QUESTION

are most cancers quiet...———??

My Fave Cwab is!

He won't answer my posts!

Star

being a quintessential cancer male, we are somewhat reserved until it is "safe" to come out of the shell, then look out! When we are comfortable and trust our surroundings, then we feel it is safe to play. Don't prejudge cancer's quiet nature for anything - your friend is just testing the waters before he/she feels like it is safe, that's all.

Cancers are good people -

I'll answer your posts Star!

Cancers can be quite shy at first, especially when young. Then something happens to them. I think it's a accumulation of all those full moons. Eventually we become quite zany, funny and mischevious. :-) (But we have to have a secret place where we hide. We won't tell you where its at!...shhhhhhh)
CL

we tend to appear calm and quiet especially when we are in new surroundings and unfamiliar settings. Some people mistake that 'quiet'ness as being snobbish or stuck up! We are pretty observant; just taking things in...when we are comfortable in our environment we can become quite chatty, and witty!

Hi!
Yes, I am still fascinated with Cancerians! I think it is because being the only sign ruled by the Moon, you are set apart...
Not that it is a bad thing...just that I find you more complex...
While Leos are the only sign ruled by the sun..I do not find them complex...just baby them, cater to them, compliment them, appreciate them...and they will be happy! (I am not speaking ill of Leo...just saying what works)...
Cancer stumps me! It is the one sign that does...
Yet, I have had some Cancer friends who didn't seem as complex as others...

166.77, you can answer my posts anytime!
Take Care!
Star

RIGHT..WELL IF(KEYWORD HERE: IF) UR SAYING THAT IM PREJUDGING THEN ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS DIS..IS DAT U PISS ME OFF, DONT FUKIN SAY IM JUDGING CANCERZ. CUZ IM JUST ASKING A SIMPLE QUESTION, DAYAM, U SAY IM PREJUDGING?? LOOK AT U, SAYING SH*T BEFORE U EVEN KNO WUT DA FUCK IM ASKIN. DONT BE SUCH A HYPOCRITE, OKAY ^^ AND IF UR NOT, THEN IM SORRIEZ, HAHAHAHA

Hello?
I do not feel anyone responded by saying you were prejudging, but were trying to answer your question...

And, I perhaps, did not actually answer your question at all, but, merely expressed my own fascination with a sign that is more complex to me...

I do not understand your response in the end..

Star

Star - This is 166.77 -
Yes, we are complex, you're right. I am a gay male. (cancer male). I am strong, masculine, confident, yet very senstive, and I chew on my feelings until my teeth fall out. I am just coming out of a relationship with someone that I truly did love. I wish I wasn't so sensitive and emotional at times, because I would have an easier time "moving on". But, being sensitive and emotional is gift from God, so how can it be wrong, right?
Star - you're so cute.

Hi!

Sorry to hear of your recent break-up...how long were you together? Why can't people stay together, do you suppose?

Yes, you are right that without those "sensitive" qualities, you wouldn't be as "in tune" with your partners feelings and therefore the "best" they could ever find! So, why do people break up? I still have not figured out why..even though there are so many reasons!! But, it just seems that people should just focus on being happy, doesn't it? Instead, many are searching for that "something more"...I am a nurse and work with many negative nurses...they are always looking for "greener grass"...thing is, there is none! But, they cannot just be happy...when they ask me what my future plans are, I say, "I'm going to be a nurse"...of course, they laugh! But, they really don't get exactly what I mean...sure, I am making light of it when I say it that way, but, I am really saying that I am happy where I am at...not that it is always easy! But, that is why you gotta be happy and laugh once in awhile, right?!

Sorry, went on their for a bit...
But, some of my very favorite friends are gay males...I am just so comfortable and they are so nonjudgemental...and funny! We laugh and laugh!

I loved how you explained that you chew on your emotions so much that your teeth fall out! (Good description!)

