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Hey girl.. where are yah?

Here I am...Cancerlady in da house!

What chu need shawty?

Leans on cancerleady's panzer:

Knock, knock, knock...you there dudette! LOL!

UUUUGGGGHHHH....Plop
UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHH...Plop,
Tinkle, tinkle, tinkle

"I wouldn't go in there for at least 35-45 minutes...Somebody open a window!"

LOL!

See what happens.. I leave for 3-4 hours.. you guys have fun without me.. 😢

Anyway.. Hey chick..
How's it going? You got quiet for awhile. Just wanted to know where you disappeared to.

Or maybe I've just been reading the wrong boards.

Naw, I been on Black Planet & Plenty of Fish.com meeting with the BOYZ! I put a new picture up and got so many replies I didn't know what to do! I am a sucker for a pretty face, and there are tons there. I didn't mean to leave you guys! I LOVE YOU!!!! ((Group HUG)) I do need some advice...Why are Pisces men so crazy? Here's the scenario...

I met this guy about 1 yr ago...We had instant everything, like we had know each other in another life or something. I had no furniture, no bed, a 12 in TV, sleeping on blankets on the hardwood floor & he still stayed with me for the weekend. I knew it wasn't about sex b/c after the first night nature prevented me from that.

Then he disappeared for a week, and came back. For a while this happened & I would see him maybe once or twice a month. I asked him if he was married, he said no. His job has him travelling alot & he can't see me as much. He was the only man who was able to completely take my mind off Mr. Libra. He is a sturdy 6'5" (me 5'5") so when he holds me, I feel so safe & wonderful. The only problem is everytime I show active interest in him, he acts funny. But for example, he was supposed to come over after work one time, and he didn't answer my call when I called & never called me untilI left him a message saying "I am horny & I am going to get some whether you are here or not!" Then he came over banging on the door acting all jealous. Of course I didn't have anyone over there, but I was tired of this $ hit!

When he is around he is the best! The only problem is he has been coming by like twice a month, for a couple days. But lately, he has been coming alot more & staying & becoming more active in my life. I told him I don't have to & won't chase him. What do you guys, especially Pisces think...Is he lying? If you need more info, let me know...this is getting kinda long.

Is everybody else okay? I gotta go spread more opinions. 🙂

Cancerlady

Oh.. so that's it? You're leaving to meet some hot guy on BP? Well.. FINE!!!

But anywho-- I don't know if he's cheating or not, but I had a friend who was in a very similar situation. He would disappear for week.. or a few weeks at a time. Phone calls changed to e-mails that changed to just text messages. Turns out the guy had the mother of his child living with him. At first, it truly was a platonic arrangement, but then she got pregnant again.

I tell you like I told her-- let him go. I've dated men who have had jobs that required them to travel a lot.... and generally, we talked about where he was going- or what he was doing. There was rarely a time longer than a day or so where I felt like he "disappeared".

Also, seems like you're already exploring other options which is good. Good luck, hon.
(((((( hugs ))))))))

He just dont know how to handle this "stuff".

Hey there! Continuing with Mr. Pisces saga...

He has been over 3/4 days this weekend. I don't know if this is the reason, but I have Mr. Taurus (a strictly platonic friend) living with me for a minute til he gets on his feet. Since then I have seen Mr. Pisces more times this weekend than I have in a long time. For me, it's not that he travels or is not there as much...The problem lies in that he wants me to be his "woman" and not see anyone else.

We had this conversation a couple of months ago when I told him it I never considered us boyfriend/girlfriend and that I had been seeing other men besides him. He said he thought that I was only with him & that made him "in another place with me" I told him it was damn near impossible to be monogamous with someone who is never there. It's not his money I want, its him! I guess he is used to dealing with golddiggers.

I could just be cut buddies with him, although it has been over a year, I have kept my heart at a distance. I let him know what it could be like, but I also let him know I am not, nor do I have to chase him. Just a few days ago, we had another serious convo. I asked him did he know what it was like to be in love with someone who doesn't give a damn about you...He said he didn't know I cared so much. Since then, and since I have made myself less available (even going so far as to not answer his calls, then when I do I am very cold) he is so acting right! You don't have to be under me 24/7 for me to feel loved. He is calling me more, asking about my day, & letting me into his life more. I could handle his behavior, but I don't want to let my heart go & he starts acting like before.

My stars have predicted a long term relationship in my midst, and I have several excellent candidate, I just want to pick the right one. I don't want to not trust him because he is not under me all the time. I have a sporadic schedule also, I just want to feel loved. He makes me feel that way whenever we are together & recently even when we are apart. He is EVERYTHING I have ever asked for in a man, so I have to at least see if it is worth my time. Oh but ladies PLEASE BELIEVE I ALWAYS, ALWAYS have a back-up plan 😉

Opinions Please! I am going to post this on the Pisces Board also.

Cancerlady

I've never had a relationship with a Pieces, but I've heard that they're excellent in bed. Try anything, deep, emotional, etc.

I'd say his jealousy is definitely up.

Back up plan.....I remember when I did, every time.

I'd say, if he wants you to be his only woman, what does he think he has to offer that would keep your interest for the rest of your life? What does he see in you?

You know you have him now if you want him.

Hey Cancerlady, glad to hear from you. I agree with ladydane on this one.. but on the up-side, at least he's talking to you about it. Even though talking will get his foot in the door- talk is cheap-- he needs to show you that he wants you to be #1. Good luck!

Thanks Ladydane & Seizetheday,

I mean he is REALLY acting right now, and I don't know what to do. It has been a couple of weeks since our second talk and he has been so perfect. The only thing that was wrong with him before was that he wasn't around enough for me to call him my boyfriend, but he wanted that status. He is caring, affectionate, smart & street-wise but I can also take him to one of my work-related functions.

I am so scared that it won't last...I already put my cards on the table by telling him I loved him (which THANK GOD turned out for the better) He returned the sentiment and has been backing it up by doing all that I have asked of him since the beginning. I crave love, attention, & affection & he gives me all of that. I just don't want to get wrapped up into him and he changes. Should I keep my heart at a distance or throw more caution to the wind & give him my trust?

Cancerlady

You know, if there's anything I ever wanted to do with a man, it's to totally surrender to him. Hardest thing in the world.

Ask him what his intentions are. Tell him exactly what you want, no BS.

If he can take it, he can do it.

Ladydane,

Actually it's not hard for me to fully surrender myself to a man, he11 sometimes I lose myself always trying to make sure my man is happy. The hard part is letting go once I do that if they start acting a fool. On second thought though, it isn't hard for me to totally surrender myself to someone I love or feel like we could grow together. But those people are so few & far between...I guess that's why I've only had two boyfriends in my life, both lasting 8 months.

I am going to do as you said though, and I'll keep you posted.

Cancerlady

I'm flattered. Thank you. 🙂 If me being a CS major turns your on.. I can send you my survey paper on building an artificial neural network.

Ok branh, I'll send it to you- but if the pages are sticking together, I won't want it back.

Thanks for the compliment. 🙂