Need insight after first date with Cancer male

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Stares on Monday, May 5, 2014 and has 12 replies.

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@Stares
13 Years

Hello. Here's my story, will try max short-spoken.
We met on FB, never seen before. Started to chat last november, it went medium intense, then moved to pretty intensive Skype conversations. Fine, high intelligent, sometimes nasty talks??_ With a texting pause of my side for 2 months, at the weekend we finally met, he asked me out.
I told him I am very, very shy person (a cancer female too), I am brave talkative on internet, but it's hard for me to be the same in reality.

Ok, so we met. My god - he was so diferent then in chatting??_ He was polite, masculine, friendly, talkative, BUT demonstrate so damn brutal sexuality, say, cmon let's have a sex and then talking about cinema going and so on??_ This was said very playfully, but??_ I didn't feel that kind of soulfull convos that we had on FB. He was so obscene! I felt like he's Kazanova or smtg like that, but in our previos convos he gave impression looking for —that real One to love??. Previously he gave an impression of SHY, highly sensitive, fearing of rejection guy. In real life I didn't see that tender soul - this was some callous macho man??_

Well I like him as a handsome (god, he's most good looking guy I ever seen) man, but his brutality just scared me and I was reserved, quiet, shy and did not show that I like him. Randezvous ended without kissing, without any physical touch.

So the date was over, and the next day he asked (Skype) me how that evening ended to me and said —Thank you for yesterday's meeting, maybe someday again??_ 😉??

MAYBE. SOMEDAY. !!!!!!!!! and with this - 😉 - smiley.

Without a question mark at the end of sentence! How to translate that kind of behavior on first date? Dear cancerians, how to translate his last text on skype?? I??am desperate a little, because can not be sure about??_ nothing! Is this a mask? Or is he just a fucker? Is he interested in me?

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@Stares
13 Years

😄 You ar female, damn, I can't trust to your opinion! 😄

But he hasn't initiate the next date, he just said thanks for this one.. And to be honest, he is very polite, good educated guy. So it could mean that there will be no another date.. 😢

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@Este8
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by J9
He's 15% interested, 85% just wants to get laid. Sorry.

+100. For me, talking sexy on the first date is real no-no. Of course he's interested in your sexually but to put it out there like that shows a lack of respect and reveals his true interest in you: sexual. Take this is a learning lesson about online relationships. They can appear real but they are not. You both put forth an ideal image of each other and what you're buying into is a fantasy, not reality. Save the internet chat for friends and take your time to get to know any potential suitor. That's the ticket.

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@Stares
13 Years

Ok, ok, some nasty things there was, bet there were also a convos that I'm not a type that fucks on the first date, even at the third there is small possibility... so he knew! Thats why I can not understand his provocative behavior, he knew all the stuff.

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@ScorpioFish
15 Years1,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Posted by ScorpioFish
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
What J9 said.

Hey asshole, welcome back.

Still cyberstalking people and posting their personal information all over the place?

You have the wrong individual.
That should be addressed to J9

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Whatever you say, pal.

Given the near identical postings from you two douche-bag idiots, it's often difficult to tell who disgraces the decent Cancers around here more.