Oh...and thanks for thinking I am "cute"...
Star

Hey Star-

I think the "grass may be greener" philosphy fits the bill of why he broke it off. I think, my friends think, my family thinks, and new people I am meeting think that I am a great guy, and great catch. My ex knows that I am a good person, inside and out, but unfortunately, he never gave my a chance to really "show" my stuff. It was hard for me, yes, but I have found some really incredible strength, and have grown so much as person in the 2 1/2 months since I have been single. I will always love him, but this is truly his loss, and I hear he is having a hard time.

I would agree that it is his loss...

I know what you mean about not being given a chance to really "show your stuff"!

You Go Guy!
Go out into the world and be strong! Give yourself some time before jumping into a relationship...be good to you for awhile and focus your wonderful energy on you! You will be stronger for it!

Take Care!
Star

I will thanks. Not ready for a relationship yet. Just having fun, and thank Almighty God for my family and friends. I Love them dearly. It's been a hard, painful road, but I can feel myself begin to "shine" once more.
Thank you Star Sweetheart - you're fun to chat with!

Hey!

I like chatting with you too!
I must say, things are going so great for me right personally and professionally that I have to pinch myself! (and knock on wood!) You know, it is odd, but when things are looking up, we always think we will jinx it if we admit it...but, if things are going badly, we accept it as the way it is?!
Something to ponder!

I do have some freak of a woman who managed to upset me on these boards...I wish not...but, she did! Usually, I am cool and can discuss issues...but, she is very hateful and it is specifically directed at me! Kind of threw me, because I specifically work on being a positive, loving individual...

The really sad part to me is that some of my friends stuck up for me and now she is treating them like they are scum and saying awful things! That hurts me more than if she just attacks me! (But, perhaps she knows that...)

Sad! She must have suffered great pain to have to strike out so at others...

I still have not managed to believe "Sticks and Stones..."
After all if a person can shut off their emotions and not feel hurt...then how can they be able to give love freely?

However, I am a big girl...and will ignore her...it is all I can do!

Well, thanks for letting me vent!

Take Care!
Oh...and Keep Shining!!
Star

Hey star baby - you can vent all you want. That's what the boards are here for. I went to a palm reader yesterday (for the hell of it). She told me some very intersting things. What do you think of all that junk? She hit some things "right on the head" without me saying anything. Anyway Star, don't fret too much on this woman on the boards, she doesn't know you, and not everyone is as loving and emotional as we are.

Hey! Hi!

You are right, I will not fret! I suspect it is a man posing as a female anyway...funny things people do!

I think palm reading is fun! But, I do think there are some who are sincere and some who are not...as with anything I suppose...
My friend who reads for fun..not a means to make a living...once told me in confidence that she makes up all the "bullshit", but, then she laughed...and so much of what she told others rang true...I think she has a gift but has not recognized it within herself...
But, yeah, I like to do that kind of stuff..
I have had some study the lines and some who just focus their energy on mine...most often I am not disappointed, but I do take it with a grain of salt also...
Have you heard that song "World's Greatest"? I love that song...that is how I wish everyone felt about themselves...but, there will always be people who misunderstand, won't there? Sad, but, true! Anyway, if you get a chance to listen to the words, you will know what I mean...
Take Care!
Thanks for being a friend!
Star

Star baby - There were so many things that the palm reader said that were so true, and I didn't have to say anything. She said my "ex" will try to renter my life and pursue another "try" at it. UGH! I hope I am past that. The pain I experienced must account for something. I feel a brighter future - with career goals and such - I must concentrate on right now. Star - I do miss him alot - I haven't had any contact in three months, but I know it is really best for me in the moving on process. The palm reader also said (and gave initials) about people who are interested in me. (and she was right). She said "we" have an emotional and spiritual attachment to each other (ex), that's why it is not over. Oh, but it has to be. Love chatting with you.

