Opinion on this cancer man

So I've been dealing with this cancer man since February.. Keep in mind I'm a cancer too, June 24, he's July 3rd. We met last year at a party but we only started messing around late February. I'll try to make this short.
He messages me almost everyday and we talk for the whole day sometimes until we fall asleep. Nothing serious. My friend told me something about him, that he may have been using me earlier on Saturday which made me feel really weird so I kind of distanced myself. Anyway I went to this event on Saturday and he was there. I hugged him and whatnot but I really didn't have anything else to say to him as I was still feeling confused about what was told to me. I was upset for that reason and I was upset for something else but that has nothing to do with him. For the whole night he was with another girl and dancing with her right in front of my eyes. He kept coming to me and asking me what's wrong and I told him nothing. One of the times I told him that I would tell him later. I wasn't having a good time at all. I went to the bathroom and cried a few times also. When I came back one time he pulled me away so that he could find out what's wrong with me. (TMI: but he gets me so horny. He takes control so well and handles me so well which is why I'm super attracted to him). When he took me away he started to talk about how I'm not having a good time and I look upset all over the place and I need to have a good time. (He said it so roughly, it was hot). After this he also told me "I can't be the lovey dovey type if that's what you want. I don't want a relationship right now because I don't want to hurt you. If we get into a relationship I'm only going to hurt you and cheat on you and I don't want to do that" then he proceeded to touch me and feel me up and kiss me and said "If you want me to fuck you, I can fuck you but I can't give you a relationship". He just kept saying that. He said he wouldn't be the guy to tell me that he wants one just to fuck me. He also told me that he enjoys speaking to me and we can speak about anything and we're 'cool'. After the event, he texted me and asked if I'm okay. He said that I need to stop lying to him when something is bothering me. He also told me that I'm "too much of a nice and genuine girl" for him to hurt me and that we should just stay where we are so that I don't get hurt. He keeps texting me normally, like asking me how things went in my day etc.

So I just want an opinion on this whole situation. I

I feel.. I don't even know how I feel. I already cried as much as I could so I don't feel depressed anymore but I feel bad. I really wanted him. Is there any chance? I see some tendencies that might show something.

I would also like to add that he told me friend at the event "Why isn't she talking to me? Please talk to her and tell her to talk to me because I'm going crazy. I don't know what I did."

Well it seems he was playing games with You. If he really cared about you, he would have danced with you at that party. Plus you gotta start leaving other people out of uour relationship. It's between you & him. If you Don't like his behavior or something is bothering you, go talk to him. Let him know what's on your mind. He probably thinks you don't care or that nothing is wrong. So you wanna know wher weyou stand with him, go ask him. For now one, if you are worried, talk to him. His actions will reflect whether or not he values you ok. Don't hold back on your feelings. Be straight up with him. That's all I can say. Hope you feel better 🙂

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Well it seems he was playing games with You. If he really cared about you, he would have danced with you at that party. Plus you gotta start leaving other people out of uour relationship. It's between you & him. If you Don't like his behavior or something is bothering you, go talk to him. Let him know what's on your mind. He probably thinks you don't care or that nothing is wrong. So you wanna know wher weyou stand with him, go ask him. For now one, if you are worried, talk to him. His actions will reflect whether or not he values you ok. Don't hold back on your feelings. Be straight up with him. That's all I can say. Hope you feel better 🙂

Stop giving crap advice. Take your shit somewhere else.

July 3rd here and the guy seems genuine when he says he doesn't want a relationship. If I say that to a girl , I m being honest. Simple as that.

I can't lie to save my life. There is no fake shit from me...Eva! So go by his word, he means it.

the guy said what his intentions were.. so you two could have sex if you want - and of course, he is hoping for it..- but after that, you won't be able to talk about the relationship stuff, or be able to wanting it with him.. because later he'd come back with 'I have told you before that I wouldn't be able to have a relationship with you (but then you slept with me and that was YOUR choice, you knowing fully what you were getting into.. thus, your choice, furthermore & hence, not my responsibility for whatever aftermath ensues after sex.. because I have told you so! and YOU made the decision!)' .. this will be the scenario if you agree to have sex with the guy.. no matter how many long hours you and the guy text through out everyday, it's not a relationship unless both agree to become a boy and a girl friend.. and the guy has clearly told you about what status you and himself would have later on..

