AngelaMcDaniel
@AngelaMcDaniel
12 YearsLibra
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PLEASE HELP ME!!!! Why is my cancer man pull away
also, I stay there 2 nights and then every other weekend when he doesnt have his kids I stay again. I sometimes feel like I am doing all the planning and he is like ok. Would he be doing all this stuff if he didnt want me??
could be the cooking every sunday and staying over every sunday....whose idea is that?
Posted by AngelaMcDaniel
also, I stay there 2 nights and then every other weekend when he doesnt have his kids I stay again. I sometimes feel like I am doing all the planning and he is like ok. Would he be doing all this stuff if he didnt want me??
this answered my question.
your too available and stop cooking every sunday.
They want to be coddled. Not good at reciprocating in my book.
Why don't you share your fears and ask him where he's at in this relationship? I think that's something you need to do if you're going to move forward. What do you have to lose asking the questions? Secondly, it sounds like you're doing too much if he's coasting and your making all the moves. This would be something else to bring up in conversation. You've got issues but then again so do all couples. You need to be talking this out with HIM. I know it's hard to do but until you do, you won't really know where you stand and what means what. No reading the tea leaves. Have the con-vo you know you need to have with him about this. Good luck!
The reason I cook every week is one his ex wife that he has been divorced from for 4 years never did. I want to show him that he deserves to be taken care of in that way. I dont know he is weird. Liek sometimes hes trying to tell me he wants something (anything, like make his food grab a beer go to dinner) without actually saying it. He will text me with "Im hungry" and what am I supposed to know that he wants to go to dinner? Or I will cook at we will be sitting in the living room just having random conversation, he would just be getting off of work, then he takes a shower comes and site back down and what am I supposed to get his food? Hell he doesnt ask so I dont do. But when I finally say things like what you want to go out to dinner hes like well DUH! How in the heck am I suppose to know—
also, is there reasons I should know why we dont have alot of sex? I know he works hard and loooonnnnggg hours, and well on the weekends that I stay we do.....
ANd this, he always texts me when he gets off work just to say he got off... is he interested or not—
ANd this, he always texts me when he gets off work just to say he got off... is he interested or not—
Why don't you share your fears and ask him where he's at in this relationship? I think that's something you need to do if you're going to move forward. What do you have to lose asking the questions? Secondly, it sounds like you're doing too much if he's coasting and your making all the moves. This would be something else to bring up in conversation. You've got issues but then again so do all couples. You need to be talking this out with HIM. I know it's hard to do but until you do, you won't really know where you stand and what means what. No reading the tea leaves. Have the con-vo you know you need to have with him about this. Good luck!
I am afraid that if I ask then I will be pushing him.....
I am afraid that if I ask then I will be pushing him.....
Posted by AngelaMcDaniel
The reason I cook every week is one his ex wife that he has been divorced from for 4 years never did. I want to show him that he deserves to be taken care of in that way. I dont know he is weird. Liek sometimes hes trying to tell me he wants something (anything, like make his food grab a beer go to dinner) without actually saying it. He will text me with "Im hungry" and what am I supposed to know that he wants to go to dinner? Or I will cook at we will be sitting in the living room just having random conversation, he would just be getting off of work, then he takes a shower comes and site back down and what am I supposed to get his food? Hell he doesnt ask so I dont do. But when I finally say things like what you want to go out to dinner hes like well DUH! How in the heck am I suppose to know—
read why men love bitches
its cool every once in a while but it shouldnt be expected or demanded. and if he isnt appreciative then it should stop all together. sounds like your walking on egg shells over there tho
Posted by AngelaMcDaniel
The reason I cook every week is one his ex wife that he has been divorced from for 4 years never did. I want to show him that he deserves to be taken care of in that way. I dont know he is weird. Like sometimes hes trying to tell me he wants something (anything, like make his food grab a beer go to dinner) without actually saying it. He will text me with "Im hungry" and what am I supposed to know that he wants to go to dinner? Or I will cook at we will be sitting in the living room just having random conversation, he would just be getting off of work, then he takes a shower comes and site back down and what am I supposed to get his food? Hell he doesnt ask so I dont do. But when I finally say things like what you want to go out to dinner hes like well DUH! How in the heck am I suppose to know—
What year is this?