I must admit, for me, that would be the hardest thing to do..to go back. If the other cheated...well, I do not know how I could completely trust.
But, it must be a huge life lesson! And the person who could do it would be bigger than I am....by bigger, I mean more understanding and forgiving.
The one thing to keep in mind...as with anything...there is free choice...
Many readers tell what they see or feel and then remind that there is free choice...
You may choose to return to this relationship because of the emotional and spiritual connection or not return to it based on what you know of the past and the uncertainty of the future...
Keep in mind that I am Aquarius and the thing we are most afraid of is LOVE and losing control over our emotions...
The future is uncertain for all of us no matter what road we choose...

Take Care!
Star

Hey star - I totally agree with you. I don't think if the opportunity arose, I would go back to him as a boyfriend. All the pain and suffering had to account for something, and NO, I would not trust him. However, I must realize that we are two different people with different needs. I have grown from all this, and hopefully he has in some way. Revisiting the past with him, only revisits the pain. (been there, done that). I hope we can be friends someday. I know he is in a self-discovery period in his life, and has much to learn. I know he is at a confused point in his life. There is no doubt that he doesn't love and care about me, I know that he does. Our relationship flowed like a river. It has taken me a long time to get to this point of peace. I know there is someone else out there who can fulfill all my needs. (hopefully not another virgo). ha ha - Love ya sTAR!

Hi!
Life is so easy and yet so hard, isn't it? Complicated...that is what it is!

So, what about the idea that a Cancer is still hanging on (with one claw) after a relationship ends? Any truth to that? Just curious.

I like it best when relationships can end in friendship if they must end...

I don't remember if I told you that my daughter's father is Cancer. There are times when he says something or looks at me a certain way that I wonder what he is thinking...but, I never ask or go there! If I were to look into his eyes too long during one of those spells..I could lose my grip!! Cancers do have dreamy eyes! Ah...but, life must go on! And forward it must be! (At least for me!)
Anyway, before I sidetracked myself(!) I was going to say that he and I are really good friends now, and function separately, and yet, together, as parents, and I cherish the growth we have both had through this whole experience.

Yes, friendship is the best ending...when a couple must part...

Keep in Touch!
Star

Star - I think there will always be one claw hanging on where my ex is concerned. I loved him with my heart!
It's going on 4 months since I've seen or spoken to him. Sometimes, I can't believe that I have gone this long. I just can't though. I truly hope someday that we can be friends, however we said "goodbye" thru email to each other.
I must move on without him now, and he must do the same. I really don't know what's going on with him, but he has alot to figure out. I just can't be a part of it. I do miss him alot - we had so much fun and inside jokes - He could say something, and I knew exactly what he meant and was thinking - that other's had no clue except us. We had a very intimate friendship. I do miss him - but can't be part of his sexcapades - sad..but true.

Oh! I see what you mean! To me, the most intimate a couple can get is the "inside jokes", the "small moments" of shared laughter, knowing what the other is thinking, being able to complete each other's sentences...but, not doing so, out of courtesy! Of course, it also is fantastic sex! But, it is shared only by the two of you and is very private...
Hmmm...You suppose that is why I am single— LOl!

Take Care!
Star

Do you think he suffers from self-esteem issues? How does his family treat him? Is he trying to make up for love and attention somehow...from his growing up years??

What do you think?

I think he very much suffers from low self esteem and insecrity problems. He does come from a dysfunctional family and had an unpleasant childhood. I think he is afraid to truly love, which I DID give him wholeheartedly. I know he trusted me, felt secure, comfort, and safe, but that wasn't enough. I think the only way for him to feel secure is to feel "desired" by other men. He lost me in the transition. I can't be part of this behavior. I know he is in a self discovery stage. It's almost like we both had to lose each other for growth's sake. It was just very hard on me, but I won't compromise
my beliefs and values. I had to cut away from him - totally. Very, very hard!

I still care for him very much - and wonder how he is doing. I wonder if he feels the loss, or is he so wrapped up in his "new" life.