at least, he's being honest.. the reasons could be many things.. like he himself said that he did not want to see you hurting in the future (in case you have sex with him and so become want to be with him & clingy), he's making excuses for the future (when you have sex with him and start asking questions, he'll be ready to reason you with..what he just said at the party night) .. guys in general don't want to seem like an asshole lol no matter him being a player or not.. lol well, there are some guys who don't care what kind of reputations they get..but usually even if they just want benefits from a woman but not want to participate in any other thing.. they still want to be seen as a nice guy.. and actually you never know what one -a woman- could do once things go wrong.. 🙂
and this could explain why the guy asked you at the party that if something was wrong with you & why you looked upset.. because, well, he didn't want to be viewed as an outright jerk..
you don't really have to read too much into it.. guys do that quite a lot & often.. after all, they're human beings also and we don't want someone to hate ourselves, but want to be in favour..
I'm speaking this from what I have seen myself around my guy friends lol.. men usually can't hide what they want.. and most of the time they're very honest.. take face value what he says.. i.e., he said he did not want a relationship.. of course, there is a tiny chance that he might change his mind in the future..but I'm very positive that it will be very unlikely.. it'd be a better shot if you look for another guy

who's in for a relationship to begin with..

him having dancing away with another girl in front of you is.. he knows you're into him, also knows that himself interacting with another lady would make you insecure, upset.. thus make you think you would lose him if you don't do anything.. you cried.. that made you vulnerable..emotionally weak.. this is not a good sign at all.. I ask myself lots of times when I seem to drawn to a guy but feel something's off.. 'yea, right this person makes me excited and butterflies flutter in my stomach.. but why I feel powerless and weak around this person? .. okay, I admit that I'm attracted to this person and that's how I feel honestly, so I acknowledge it, but I also know that I cannot be with someone who makes me feel powerless, weak..who de-empowers me.. that's not good for me, and what's not good for me is not what I need in my life..'

roads you can take are..
tell him that you want a relationship and you see yours and his needs don't agree, thus there's no need to move things further.. then, you decide either remain friends with him or just walk.. I have done these myself..
or if you could & you want to sleep with him because he's the only guy makes you so horny.. then sleep with him but leave him first.. should be one timer.. the reason why I'm saying this is because, if it happens more than once and continues..then, from what I've read in your post, you'd end up hurting..like the guy himself said..and things would just get ugly, muddy..

Posted by xxixxi
who's in for a relationship to begin with..

him having dancing away with another girl in front of you is.. he knows you're into him, also knows that himself interacting with another lady would make you insecure, upset.. thus make you think you would lose him if you don't do anything.. you cried.. that made you vulnerable..emotionally weak.. this is not a good sign at all.. I ask myself lots of times when I seem to drawn to a guy but feel something's off.. 'yea, right this person makes me excited and butterflies flutter in my stomach.. but why I feel powerless and weak around this person? .. okay, I admit that I'm attracted to this person and that's how I feel honestly, so I acknowledge it, but I also know that I cannot be with someone who makes me feel powerless, weak..who de-empowers me.. that's not good for me, and what's not good for me is not what I need in my life..'

roads you can take are..
tell him that you want a relationship and you see yours and his needs don't agree, thus there's no need to move things further.. then, you decide either remain friends with him or just walk.. I have done these myself..
or if you could & you want to sleep with him because he's the only guy makes you so horny.. then sleep with him but leave him first.. should be one timer.. the reason why I'm saying this is because, if it happens more than once and continues..then, from what I've read in your post, you'd end up hurting..like the guy himself said..and things would just get ugly, muddy..

I was actually not crying over him lol.. The whole atmosphere made me overwhelmed because there was an ex of mine at the same party and something happened but this has nothing to do with this situation. I just got really overwhelmed with everything happening. I knew that I couldn't get mad over him dancing with someone else because he's not mine. I only cried for a bit because that's me. I'm mostly over it now. I have accepted that it is what it is. I'll just go with the flow and see what happens but I won't allow my feelings to get involved. I won't have sex with him for sure because there's where I will start getting hurt and I already know that.
I just thought that *maybe* he actually cared since it seemed as though he was trying to make me jealous. As I said though, I'm not going to push it. I'll leave it alone.

Posted by krebbsmann
I can't lie to save my life. There is no fake shit from me...Eva! So go by his word, he means it.

Thank you and I will

I also believe that especially since summer is coming up he wants to be free and have fun, which I understand. I've also felt this way before.

Keeloo) don't need to say much more than what krebbsman an xxixxi said except one thing.

He obviously respects you enough to be honest with you.
Go find another guy.

@krebbsman you need to chill the hell out ok. Idk what your problem is, but I ment no harm here. I was only trying to help. I never said my advice was great or anything. At least I tried to be helpful. But since you wanna be mean, ill let you give all the advice. A lil kindness can go a long way.

How old are the two of you? Just curious.

Posted by kim30
How old are the two of you? Just curious.

I'm 19.. He's 20.. We're pretty young

There is a lot to read through here. So
you were upset because he just wants to fuck, you want more but you're OK now?

Posted by kim30
There is a lot to read through here. So
you were upset because he just wants to fuck, you want more but you're OK now?

I was upset because of many things, but I was just a bit disappointed when he said he didn't want a relationship