Please Tell Me This Is Normal...

hello. Lately my cancer has been nothing but sweet, anything I could ever wanted. (as aforementioned in other post: clingy, moody bcoz im far from him lol etc) but i cant shake this strange feeling that things are going extreeeeemely FAST for me. We just hooked up after years of chasing each other and are in a lax relationship ie just enjoying the moment, go w the flow,see where this leads etc

Here's the thing: i will spend xmas with him ...and he wants to bring me to his hometown (1 hour flight away from stockholm) and meet his family (mom, stepdad, sisters) a few days after my arrival.


To be honest, first thought was "whoaa, isnt this going too fast?"...


I asked him if he was sure and he said yes and that he wouldnt go unless i do too. Knowing how close he is to his family esp his mom, I said yes; partly bcoz i want to and also coz i know this will please him.(correct me if im wrong)


We have already discussed weeks before that I will be joining his other family (dad, dad's parents, brother, uncle) for xmas dinner -- can you imagine how nervewrecking this was, is and will be for me? and now..he added that I will get to meet his mom too...


I can assure you i am so very happy but i cant ,for the life of me, help but feel scared. i mean, is it just me, being a slow but sure capricorn? or is it a norm for cancers to go this fast?

and if so, WHY? What does it mean?




I love him so much I cant bear the thought of him, us going thru all this and have it mean nothing...girls,guys, enlighten me --- does this gesture mean anything? or is it just TYPICAL for cancer/western guys?


I dont know abt you, but meeting a boyfriend's parents is a big thing for me coz in the long run, it will play a part, regardless of how big or small it is..



please.informations ppl~



thank u

Well it certainly means he cares about you! Cancers out a certain value on family and traditions! So you are getting two in one! You are not only having dinner with his family it is Christmas dinner! This means that he cares about you enough to introduce you to his family and I wouldn't say its for nothing!

Sounds like you need to ask yourself if you are doing it for nothing? You sound unsure of your feelings and if you have known eachother for two years there is no such thing as moving to fast in his eyes he knows you and he is comfortable with you!

I suppose it is true that some things are too good to be true =)

It is fast in a sense that, we have established earlier this month that we do want to be together which is great. but i wouldnt have thought id get to meet the family in under 4 months.

but honestly, is this trait familiar to ALL guys? and not just cancer?

hey honeygirl,


"Sounds like you need to ask yourself if you are doing it for nothing? "


hmmm you mean me having it easy and it would be highly likely for me to take it for granted?

I don't think you would take it for granted! Just that you sound unsure of the relationship! You are questioning his motives but sounds like you are questioning your own! You think you are moving too fast! In my eyes if I knew someone for two years and then decided to persue a relationship with that person there would be no such thing as moving too fast! Would you think he was moving too slow if everything wasn't as perfect as it is now? He has a certain level of comfortability with you because he's know you so long! It is a plus in your relationship! Trust me its not for nothing on his end! He wants his family's approval of you! And whatever you do make friends with mom and the whole family! don't be shy! Just be comfortable and casual! You will do fine!

Moon_eyes, Honeygirl, I cant thank u gurls enough=D yes i just feel weird, it just seems..i dont know, like I'm cheating by jumping a couple of steps lol..

my insecurities and suspicions get the better of me sometimes

aww thank u scorpsting - i appreciate all the help i can get hehe

oh god, to be honest, as much as i love him, i dont want to give in too easily to him, even if we haf been doing this dance for years.

i suppose my capri nature is just used to taking things slooow and steady until i feel stable, sure enough that im not innit just for 'fun'.


i think my minds confused abt this bcoz b4 he just wants us to keep it casual, see where this goes etc.. and it took awhile for me to digest that bcoz, as u couldve guessed, me being in love wanted more.

NOW ive already considered the matter and i find that i actually like it: getting enough attention as well as doing my own thing, not totally committed.


then WHAM- he wants me to meet his family.


haha that really gave me a good shake, hence the enquiry=)


but i guess that means good news huh?=P

hehe in case thank you, i WILL enjoy this and still take it one step at a time, until my heart is totally secure with love from my cancer=D which i guess wont take long anyway


but on the off chance that i am wrong, we shall continue a similar discussion again haha


thanks u lot

To answer your question from a male's point of view...

NO, this is NOT normal.
Its good in the best way!
There will come a point where YOU won't be able to stop him from coming after you.
He is about to take you for a really fun ride... the only advice you need, is to not take advantage of his kindness... and don't hide who you are... if you do, things will get ugly.

...let me clear up the point I was trying to get across.
I acted the same with my ex-wife in the beginning (went to any length I had to, to let her know that I was for her and didn't hold anything back). The thing is, SHE treated me as if I was a weakling because I always gave her what she wanted (I didn't have nearly as many preferences as she had so it was easy for her to get her way) and I thought her having her way would make her happy. Over time she showed me that the woman I met was not the woman I married. (She's 'bad seed' classified btw)

Whereas "normal" would be:
He's afraid to get in too deep so soon. (cautious crab [in the love/commitment arena] sound familiar... because THAT would be "NORMAL")

...Translation- He's diggin' the hell out of you and he's sure you're "it..." don't disappoint him. (Or his mommy 😉LOL)

I lost my vi-v-vi-vir-vir-g-g-ginity to her... so no, as much as I should have, I didn't.
**shrugs shoulders**

...on the contrary,

'Legally' I am.

"There will come a point where YOU won't be able to stop him from coming after you."


I guess you are right=D thank u shell.I just want to be extra careful, is all. but abt having things my way -- Im glad u mentioned it, will need that as a reminder 😄 I always try to make him feel like 'the man' hehe but we are so alike that most of the time it doesnt matter what the other does so long as both are comfortable with it.


I remember on our way to heathrow, I said: i think you are the kind of guy who likes being taken care of but dont like being controlled.

and that suprised him lol


Lately he kept mentioning abt us living together *cute* that he wanted me to 'be a burden' to him.
[which right now is impossible btw cos my uni is in uk and he works in stockholm😛]


Fingers crossed when i meet his mom!=D



Aww scorpsting=D I feel you hun!

"There will come a point where YOU won't be able to stop him from coming after you."


HAHA Shell, i cant stop reading this; i find it deliciously satisfying...no, satisfaction is not even close lol.. i love being chaaased=D

by the man i love😄

Haha thank you but no thanks, haven't you heard? Capricorn women are tres tres domestic - one of the reasons why men fall in love with them=D I know the way to a man's heart is thru his stomach lol

Really moon eyes? by the time i received them, all thats left are crumbs haha

haha i've read somewhere that capricorns make : great mothers, domestic wives, lovers lol

Personally i think its one's upbringing =D my stepmom's a great chef hehe


i sure would love some of fallstar's cake right now...extra icing pls