I think there is often a bit of regret, even coming from the party who causes the breakup...don't you? I mean there will always be memories...
Nothing is ever COMPLETELY bad and it sounds like your relationship was actually very good...he just wasn't quite ready for that at this time in his life for some reason! Perhaps deep down, he didn't feel that he deserved you. Seriously. Sometimes people sabotage something that is good, because they somehow believe they do not deserve it!
Relationships are so hard...yet, I am unable to resist! I took a long break and it was the best thing I ever did though!
For me, being in love is scary, because I feel vulnerable and I like to feel in control and strong...rational...when I am in love it shakes all that up!
When I look back at my life, I feel that I have lived more than one life in this one, because of all I have learned...and how I have grown! But, you know, I don't regret any of it!

My sister has a theory that goes something like this...'if a relationship ends, there is a reason....and it means that there is something better in store for you'...

That is my normal sister...

I have 3 and the one just a year older than I had esteem issues and did a lot of things that she wished later in life she hadn't...she was a WILD teen...silly me, with my Cap rising..I was always trying to save her from herself! LOL!
I had a rep just from being her sister! LOL!

Talk to you later!
Star

Thank you star - you are a woman with very good advice- truly a gift, thank you. I know there is "someone" else out there that will suit the needs I so desire. I don't regret being in the relationship I just got out of. It has taught me alot - and mostly about me. I know what I want, what works and doesn't work, my strengths, weaknesses, and my capacities. I know I can truly love someone and withstand all the temptations that surrounds me. I know I am a better person. I am not angry with him at all. I do miss him, and hope oneday I will see him again. I think if that day comes, he will see a whole new person, and hopefully I will see the same in him. I feel like I have just completed an emotional triatholon. I LOVE chatting with you Starbaby!

Hey!
Thanks for the compliments! However, I do not like to think of my 'comments' as advice...the word 'advice' just sounds too pushy! They are just my thoughts and perspective...

I am glad to hear you are feeling that you are very in-tune with you! That is so great to know what you need...what works, etc...

Yes, I agree that once a person has experienced a drastic change and new learning has occurred...you almost feel like a 'new' person! Hence, the multiple lives in one! LOL!

Take Care and Keep in Touch!
Star

well star - I can't wait to really start feeling like that "new person". It's been on hell of a ride!

Yes, I am sure it has been a hell of a ride...
The ending of a relationship that means the world to you can be devastating...
But, you are a good person with so many fine qualities...you will survive and be a stronger person for it all...

But, it all takes time...including the feeling like a "new" person bit...

I remember when I was young and I thought there was one perfect person for each of us...how we were supposed to find each other, I had no idea...like pieces of a puzzle that match...we each had a piece! LOL!
Anyway...as I continued to get older and had relationships that ended and picked up the pieces time and again...I thought back to my theory when I was young...
Funny! But, I think I may have found him! Then, I thought...why, why couldn't we have met when we were 18 and 22?
The answer is...because we needed to grow...we wouldn't have made it together back then...we wouldn't have been the people we are today, back then... because the heartaches have made us realize how precious love is and has taught us how to treat someone like they are the most special person you ever met...because they are!!

So...I got over my wish that we would have met back when we were young...
I am crazy about him and being with him makes me feel like I am "home"! Wow!

Be good to YOU in this time of recovery...
Do something fun for you! Take a class...join something...whatever it is...expand your horizons! It will help you meet new people and take your mind off what's-his-name...

Perhaps make some aromatherapy scents and get a diffuser...for more positive 'atmosphere'..make a 'mood-uplifting' blend...
Aromatherapy is so fun! My daughter and I really get into it...we have made bath salts...shower gels...oils to diffuse into the air...soaps (all with mixtures we created!) They are fun to use and fun to give as gifts!
We are going to try to make our own aromatherapy candles next...

Hey...what should I call you anyway? You have never said...
I enjoy talking with you and get good feelings from you!

