guidance then suddenly block someone? Like I said before way too much work.

You aren't forced to comment on anything. You seem to like to waste your own time.

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Truth be told my inbox is full of cancer questions. Even if people don't want to admit they seek my input they do. And it's easier to give my opinion out public ally that way I don't have to repeat myself over and over. If I knew this site existed when I had a chance with my friend we might be together now. So that's why I input. If all of you want me to stop just say so. I do plan on getting off because it ain't helping with my healing.

FDTW

I don't like to control my woman and I don't want her to control me. I like everything balanced and 50/50. I want us both making good money and both affectionate with each oter. I want a woman that knows how to balance her life. So she knows how to be a boss an still cater to me and let me cater to her. She doesn't have to work a 9-5 but she needs to bring in income. This is 2015 where both incomes are needed even in the wealthy circles. We can take care if kids equally to. That's too much strain and stress on one person cuz I like luxury so to afford the whole lifestyle shebdefinately has to be making good money. Women are different these days. Tons of women have great careers and still are good moms and wives. Marriages fall apart because of finances these days.

I don't think cancers are emotionally unstable at all. They have the most control of their emotions then most people. Don't believe me? Ask this cancer board. Cancers can control their emotions with a fierceness. If you get a cancer that is up and down with emotions they might have a separate mental illness or they are reacting to your own ups and downs. And what you might count as emotions or emotional ups and downs might not be emotional at all. It might be them going with the flow if life and their surroundings. That is why they are so unpredictable. If this is what you are talking about then this has more to do with their water ability to be flexible and changing very easily--their environment just encourages them to change and flip and twist. But I agree to be happy in love with a cancer it takes a very stable grounded person. Cancers act like water air signs. So they need someone to interrupt their flow of life and remind that you want to ride on their flow roller coaster too. Then they'll go oh ok come on and the two of you are both in the flow and happy. Insecure people can't ever get past the part where they decide to tap cancer on the shoulder and say come out of the flow and let me see what you see.

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I think she blocked me too. 😕 not sure why...ok lol

Oh well. If you ever read this my fault for calling you out for leaving. I wrongly accused you. Good luck with your shit

Oh ok thanks for clearing that up. Online messages can get perceived wrong.

I believe the 50/50 thing. However I got 80/20, I was with my ex for along damn time with me. I was always doing everything. Rent and bills, but he would clean or cook something..so it helped. But then it got out of hand with other woman issues. We were both young and he wasn't an arian settling type at 22..was all over the place..

So after I went through all that. I said no more. You must have a job, car, and your own place when I meet you.. I believe in 50/50 , now I might even be too independent by myself and feel I should just be single forever, no kids, and just have some fun every now and then. But I do want the monogamy relationships when the time comes. It would be a discussion about stability,and reliable, dependable, sincere honest..

Yeah both bring something to the table is great..

Yeah no one wants to be held down because their spouse ain't working. At least you can pay the utilities and groceries or something. When my ex and I were living together she was jobless and couldn't pay for shit-not even her own upkeep. She always played on the internet all day and did whatever the hell during the day. Even when she would make plans for vacations herself she wouldn't have the money to pay for it. I had to cut into my savings plenty of times because she couldn't get her shitbtogether. Now I'm blown I even wasted on her. Now she's doing the same thing to the new guy-she's been through 4 others since. Not good.