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by AngelaMcDaniel
The reason I cook every week is one his ex wife that he has been divorced from for 4 years never did. I want to show him that he deserves to be taken care of in that way. I dont know he is weird. Like sometimes hes trying to tell me he wants something (anything, like make his food grab a beer go to dinner) without actually saying it. He will text me with "Im hungry" and what am I supposed to know that he wants to go to dinner? Or I will cook at we will be sitting in the living room just having random conversation, he would just be getting off of work, then he takes a shower comes and site back down and what am I supposed to get his food? Hell he doesnt ask so I dont do. But when I finally say things like what you want to go out to dinner hes like well DUH! How in the heck am I suppose to know—
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Posted by AngelaMcDaniel
I am afraid that if I ask then I will be pushing him.....
Then you're coming from a place of fear and disempowering yourself. That's the real issue here preventing you from discussing problems in your relationship. If you want a real relationship with this man, you gotta step up to the plate and level with him about what's bugging you. Trying to be everything he wants and resenting him for taking you for granted is getting you nowhere fast. Feel the fear but broach the conversation anyway. That's what you gotta do if you want to get this rela back on track. Communication is key but so is balance in a relationship. If he loves you, he will hear what you say and try to meet you half way. If he doesn't love you, you're just stalling for time. Take back your power and have the con-vo you know you need to have. Good luck!
He did cook for me first, pulled me in. There is something about this man that I like. I get all worried about how hes feeling. What I can do to make him happy while Im pushing my happiness aside. I havent messaged him today. But I also dont want him to think I abandoned him. I have my own insecurities and right now they are being tapped in to. Thanks for all the advice.... please keep them coming....
CluelessCancer
8/27/2013 9:48:15 PM Quote | IP
CluelessCancer
Revolutionary. Don't like the Status Quo
Posted by mr.crabby
What year is this?
LMAO, its 1886 shhhhh, no seriously there's some old souls around here, nice to see.
Thank you. I do feel like I have an old soul. Just putting out there I am a libra and we try to find balance in everything we do. See the other side. But I am wearing thin.....
Posted by SugarfootPosted by AngelaMcDaniel
CluelessCancer
8/27/2013 9:48:15 PM Quote | IP
CluelessCancer
Revolutionary. Don't like the Status Quo
Posted by mr.crabby
What year is this?
LMAO, its 1886 shhhhh, no seriously there's some old souls around here, nice to see.
Thank you. I do feel like I have an old soul. Just putting out there I am a libra and we try to find balance in everything we do. See the other side. But I am wearing thin.....
No wonder you sound just like me. He reeled me in then started pulling away. I know there's something that feels sweet about knowing someone needs you. And, that you're giving someone the happiness you feel they deserve. But, it's like este said. You can't do it at your own expense. You deserve to be happy too. You should demand that you're treated with the same love and care that you treat him. If not, he will only keep taking you for granted and acting like everything's ok when it's not.
Stand up for yourself and remember that if he's not capable or willing to treat you well, someone else will be happy to. Hell, you'd be better off alone than sitting there stressed out over what the hell is goin on inside his thick skull.click to expand
demanding aint gonna do shit
you should read why men love bitches too
Posted by SugarfootPosted by bkbella86Posted by SugarfootPosted by AngelaMcDaniel
CluelessCancer
8/27/2013 9:48:15 PM Quote | IP
CluelessCancer
Revolutionary. Don't like the Status Quo
Posted by mr.crabby
What year is this?
LMAO, its 1886 shhhhh, no seriously there's some old souls around here, nice to see.
Thank you. I do feel like I have an old soul. Just putting out there I am a libra and we try to find balance in everything we do. See the other side. But I am wearing thin.....
No wonder you sound just like me. He reeled me in then started pulling away. I know there's something that feels sweet about knowing someone needs you. And, that you're giving someone the happiness you feel they deserve. But, it's like este said. You can't do it at your own expense. You deserve to be happy too. You should demand that you're treated with the same love and care that you treat him. If not, he will only keep taking you for granted and acting like everything's ok when it's not.
Stand up for yourself and remember that if he's not capable or willing to treat you well, someone else will be happy to. Hell, you'd be better off alone than sitting there stressed out over what the hell is goin on inside his thick skull.
demanding aint gonna do shit
you should read why men love bitches too
Lol. I did. Very funny book.
When I said demand I didn't mean she should state her demands to him. I meant she should have certain standards for herself. and that she will walk if she doesn't have them met,click to expand
lol, ok now I get it
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