Take Care!
Star

Just curious...why do you think some people on the message board hate me?
Am I overbearing? I don't mean to be...
Am I rude? Not usually! LOL!
Am I mean? Never!
Do I talk too much? Absolutely! (That must be it!! LOL! Guess they will have to get over it!!)
Later!
Star

I don't think people "hate" you star - I just think they can't handle what is real and true. I LOVE talking to you. This message board has helped me in so many ways. I have tuly come to know myself better and recognize the good qualities about myself. I can never be accused of being "shallow" or "superficial". I have grown so much, and it seems like each week, I seem to grow more. I sometimes feel like a tree that branches keep growing from. it's weird. But, it's all good.
I had a good weekend, and met some really cool people, and what made me feel really good is that these people didn't even know me, but said they felt good around me and could "sense" real goodness. That made me feel good. It's funny sometimes how God puts people in our life when we are down. Oh, am I babbling. Anyway Star baby - you can call me "Buzz". Chat soon!

"Buzz"

Hey Buzz!

You are absolutely right! Sometimes, god does put people in our paths that we are supposed to meet...

I know what you mean about the branches...what a good description of the feeling...because it is intense and sometimes, even laborous!

I know I can be way weird at times...but, in that stage between sleep and awake, lately, I have been seeing the planet Saturn! I do have mostly Saturn influences in my natal chart...but, this just seems wild to me!! LOL! Perhaps, Saturn is my true home!?!?

Thanks for your encouragement. I try not to let the negative people get me down...but, it is not so easy sometimes...

I love the message board and have met some wonderful friends here...including you!

Take Care!
Star

OOOOHHH! I did mean to capitalize God!

I know baby Star -( ha ha ).
I hope you are having a wonderful day. I have to say, I love chatting on this message board. Like I said previous, it has helped me in so many ways. Sharing and communicating with others (like you) has really helped me heal. It still saddens me that I might never hear or speak to him again, after going thru sooooooo much with him - I liked to someday know how he is doing. It will be weird when that day (if ever) comes. Know what I mean?

i AM GOING TO SHUT UP AND LET HIM GO NOW!

Star -

You seem to be very amazed with us "cancerians" aren't you? I find that interesting. We are so complex, and feel so deeply. Emotions run deep here. Do you think dating a cancer is really that emotionally draining for some?
Love ya star baby -

"Buzz"
"vbuzz

Hi Buzz!

You are right...I am perplexed in general about Cancerians! I find you to be very sensitive people. But, also, hilarious at times...

It is a ponderous sun sign for me...complex inded!

Emotions may run deep, but, are possibly not always shown...
Do you agree or disagree about the showing of emotions?

Take Care!
Star

I think the showing of emotions depends on the situation. I know for me, I can get very sad of the sight of an elderly person, or sometimes feel incredibly sorry for people. I don't know, it's intuitive. However, when I am attacked or feel played or am getting hurt, I don't always show them instantly. I really analyze the "whole" situation, rewind it, and then playback. Even though I may look that I am "ok" on the outside, I am dying on the inside. My face and eyes especially really show how I feel, however, I cannot hide it. They are true windows to my soul. I know some are "tweaked" by my final decisions in a situation. If I am truly hurt by someone, I will cut them off totally, go back into my shell, and reinvent myself, making sure never to be hurt by that person again. Some can't handle this type of behavior. Sometimes I do get envious of those who think rationally and communicate, but unfortunately, my heart is what rules me, not my head. Very complex indeed!

Thanks for the insight!

I think for me...ruling by my heart was something I had to learn...but, it is what I do now!

Maybe that is why I feel such an attraction to your sign...I want to learn more!

Thanks!
Star

Well, If I can give you "more" of a glimpse into the heart of cancer, just let me know, ok starsweetie?
And...happy valentines day to you, speaking of hearts!

Buzz,
I would like to talk to you...but, wondered if you could e-mail me at belladonna2111@yahoo.com...
I would like your input on my relationship with my guy...but, it feels too personal to me to post here...
Thanks!
Star